Post # 1
Hi bees, curious to know how your SO/DH/FI addresses your parents. I mean when they are speaking directly to them. I realise there might be some cultural variations to this as in some cultures/countries it’s acceptable and expected to address them by first name while in some others it’s more formal, ie. Mrs Smith, Mr Jones. And in many it’s also expected that they’d be called mum and dad. My FI calls my dad Sir and my mum Miss and it always sounds awkward to me LOL!
Post # 3
He uses my mom’s first name. Anything other than her first name would sound way too formal. We are a family afterall!
Post # 4
@lanibug: Their first names.
Post # 5
Ma’am and sir and by Mr. & Mrs.
they hate it.
Post # 6
@lanibug: I think generally we both try to avoid calling each other’s parents anything at all! Like, I will just get his mom’s attention by sitting closer to her or making eye contact. In a pinch, though, he calls my dad by his first name and I call his mom “Lola”, which is “grandma” and everyone calls her that including her own kids most of the time.
Post # 7
He called them Mr and Mrs Lastname when they first met, m’am and sir while we were dating/engaged, and Mom and Dad now!
Post # 8
He calls them by their first names and I call his parents by their first names.
Post # 9
He avoids calling them anything. He just kind of starts talking. The few times that he has actually needed to get their attention he called them Mr./Mrs. but I told him he should just use their first names.
I call his parents by their first names.
Post # 10
My FI and my parents get on really well; he practically lived at our house for the last two years of highschool. He calls my parents by their first names. For some reaason though, it really weirds him out when I call his parents by their names. Oh well, I’d feel weird calling them something else because Mr and Mrs or sir and ma’am are too formal, but I’m not calling them mom or dad as I already have those.
Post # 11
He usually uses their first names. But if we are talking about our respective in laws to each other then we will usually say “your mum” or ” your dad”
Post # 12
They are on a first name basis 🙂
To be honest though, the first time he called my mom by her first name, I was the one that freaked out because I was taught to always call other people’s parents by Mr. __ & Mrs. ___. My mom ended up being fine with it but it still throws me off a bit each time I hear their names come out of his mouth!
Post # 13
@lanibug: Sir and miss would blow my mind, lol. I would feel awkward. He calls them by their first names usually. He might jokingly call my mom mama [last name] because she was a teacher and well-known for being called that, but he wouldn’t call them mom and dad.
Post # 14
FI calls my mother “mom” or “mommy” lol, and he calls my stepdad “dad”. I also call my stepdad “dad” so I like it. My father passed away before I met FI. FI used to call my stepmom by her first name because that’s what I called her. He makes it feel so natural to address my parents like this that nobody notices (well, my mom loves it)…
I doubt I will ever call FI’s parents mom or dad. They don’t act like parents to me or him and I just don’t think I can do it.
Post # 15
i call his parents by their first name and he calls mine by theirs
Post # 16
DH calls my mom by her first name when addressing her and calls her mom when talking to me.