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Do you/Did you ever fear the worst on your wedding day?? Like your dress zipper breaking? Your rings are lost? Bad food? DJ not showing up? Etc...
What fears you the most that could happen on your wedding day??
That my sister will be high as a kite and cause a ruckus. You were probably looking for something lighter, like a broken dress zipper, but really, I just wanted my sister to have it together for ONE DAY! Aside from her - a more trivial worry is that my acne will flare up and I will have to do a major makeup job to have a flawless face.
My grandmother being there. I know that sounds terrible, but she's mentally ill, manipulative, verbally abusive, and cruel. She will throw one of her trademark screaming tantrums in front of The Boy's prim-and-proper family; I just know it.
Nobody wants her there, not even Mom, but she says we HAVE to invite the GrandMonster...
I perfect 'Worry Wart' like it's no one's business. So I have a laundry list of worries about my wedding day:
- Me passing out at the altar... in front of everyone.
- Me barfing at the altar... in front of everyone.
- FI passing out/barfing at the altar... in front of everyone.
- Me tripping as I walk down the aisle.
- Family drama- when alcohol is in the mix, you never can tell what could happen (fist fights? verbal altercations? oh gawd...).
- A guest or loved one getting hurt or becoming sick during the course of the night.
- Getting my period on my wedding day and dealing with the crampy, bloaty feeling involved with it.
- Me getting sick with some horrid illness on my wedding day. Same fear for FI.
- Ceremony music not playing correct.
Um... I could go on. But perhaps I should stop as I'm freaking myself out even more. 
1. My FFIL can't really speak English, but the more he drinks, the more he believes in his skills. I fear that he might harass people with bizarre, barely comprehensible questions if he drinks a lot.
2. That my FI and his parents, who are flying in just before the wedding, have flight delays or cancelations.
3. That I will get the mother of all cold sores just in time for the wedding.
That his ex will somehow find out where we're getting married and come bursting through the doors at either the reception, the ceremony or both. This is why I really want to get married in Vegas and then return here for a reception.
@trailmix - I worry about that too. So much so that we might not have a dancing reception :(
All the kids acting up :( I love them very much but didn't want them at the wedding. Since they're all nieces/nephews (and not like cousins or friends kids) we didn't have a choice, their parents are all in the wedding. I'm trying to avoid a birthday party scene by setting up a separate kids room, but I don't know how it's going to work out :(.
I'm not worried about the guests or having a great party...I'm mostly concerned about the vendors! Give people a little bit of power and they'll walk all over you. I can see it now: the photographer ignores my requests and takes (bad) pictures of me while I'm dressing, the flowers are basketball bouquets with calla lilies and roses and all the other things I don't want, none of the food turns out well...ugh. Can I just do everything by myself? Pleaaaaase?
I worry that I'll get a migraine :( Or have stomach problems (I have a nervous tummy). And like others, I worry that no one will dance.
That on the day of my wedding, everyone will just not want to come celebrate with us...
Yes! I feared that NO ONE would show up, that I would get the flu that day or the day before, that I would be too busy throwing up (from nerves) to walk down the aisle.... None of those things happened, of course. But I made myself a wreck worrying about them.
ModerenDaisy .. I have the same fear as you. I have nephews and a few other children will be coming. If they aren't allowed, their parents are not coming either. :( I am reallly worried they will act up or do something reckless. They never behave on a daily basis nevermind at my wedding. Im also scared that they will have food on their hands or mouth and try to hug , kiss me ughhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!! I am thinking about doing activity books to keep them tamed for an hour or too. Goodluck with everything hun.
I had two fears and one came true.
One, I feared that I wouldn't get enough sleep and not eat enough that I would make myself sick. And that happened. I had an upset stomach all during the rehearsal dinner and wedding morning. I couldn't eat, and before our ceremony after pictures, I felt faint. I had to have one of my BMs rush to the hotel restaurant and get me a fruit cup. While it didn't ruin my day because I wasn't vomitting or anything, it definitely kept me from having the absolute best time.
Two, I feared no one would dance and the reception would be boring. In the end, we had everyone dancing, but it was slow getting to that point. When people say, "No one will dance at a wedding until the bride and groom are on the dance floor" it's true! Once we started dancing, people joined us, and it kept going all night.
Some of my fears:
- My crazy cousin and her spouse/kids will show up and make a scene at the reception
- Me/FI/wedding party gets sick the day of
- my DIY decorations end up looking really cheap once they're all put together
- the food is bad
- no one dances
You guys are all making more nervous and giving me more things to worry about! I was only worried it would rain! hahaha
My DH had to travel out of the country the week before the wedding, and flew back the day before. If anything had happened with his flight, he couldn't have made it to the wedding on time (it was a morning ceremony). I was more than a little stressed about that...Luckily, it all worked out!
1) A drunk guest will knock create a scene by knocking someone/something over (worst case scenario: knocking someone into the ocean).
2) No one dancing.
Neither of these happened. Mr. K and I never really left the dancefloor and I think that helped a lot.
My fears:
- like miss. kitten, drunken scenes. i'm especially fearful of the best man, who is notorious for being drunk and obnoxious...and this man is supposed to toast us?? Nuh-uh.
- or better yet, my FI getting drunk and making a hot mess out of himself...oy.
- people showing up that weren't supposed to...especially the ones who did not RSVP yet...yeah.
- a guest wearing a white dress "by accident".......don't, just don't.
- people not having fun, dancing, or liking the food.
- drama
it raining- our whole wedding is outside. and that our reception will be awkard and not run smoothly.
RAIN!
our ceremony is inside, but i'm praying for a clear, sunny, warm may day so that our outdoor garden reception doesnt have to be tented. (we have a rain plan)
this is truly the only thing i really, legitimately worry about. everything else i can plan, organize and delegate for, so if there are any problems anywhere else, it's my own GD fault for not preparing appropriately.
however, try as i might, i have not yet figured out how to control the weather. if anyone has any ideas....
My FI just went into the military. He's in basic training/ait and his graduation is scheduled for june 18. which leaves a month and half to be here for the wedding. but im terrified that after all of my planning, hard work, & money spent, something will go wrong and he wont be here.
Me not fitting into my dress! I ordered it online (there was only 17 minutes left, so I made a quick decision and bid!), but it doesn't fit quite right. It's a corset back, but the panel isn't big enough so it shows about an inch of my back on the side! ahh!
My greatest fear is that it will rain and we won't be able to have the ceremony outside.
~Damp, cold, misty rain.
~Someone spilling red wine on my dress. Or me spilling food on it.
~My college roommate getting wasted and being a total raunchbag in public.
~My dad sobbing the whole time.
~Someone dying in the weeks prior and killing good spirits.
Rain, Rain, and Rain...... Since I'm having a beach wedding, the rain would be the most devastating thing that could happen at my wedding!
I'm scared to death that I'll wake up the morning of my wedding with a cold sore or an IC flare up or a cold or really bad acne or something.
I'm worried about tripping and falling flat on my face or somebody stepping on my dress or spilling something on it.
I'm worried about somebody causing a scene, somebody showing up with a guest that wasn't invited, or sombody that wasn't invited trying to crash.
my biggest fear, like many, would be no one dancing. i'm not a good dancer, but i do it, and my FI doesn't dance at all. however, i thankfully have a bunch of friends who are in dance crews that would save the day.
we're not having alchohol at our reception (not allowed on our venue), so no drunken scenes here (thank goodness), but i am super emotional, and i DO NOT want to be that bride who bawls through everything.
My FI has elderly parents in their mid-70s and late 80's and I'm afraid they might faint from exhaustion since the reception starts around the time that they usually going to bed.
I'm worried that it's going to rain--we have a rain plan, but I don't love it like I love our original plan. Sigh. Oh, and. I saw that several of you mentioned you were worried about waking up with a cold sore on the morning of the wedding--this is a BIG fear for me too, because mine are generally stress induced. Hello. It's not like I'll be stressed right before the wedding or anything. So, I talked to my doctor and she put me on a preventative medicine. Once a day, just until the wedding--the two month supply cost $8 with insurance (it's a generic). If this is a problem for you, I would HIGHLY recommend it. It's taken a worry off my plate, and that is worth a TON to me. Just a thought!
I am worried about quite a bit:
All my decor won't tie together and will look terrible
There will be sickness/death in the family (my great aunt died on the eve of my sister's wedding)
The weather
Drunken guests doing idiotic things
My flower girl throwing a tantrum
How my nerves will be on the big day
That I will not be able to decorate the head table
- @trailmix & daydreamwanderer.. i too fear having barely anyone on the dance floor and having my wedding being absolutely boring.
- RAIN!
-) being too cold. =(
- having no one get up for the bouquet toss (thinking about nixing the idea altogether).
- drunkedness.. my FI already vows he will drink, my FFIL loves to drink at weddings, 1 of my BM's is an alcoholic who can't hold her liqour.. yeh.. fun times..
Running late... everything else is okay i suppose.. oh and my photogs plane being delayed by bad weather
Not that this would only be on my wedding day, but I'm scared of getting pregnant before the wedding! I would be devastated. Other than that, probably rain haha.
To be honest, I can't think of too much going wrong on the actual day that would deeply bother me (other than maybe catty remarks from relatives.) I am most worried about something going wrong with the photography and not having any good pictures to remember the day by.
FI and I were just talking about this last night and we both have come to terms with the fact that I am a basketcase. Here is my list:
No one shows up
Food sucks
It's super hot and my makeup melts off and my hair falls flat
I am bloated, sick or have acne
Vendors do not show up
No one dances and the night is boring
People don't like the band
Bad photography
Family drama
Decor looks bad (I don't trust other people to make things look the way I want them to, even if they are a professional)
It rains and I can't get any outside pics of our venue (the outside was one of the reasons we picked it)
People thinking my wedding sucked
I could go on and on. And now I am even more worried. Ugh.
Rain, and we have to have an inside ceremony.
The DJ or Photog wont show up.
The officiant wont show up.
People dont have a good time and leave and tell each other it was the worst wedding they have ever been to.
That someone in FI's family that is notorious for making rude comments makes one loud enough for me to hear and make me feel horrible for the rest of the day.
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