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I waiting to have sex on my wedding night and was wondering what do you personally use and has worked for you- both the pill & a condom?? Not just for wedding night but in GENERAL..
I don't know much at all
While I would love children I don't think I want to get pregnant on my honeymoon! Thanks!
I just use the pill now.
But when we were young, broke, etc. and I wanted to be super super super sure, we used both pill and condom.
Make sure you're on the pill for a few months before you get married though.
The only guaranteed way to not get pregnant is to not have sex, that being said I have been on the pill for years and never gotten pregnant.
Just like any contraception you have to make sure you use them properly for them to work. so if you choose pill go to your gyno several months before and get on the pill.
If you use condom, have him practice putting it on
etc.
http://www.reproline.jhu.edu/english/6read/6multi/tgwg/Tgrh04e.htm
I've been on the pill since 2001 and only ever had 3 scares b/c I was foolish and forgot to take one on time. I've been off the pill since this past August (after wedding, to try to balance my body out a little before TTC) and DH and I have just been using condoms. Both have a high success rate at preventing preggos if you use them correctly. But like a PP said, make sure you've been on the pill for a few months prior to your wedding. That way your body has time to adjust to the hormones. Mircette (Kariva) only needs a week to build up in your body to become effective. That's what I took. Just some food for thought.
If you're sure you don't want children yet I'd definitely recommending doubling up on contraceptive (ie pill + condom). Both can fail, so it's good to already have a backup in use. I've used the pill + condoms for over a decade now, and it's always worked fine for me. I was lucky enough not to have any terrible side effects from the pill that some people encounter. We're planning on going off the pill in January and using condoms + FAM until my cycle regulated and we can start TTC. Good luck to you!
Before DH and I were engaged, we doubled up and used both condom and the pill.
Now, we just use the pill.
That said, the only way to "make sure you do not get pregnant" is to not have sex. All forms of birth control do have a failure rate.
Pill + Condom sounds like some form of torture to me. We've been on the pill for 4+ years and had one scare.
I am on implanon. It works really great I dont have any complaints and I dont have to worry about taking it daily or anything like that. It is an implant in my arm.
@MrsMcGyro: Same here. Pill+condoms pre-wedding, FAM+condoms after. I like to have as many goalies in play as possible :-)
I voted other--we use condoms and the fertility awareness method. Used to use the pill, but I got paranoid about side effects and quit.
I've been on NuvaRing for many years and have had zero scares. When I hop on FI's insurance in May I'll be getting an IUD.
I've been on Nuvaring for years and never had any problems or scares. I would really recommend it because you don't have to worry about taking it at the same time every day. I just have to make sure my reminder is set correctly so I take it out on the right day. We don't like condoms at all, so we use them as little as possible.
FAM, condoms and birth control all in one :)
Edit- That is just my guess for the surest. When I start having sex next week ( YESSS!) we will use condoms and FAM. Birth control pills are great but can mess with you cycle.
I was on the pill for years, but the side effects were horrible (I tried a bunch of different ones), I guess some people might not be made for the pill. So now it's condoms all the way.
No cum inside equals no baby, in my experience. I know LOTS of babies from the pill. Also, condoms break. We use a variety of methods (always at least two). NFP is effective, condoms can work, but no matter what, I always combine these methods with the most important: pull out.
My husband! LoL he is SO careful to us not having a baby!
mirena IUD. I think your chances of getting pregnant is slightly lower than the pill (?) but the important thing is that you can't accidentally miss a dose like you could with the pill. (and I don't have a period any more, yay!)
very important if you are on a hormonal form of BC: if you get sick and need to take antibiotics, they can decrease the effectiveness of your birth control.
Natural Family Planning. (aka FAM, but with abstinence instead of condoms...)
@cbee and @pitbulllover: Do you think that's the best advice for someone who's never had sex before? I'm trying to think back that far (LoL) but first times are confusing enough without adding pulling out into the equation. Also, there's pre-ejaculate and all of that.
@hotchildinthecity: Well, my advice is to always pull PLUS at least one other form. That is what I tried to say. Yes, I think anyone just starting should have "cum-fobia" and develop it now so that they can avoid those risks.
@hotchildinthecity: Yes I do actually! I don't understand why people [who dont' want to get pregnant] don't pull out, even when on the pill or using a condom. Pill isn't 100%. Condoms break. If you are on the pill or are using a condom or both AND you pull out, your chances for getting pregnant are even less. Also, there isn't any sperm in the precum! Pull out method has been shown to work and if you are using it in combination, even better.
@LGenz: A child coming out of my vagina is what really sounds like torture, lol! We always use both condom and the pill. It might seem extensive but it is better than my entire life being permanently disrupted.
I've always used both at the same time. Sometimes you can be sick or on certain medication and it makes the pill less effective. Rather be safe than sorry.
Nuva ring.
I used to use pill + condom, but when I got serious with my now-husband we stopped using condoms. I approve of pulling out as a secondary precaution as well, not just because statistically it's much more effective than you think but because it feels better afterwards (yeah I have no TMI filter).
I have an IUD, it was a bit painful getting it put it but it is definitly worth it! My doctor said I can leave it in for up to 5-7 years, but iv heard some doctors say they can leave it in up to 10 years! I have had no scares with it, and NO periods! I would highly recommend it to anybody, I love it!
I don't know, that sounds rough for the guy. I'd be so irritated if he pulled away the second I started to climax.
We've used condoms for years (I was on the pill for a few of them, but it really messed with me emotionally), we don't use PO, and have never had an accident. We just use them as instructed, store them properly, and make sure we check them carefully as they're going on. I also pay attention to where I am in my cycle, just to know - not formal NFP, but a general idea.
@atalante: its all about control. DH has no problem pulling out. Some guys do. He never seems to mind!
I used to use condoms and had a lot of trouble with them (my body just doesn't like them). So doctors put me on the pill, but I had side effects with all possible combinations (some started only after a year). Now I take the mini pill, and I'm quite happy. The mini pill only has progesterone. You have to take it around the same time every day, but if you're responsible it works just as well as the regular pill.
Condoms alone can fail a lot.
I have an IUD and don't have to worry about forgetting to take a pill. Prior to the IUD, I was on the pill. I used condoms before I got serious with BF's but only to prevent STD's. Once we decided to be serious (and were both tested to make sure we were STD-free), we ony used the pill. Never been pregnant.
I agree with various PP - I would NOT recommend the pull out method at all....there IS sperm that escapes before the dude finishes - this is how a friend of mine got preggers.
Not to mention "finishing together" is the best part of sex (for me), and using the pull-out method doesn't let you finish together.
I have been on the Nuvaring for over 2 years now and I love LOVE LOVE it. I've been on a couple variations of the pill, but had horrible mood swings/depression from them. Will continue to use this until we are ready for little ones in 2-3 years.
I'm amazed at how many monogamous women use both condoms and birth control. Are we that afraid the pill will fail us? I've been pill-only for 10 years and haven't had so much as a scare.
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