Post # 1
I just got married. Around all my experiences, it has been common knowledge that you give a physicial gift at the Bridal Shower, and you give money at the wedding. Now that my wedding has passed I wouldn’t believe how many “Where are you registered?” questions came up for the wedding. I told them honestly I said, “The way we did it is that we got gifts at the Bridal Shower, so there isn’t anything left on the registry.”
I want to get everyones take on wedding gifts. Do you give money or a physical gift?
Post # 3
I always give a physical gift at the shower and money at the wedding.
Post # 4
I gave both .. a physical gift at the wedding and a cash gift in the greeting cards box. The bride didn’t have a shower, but had a bachelorette party that I didn’t bother attending.
it is also customary in my culture to give money in red packets to newlyweds.
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2012 - Watch tower lodge, Black hawk state Park Rock Island, IL
either money or something off their registry…the first time i got married we got ONE gift off of our registry…one…and a whole bunch of stuff that was of no use to us..lots of wall hangings and knick knacks…so please get them something they want!
Post # 6
I used to always give a registry gift, but now, having gone through it, I’m writing checks!!!
Post # 7
I never give money, I always give a physical gift to anything I go to… showers, weddings, guest at a friend’s home…
Post # 8
physical gift definitely 🙂 unless you know they already have everything they need, then I would give money
Post # 9
I never give money. In fact, before I came on Weddingbee, I’d never heard of this common knowledge about giving money at the wedding. Honestly, if people are giving you gifts, you should try to be grateful, even if it’s not exactly what you wanted.
Post # 10
In my experience money and physical gifts (registry or non) are all equally acceptable for the wedding. Couples around here (upper Midwest) often have a day-after get-together brunch or luncheon for the family & close friends to watch them open gifts, because physical gifts are very much the norm. Shower gifts are typically smaller kitchen things, towels, etc., while wedding gifts tend to be china and other, bigger registry items.
Post # 11
Sometimes I give money and sometimes I give a registry gift.
Post # 12
I give a physical gift (from the registry) for both usually.
Post # 13
I usually give money just because it’s easier, but I think cash or a gift from the registry is totally acceptable.
Post # 14
I’ve never heard of this rule either. Most people around here give either physical gifts or money for weddings, and showers are optional.
I usually bring physical gifts, personally. I like putting a big, pretty, wrapped box on top of the pile.
Post # 15
I think this is a regional thing. I always give money for weddings. Before I moved to Maryland, I thought physical gifts (like towels, blenders etc) were for bridal showers.
Post # 16
It depends. I usually give a registry gift (but I never bring it with me to the wedding, I purchase it online and have it sent to whatever address is specified on the registry). Our wedding is in a few weeks and we are getting a combination of registry gifts and money (and so far, no off-registry gifts…thanks goodness).