Post # 1
You know… when you find yourself tearing your hair out, agonizing over something that, when you step back, you realize is not all that important.
I confess: I spent two hours last night deliberating about what folding fans to get for my guests upon my sudden realization that it will be AUGUST and they MUST have fans!
In the end I went with those cute sandalwood ones…
But the point is, IT’S JUST FANS. I could have gotten ANYTHING and they wouldn’t have noticed or probably cared. Why did I get so crazy over this? This is the first time I’ve experienced this during wedding planning. Most things have been fairly easy because I’m not easily ruffled about these kinds of details. Lots of things I just pick something and it’s not a big deal. But for some reason hand fans just set me off.
Tell me about your bride brain moments.
Post # 3
I don’t get bride brain. I get the opposite of this so much, it’s almost scary. It’s like I expect that if I ignore it long enough I will wake up one day on the other side of married with a nice wedding album to look at.
It’s funny though cause I do get this in a lot of other areas of my life. The way I go grocery shopping would weird the F out of most people. And I guess I was like that with the rings, but I kinda see those as “symbolic permanent jewelry”… I don’t get like that about anything that will be for the wedding day only (dress, chairs, whatever).
I wonder if people who are neurotic about details in day-to-day life don’t get bride-brain about the wedding, and those who are more indifferent about details in regular life are the ones who get very neurotic about wedding details?
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I spent forever designing super cute koozies in what I THOUGHT were our wedding colors. (And our friends love koozies so I was psyched). When they arrived, I realized that cobalt blue does not equal teal blue. I’m 30 years old and apparently I have never learned what cobalt blue is.
I wanted to send them back for a little while, but I quickly realized that I am literally the only person who will realize or care that they don’t match our wedding colors.
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
Wedding favors are my nemesis. Do I go practical with beer coozies, cutesy with measuring spoons, romantic with scented candles, edible, or do I just donate to charity in their names. Are they even going to care? Will I be left with a million left over favors with our names and wedding date. AHHHHH I’m surprised I haven’t had nightmares about the stupid favors.
Post # 6
@Bebealways: It’s not me so much but my MIL. Details that I couldn’t care less about she obsesses over for weeks. Really, I don’t care what the seating chart looks like or how tall the centerpieces are. Lay off the twice daily updates about what you saw on Pinterest.
Post # 7
@lolot: omg last night, this was me with the fans, shouting at the computer when one really cheap site didn’t have them in our colors, and one had them but only 5 in one color and for some reason I wanted them to be about even, and another one had like 20 different kinds of teal (teal is one of ours too) and I couldn’t figure out which one was the teal-est…
I swear it’s never happened to me before and now I just think about all those beautiful weddings I see on pinterest, and I wonder how people who plan everything so perfectly down to the tiniest detail even SURVIVE to see their wedding day. I admire the result greatly, but if I tried something like that I think I’d have a heart attack.
Post # 8
Bridesmaid dresses. The ones I picked don’t come in the color I want, so now I’m on a HUNT. But really, who cares what they wear as long as it looks reasonably good, right?
It’s extra frustrating because I have a wedding planner but I don’t know/remember what she’s supposed to do or not do, so I also get in a tizzy wondering if this is supposed to be her job. :-p
Post # 9
I thought I would never care about invitations and I poured through every invitation site I could find (2, 3 times), etsy, anything. I looked at invitations on and off for practically 5 months. I could never find the one that was just perfect.
Luckily I happened to go back through one site I loved and noticed one I either missed or it was new and it was just perfect! So it took me 5 months to pick out invitations.
@joya_aspera: Just out of curiosity…how do you grocery shop??
Post # 10
@kes18: haha, very neurotically. I’m avoiding pesticides, GMO, and an entire assortment of other ingredients. I even have locations of origin I won’t buy food from, so I check that as well. That means each new food item is a pain in the butt to find, but once I’ve discovered it, then it’s pretty straightforward (except that I have to go to several stores, as each of them have some things I want that the others don’t). But it would still be weird to most people if they knew the elaborate logic that went into selecting those items. And since price is forced lower on the priority list (something’s got to give), my grocery bill is pretty ugly.
On top of that, when I find something I and FI like a lot, if it has a good shelf life and may potentially go out of stock, I stock up on it like I’m building a doomsday food stockpile… that always gets the cashier’s attention 🙂