What happened the foetus after D&C?

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Im so sorry for yr loss.  I too suffered a miscarriage however mine was at 7 weeks I was told by the hospital that no remains were obtained however a sample was taken and everything looked normal. My local hospital do a service every three months and remains are cremated. I know exactly how you feel it felt very undignified and after it all I felt that empty. The miscarriage association are good to talk too. Im my local area there is a service for miscarriage rememberance at the local church which I plan on going to. I also plan to put a wee statue in the rememberace garden for my baby, just dont feel I could do it just yet. It gets easier but dont think it will ever be something I will get over. I would check out yr local area or church.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I know how hard it all is. My husband has been great but he doesn’t understand the emotional stuff but he has given me time. I think moving on to ttc again can esp difficult with the fear (absolute terrified more like). I think what helps me the most is talking about it. I see yr from ireland im from the north so not sure if its the same but the gp service offered me counseling however I have a personal issue with my gp who was horrible about the miscarriage I wanted nothing of him not even a paracetamo!! You could ask yr gp when yr ready. I still  get emotional thinking what could have been like I know I would have been 5months . Im gonna say what I hated said to me when I first had my miscarriage but it is true, its such a good sign that you got pregnant to start with.  Learning how to live without it consuming me is my priority.  As my husband tries to tell me next time will be our baby.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

When I worked as a nurse, any miscarriages that were under 20 weeks were also buried every few months. Usually the people got an invitation to the burial if they wanted to go.

 

I am so sorry for your loss as well – I had two miscarriages and it is horrible to have to go through.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

first of all, I am so so sorry for your loss. I have followed your story for awhile on the boards and my heart breaks for you.

I find it really really hard to believe that they didn’t find any fetal tissue. I miscarried at 7w4d naturally at home. my baby was the size of an Appleseed and still in a nickel sized sac and we never saw a heartbeat.  A few days prior to miscarrying, we weren’t able to See anything on the ultrasound. . we buried the baby under a peony bush that I bought for this purpose. It was very very important to me to be able to bury him/her and gave my husband and I somewhere to go to reflect. If it is something you feel strongly about, I highly encourage you to pursue the matter with the hospital. 

If they stand by their original statement, I agree with others that having a small rememberance ceremony might be beneficial. Again, I’m so sorry you had to go through this. It sucks and I don’t have a lot of words of wisdom for getting through it. I’m six months down the road and still Have hard days, although they are getting fewer and further between. 

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