Post # 1
For me, I can not seem to make a decision on ANYTHING!
I can’t decide what flowers to use. What centre pieces. Where to have the ceremony. Who to invite. The list goes on. The more I look the more I see the more confused I get. I’m at my breaking point!
What about you bees? Anything that is just hard for you?
Post # 3
everything is hard! it’s all the pressure that EVERY DECISION MUST BE THE PERFECT ONE OR YOUR DAY WILL BE RUINED…
Post # 4
Its funny, when I saw this thread topic the first thing I thought of was just feeling overwhelmed at times with the research, planning and decisions.
The only advice I have is to get and stay organized, don’t agonize over any one decidions and try to keep it fun. Most of it is, but its easy to go into a bit of a tailspin sometimes.
Post # 5
The hardest part for me is finding time and staying within budget! I am very indecisive too but I have learned to just make a decision and go with it or I wouldn’t get anything done 😛
Post # 6
I’m going to add another hard thing for me… not speaking FRENCH! We are having our ceremony in Montreal (where the FI is from) and I don’t speak French (he does but not that much). So trying to contact people is almost impossible!
Post # 7
Guest List. I’ve been pretty decisive about all the little stuff (invites/flowers/favors). I just make a decision and walk away from it. If I’m really unsure I just show the options to my FI and let him pick.
Post # 8
The thing that has been the most stressful has been planning our east coast civil ceremony. The whole idea about doing a small civil service back east before the wedding is so that our grandparents can be there for it. But my Grandma then decided to get very, very grumpy that we weren’t being married by a Rabbi. And my Mom is bugging us because she’s tired of Grandma complaining. My fiance’s family bugged me a little when we were there last summer and I’m sure they’ll bug us when we come home to visit in a couple of weeks.
But the bottom line is that having a secular ceremony is very, very important to my fiance and has become important to me because he feels so strongly about it. I’m sure we’ll run into this with a couple of smaller things, but it drives me nuts when people don’t understand that a decision is final and they have no say in it.
Post # 9
For me it’s been 1) finding vendors that can work with my meagre budget. It just takes a LOT of research! 2) I’m anticpating a lot of flack over the no kids rule when 95% of our guests are OOT. Currently trying to figure out ways to let the parents travel with their children if they wish but NOT bring them to the wedding. And I’m worried about people RSVPing “No” because of it, and I don’t want them to RSVP no, because I really truly want them there to celebrate the day with us!! But I can’t afford to pay for an additional x number of kids & I don’t want my guests to be constantly chasing after their offspring the entire night or going home early because of cranky, tired kids. Plus I just see weddings as “Adults Only” functions. Sorry. I FAIL.
3) The guilt over not being able to offer an open bar is crippling. I’M SORRY. I FAIL.and 4) the whole registry issue – what’s tacky? What’s not? Rude? Acceptable? Will people use it (we’re considering a honeymoon registry)? Will people judge us because whille we have been living together for 2 years & have perfectly acceptable stuff, none of its particularly nice stuff and and AND OMG CAN WE JUST NOT REGISTER AT ALL OMG PLEASE?!!!
Whew. Vent over. 🙂
Post # 10
For me (so far) it has been music. I have been pretty laid back about decisions so far but I am OBSESSING over all the music…first dance, ceremony, bridal party entrance….We are just about to hit the 4 month mark so I will soon have to make final decisions on the flowers, meals, etc. I am hoping I don’t become as obsessive with those, it might be crippling 🙂
Post # 11
Finding the money to pay for everything.
Post # 12
For me the most stressful part is the initial contact with vendors. I hate talking on the phone!
Post # 13
Money, and trying not to stress out about allllllll the things that could go wrong.
Post # 14
The crafts! Mostly everything else has been cake, but those blasted crafts are driving me crazy. Wish I could BIY everything, haha.
Post # 15
For me, I think it’s been not hurting people’s feelings. It’s surprisingly hard to do. I chose not to include a friend that I had drifted away from in the bridal party, and I think she was kind of mad/upset. I also declined the services of a family member who typically gifts his services to brides/grooms in our family, and I might have caused a few ripples there since he helped with my sisters’ wedding :(.
So for me, I guess, the hardest part is the people! I really, really want to make everyone happy, but I just can’t!
Post # 16
The hardest part for me was planning from a distance and being so busy at work. I was mentally and physically exhausted by the time I got home each day and didn’t want to think about things like the menu.