Post # 1
Just like the title says…I’m 6 months away and 14 days away from my wedding and my family drama has got me worrying like crazy. I’ve got a mom who doesn’t want to sit by my dad (they’re divorced) I’ve also got some family members who are fighting and may not come to the wedding just because someone they don’t like is coming. Ugh it’s stressful.
What’s been most stressful to you or if you’ve already had a wedding, what WAS the most stressful thing about your wedding/planning?
Post # 2
the most stressful thing is worrying.
To be honest, I think you should tell them, well guys. this is my day, and if you choose not to be a part of it because of something so small [ my parents are divorced, took my dad 15 years to talk to my mom and not be rude] then I do not want you to come. You are here and invited to support me, you are NOT forced to talk to ANYONE you dont like, <br />AND because this is my special day, this is all about me and my SO, not drama. <br />there are plenty of other things to be worrying about planning etc, then being stressed about something like this.<br /><br />
Post # 3
Bridetobemay2015: The most stressful thing for me was standing up to my well-intentioned MIL. She wanted a Pinterest wedding on a courthouse budget and when you try to do that you end up with something that’s beyond tacky.
Post # 4
We’re getting married in a private ceremony in the winter with small celebration in the spring. FI and I are so in love and ready to start our new life together. I don’t really have any worries about the winter ceremony. In terms of the party in the spring, my biggest concern is managing the guest list and decorations as I have an extremely simple, easygoing approach to the wedding, which may not jive with my family. However, I know the most important thing is what I mentioned in the second sentence. We love each other, and all that other stuff just doesn’t really matter.
Post # 5
My wedding date is June 13th 2015. I am so excited. I try to stay in the happy parts, but there are definitely things that are starting to become super stressful.
I have a future MIL who thinks every part of our very inexpensive, DIY wedding is a waste of time and money. When our wedding comes up or we want to include her in some part of planning she is constantly “jokingly” saying that it’s a waste, or do we actually need it, shouldn’t we save the money instead. It’s frustrating because my future in laws have given us a substantial chunk of money to pay for our wedding. It’s hard to be super excited and plan an amazing day when someone is constantly second guessing your choices.
I have family members that are not invited because they are not fully supportive of my gay marriage, which is causing some stress with my mother. She is understandabley upset that members of her family aren’t invited. She seems to understand most of the time that I don’t want to have people who don’t support my right to be married staring at me as I marry the love of my life.
I have a sister who is jealous and angry because after 11 years with the same man and two children she still isn’t engaged herself.
I have a bridesmaid who found out she was pregnant before we had a wedding date set. She asked me to plan the wedding date around her pregnancy, and has voiced concern about many things with the wedding and how it will impact her, her pregnancy and her newborn (who will be 1.5 months at the wedding)
I know that in the end it will all work itself out. When I start to get stressed out I just think about all the things that are turning out amazingly. I focus on my partner and how amongst all these crazy people we will get to profess our love for one another and our desire to spend the rest of our lives together.
I can imagine the things that will stress me out as we get closer. I am hoping some of the things I listed above won’t matter as much as time goes on. In their place I am sure there will be many more things to worry about but I am ready for it…
Post # 6
I was most concerned with the vital people showing. They all showed!
Post # 7
When we were engaged, the most the stressful aspects of wedding planning was dealing with my rude and overbearing mother. We decided to elope to get away from her; she was trying to make our wedding all about her wishes.
We are planning a vow renewal with many wedding elements. I am concerned that it may not go well because I have never had a rite of passage go well in my adulthood. I feel very unlucky.