(Closed) What has been your biggest frustration during the planning process??

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: What has been your biggest wedding frustration?
    Issues with future in laws : (8 votes)
    15 %
    Issues with your family : (16 votes)
    30 %
    Issues with the bridal party : (9 votes)
    17 %
    Issues with vendors (photographer, caterer, dress shop, etc) : (11 votes)
    21 %
    Issues with losing weight for the wedding : (3 votes)
    6 %
    Issues with fiance : (6 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
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    3219 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    My biggest issue by far is my venue! within my 1st 3 months i had 3 different people to deal with. And each one told me COMPLETELY different info/ prices

    Post # 4
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    195 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Mine has been with RSVP’s!  People adding kids, etc….

    Post # 5
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    1562 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    definitely need “other”…our wedding is FINALLY over and while it was everything i could have ever imagined – our biggest issue was FINANCES!!! seriouslly we had NO money to do ANYTHING and we owe some of our friends (including BM’s/Ushers) BIG time for just small things we had to constantly say “no” to during the past year and a half…

    we had NO money to even take our MOH and her husband out for their birthdays when they helped plan and execute my surprise 30th last year! 🙁

    but it’s all over and my raise went into affect…we’re god to go!

    Post # 6
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    583 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    You should add, issues with guests! Especially RSVPs and non-responders and table assignments and seating charts!

    Also DIY projects!

    Post # 7
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    6598 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Mine has been finding a ceremony location!

    Everything else has been smooth sailing *knock on wood* that it stays that way!

    ~49 days to go!

    Post # 8
    Member
    274 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Unfortunately, my biggest frustration was with my bridal party. Sure, I had frustrations with vendors, in laws, etc. but the most frustrating and hurtful thing was that some of my BMs were not at all interested in the wedding, not to mention that the one who was (my MOH) moved out of the country a couple months before the wedding and couldn’t come back for it. Nothing else mattered as much or made my cry as much as my closest friends not being excited for me.

    Post # 9
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    224 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    How about the whole process in and of itself???  My friend asked what I’ll do when the wedding is over and I have all this free time again….I jokingly replied “I guess I’ll start planning a baby, heaven knows that process will be a lot more fun, winkwink nudge nudge.”  No, but really, I spent 2 hours online looking at dollhouse/model RR websites searching for a street light that will be proportionate to the bride and groom cake topper.  WTF, me???? 

    Post # 10
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    63 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I agree with elaineathon, there’s nothing more hurtful/stressful than dealing with people that you thought were your best friends and then finding that they don’t care about your wedding.  I should add that one of those “good friends” is ex-bridal party (her choice, not by my suggestion).  The saddest thing to me is that I’ve tried to eliminate any financial strain the girls might be facing, by offering to help pay for things if they could just let me know in advance.  Despite my offer, 1 bridesmaid dropped out, and another bridesmaid is not attending my bachelorette due to “financial reasons” (even though I offered to pay for her).  LAME.  My MOH is awesome though, she currently has cancer and is on disability- she has not missed a single event and you can tell that she genuinely wants to be there for me each step of the way.  Thank goodness for her and my other bridesmaid!

    Post # 11
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    63 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    @elaineathon: I agree, there’s nothing worse than being burned by your best friends 🙁  Super-stressful to say the least!

    Post # 12
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    2058 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    My issue is that my sister in my MOH and has done absolutely NOTHING. It is what it is but it does make me sad. We are very close she is 10 yrs older than me (I”m 30 she is 40) and has never been in a wedding. I guess it makes me sad that she hasn’t offered to help my other bm’s with anything (bachelorette, showers, etc…)  I am not mad at her just sad and hurt…

    Post # 13
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    151 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I couldn’t pick between the top three.  Between being bullied to invite abusive members of fiances family, losing 2 bridemaids and fighting wit my mum it’s just been a total emotional rollercoaster.

    I can’t wait to jus be married!x

    Post # 14
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    2781 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Frustrations from FH’s family. Aunts and uncles who think it’s their right to come to our immediate family only ceremony. Cousins who phone our venue with rude and presumptive questions. Getting the cold shoulder and then being talked about behind my back. Ugh!

    Post # 15
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    307 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Money issues, hands down. Our budget is super duper tight, but we want to invite all the people we love and care about. Not easy to mesh those two.

    Since that wasn’t a poll option, I chose issues with future in-laws. Though that’s not been the most frustrating thing (so far), it still drives me crazy.

    Post # 16
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    101 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    My brothers FI is extreamly jealous of my FI and I. We announced that we are getting married next year, and all of a sudden she wants to get married THIS AUGUST!! thats a couple weeks away… How do you plan a wedding in six weeks!. Also when ever my FI and I are around she always gives us dirty looks… haha its so crazy… But so far I have been trying to set a budget for 3months… its very irritating sense I have no idea what I’m doing or what anything costs.

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