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Nothing's really changed for us. Not yet tho--we still don't live together. It all still feels very much the same, just more permanent and official I guess =]. He does joke with me a lot about how I better do X b/c i'm his wife or do my wifely duty or something. He's not being serious, I just think he likes to say it, but I do it too. Like the more we say "wife, husband, spouse" etc, the more "real" it feels.
Well I know it's only been a week but I'll comment anyway :) We've lived together for over 4 years and we have joint checking and a home together... but even in the last week I feel closer to him. I know it sounds stupid but I feel like we're in our own little private club that no one else can be part of--like we have something that no one else can be in on, be part of, or share with us. Our friend asked us the other day if we felt different and he said not really but when I asked him later on when it was just the two of us he admitted that he did feel closer to me. Calling him my "husband" now too feels a little weird but cool at the same time :)
Nothing really has changed for us other than the hardware we now wear daily and that we call each other husband and wife (which still sounds weird yet). We have been together for about 4 years and have lived together for over a year so we felt married for a while now.
Like hcritton, we too feel a little bit closer. I can hear it in the way my hubby :) talks with me. It's a bit strange and it is sooo hard to explain so I guess we are in our own little world too. Now all our conversations consists of babies, lol :)
It's still pretty early for us too. For the most part everything went back to the same when we got back, but like ejs4y8 said, he jokingly tells me I have "wife" duties now. I agree that we feel closer for some reason too.
It's still early for us too but I just wanted to comment bc this has been the area in which I've been most surprised. We've been together for 5 years, engaged for 2, so I really didn't expect much, if anything, to change. And nothing has overtly changed but something is different!! It's subtle but totally there. It is kind of like this feeling of unity I guess, that just wasn't there before. Even though it was... somehow, it wasn't as noticable as it is now. It's everything from when we're with our parents we feel that much more connected (me to his parents and him to mine, and also I recongize my parents treating him genuinely more like a son whereas they didn't nearly as much before..they were always good to him.. but now I don't know.. it's just so different!) to when we're just doing our regular thing, I feel more connected. We are in the process of buying a new car and it just feels so much like something WE are doing, whereas before it would have felt like something HE was doing. Also just doing things for each other.. we did them before but now it just "feels" different. I don't know how to best explain it so I guess I'll stop trying but for me, there is something definitely different... in such an awesome way!!
we didnt live together before we married so its been pretty different. the first few weeks i was quite stressed because i just felt like i "had" to do everything and every time i was telling him my plans (ie, catching up with friends or buying a pair of shoes, booking in for a massage) i felt like i was asking for his permission - i had to learn its just being considerate and telling him my whereabouts
we've since settled down and he likes to call me "wife" alot - he seems to have forgotten my name and even introduces me as "this is my wife"... and thats it!
It wasn't a big adjustment for us--we've been together for more than 7 years, and living together for more than 2, but I do feel different. I don't know if it's necessarily closer, or just more settled. I kind of feel like we're in a nice little blanket--all bundled up and cozy and it's just us, like hcritton said.
I do feel like it's a little different with our families: not that they didn't support us and recognize us as a unit before, but maybe just the expectation that we'll come as a pair most of the time. (We've just started having discussions about the holidays this year and it's going more swmoothly than it did last year, when we ultimately decided to spend the holidays apart.)
Nothing changed except for now that the planning over, we have more time together.
I'm stil amazed after marriage how we keep getting closer, wanting to spend more time together, check in more often and talk more. We're more trusting and content.
We didn't live together before marriage and we were very far apart distance-wise so I knew marriage was going to feel and be very different from our engagement in many ways. But the biggest things are the emotional, social and spiritual connections that come with marriage and commitment. They keep getting deeper. Marriage is tons more fun than I thought it would be. We live intertwined lives, and I love it.
I'm so glad it was such a drastic change though...waiting for the privileges until the commitment was made really made the significance of our marriage sink in. Though most people don't do it this way, we definitely benefited.
Honestly, other than being called "wife" and having a new last name nothing has really changed for us. We do share money now and have a joint account when we didnt before but thats about it. People ask me all the time how married life is and I say "almost the same as it was before"
After 2 months, we are definetly more connected and more of a unit. All around, we are just more happy and in love more it seems. There is just a settled feeling. It is hard to describe but from the posts above I am seeing that we all know what each is trying to explain.
The big thing I am noticing too is his family. I am extremely close to his immediate family, but everyone else is coming out of the woodwork. He has 6 aunts and uncles and cousins I have met and hung with numerous times before, but it seemed that until we were married, I was actually not considered significant until then. Now they talk to me all the time. I like it but also dont understand it.
It was kind of a slow change. We lived together first too. At first, it all seemed mostly the same, but now, 4 months out, it's really grown. I really feel that togetherness, that us vs the world, and that we're just our own little unit. Hubby says he doesnt feel a difference, but I do. I absolutely love it. I'm happier than I have been in a long time. Not that I was unhappy before, but I just really feel content and settled. It's amazing :)
We were together about 4 years when we got married and lived together for a year before we were engaged. I personally love being married, its not different in obvious ways, but its really made us even closer. Having made that commitment is just a huge mental change, and one I love. The way we plan our future together and make decisions is subtly different, everything feels like a partnership in a way that is different.
Other changes are that i realize my relationship is taken more seriously by others - for instance, at work, I can tell a difference in saying I need to see my husband vs. my boyfriend. My husband also lost his job after we were married and I know if it had happened while we were dating it would have been much harder for him to be ok being dependent on me ...
not a whole lot has changed for us except we opened a joint savings to use for money we got as gifts. i am loving all the free time we have together now that the wedding is over! we're still in the cute phase where we love to call each other "husband" and "wifey" :) I agree with Janna19: I do feel our relationship is taken more seriously now. Like I have moved up a level or something.
We too lived together before we were married. So we had already been through all that which I think helped alot! lol Nothing has really changed..we just still feel like we are still in the newlywed bliss..2 months later : )
The only thing that has changed is my name! lol. We had been living together for almost four years before the wedding, so nothing new in that respect. I love calling him my husband, and hearing him refer to me as his wife though!
I've noticed changes about my way of thinking. Normally, I am the stubborn girl who will argue her point until you change your mind or I'm distracted by food or something shinny (its hard to be stubborn as an ADD!). But since we got married I realized that sometimes I'll bite my tongue to be supportive because its what he needs and whats best for us... regardless of how right I think I am.
I had always been pretty independent, but now that we're married I can tell that my husband is doing more to take care of me, and I'm actually letting him! I had kind of prided myself on being able to do everything all on my own, but I'm finding that it's really nice to be able to lean on my husband.
This is a silly example, but I'd volunteered to make desserts for a friend's party. I got swamped at school and was stressing out about how I could get everything done. My husband told me to stay at school and he'd make the desserts for me. He never cooks, but they turned out great and it meant a lot that he was stepping out of his comfort zone to help me.
We have lived together for almost our whole relationship and bought a house 8 months before the wedding. Nothing huge has changed, but it almost feels like we are more of a "team" now.
Here are my thoughts on the matter:
http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/is-being-married-different-from-being-engaged
We had lived together for about 2.5 years before getting hitched. Our home life is still the same, but emotionally things have changed a bit. He is constantly telling me how much he loves me, and how happy he is. He calls me wife half the time now, instead of my name. I think it amuses him...
I think we are still in our "honeymoon" phase of being newlyweds. We are the kind of couple that bickers quite a bit, but agree with each other on most of the big issues. We'll see how long the lack of bickering lasts!
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So my husband and I lived together (for 3 years) before marriage, had a joint checking acount, and bought a home together. I really assumed that aboslutely nothing would change.
For the most part, I'm right. Funny thing is, it still feels a little different.
Case in point, he went to a bachelor party the other night. In the past he would never call or text me when he was out, and that's fine. This time though, he texted me twice. Once just to say they were leaving one place and going to the next and another time asking if I made hotel reservations the night of the groom-to-be's wedding. I asked him the next day if it felt different to go out like that as a married man and he said "not really," but I think his actions proved differently.
How about you?? How has your relationship changed since you married??