What has changed since you got married? The good, the bad and the ugly!

posted 2 years ago in Married Life
Post # 2
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12998 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

We got married 3 years ago and relationship wise, nothing has really chaged.  We bought a house and moved in together a year before the wedding after getting engaged.  But since being married…

Good:

  • More amazing travels to Peru, Italy, Switzerland, Ireland, Iceland, and Taiwan
  • 2 new cars for us
  • Lots of house updates
  • He got a new position at work and in a new management path now
  • We got our dog

Bad:

  • Well, his car finally bit the dust, which forced us to buy the car, so I guess that’s bad
  • My great grandmother passed away at 106 yrs old
  • We’re dealing with infertility and starting IVF next month
Post # 3
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3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I started grad school and we’re renevating our kitchen! Other than that, nothing lol Which isn’t bad because things were great before and still are. 

Post # 4
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667 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June, 2014

Good:

We live together now which has its ups and downs. I’m glad to live with him but it required a lot of sacrifice on my end: giving up my job and my home as well as my cats. 

We are actually sleeping together now! No more crashing on the couch when I’m at his house!

I got my name changed on all my legal documentation. 

Bad: 

Trying to get this house cleaned and organized to my satisfaction. 

Trying to teach my husband to use the freaking hamper. Less bad, more irritating. 

Giving up a job I loved for one that I’ll still love but pays less.

Ugly:

We’ve got a roommate. I want her out, he wants her out, but she has nowhere to go right now so we’re stuck with her until she’s got a job with a living wage. 

Post # 5
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3195 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

The Good:

  • My husband is a much better hubby than boyfriend. I hardly recognize him now.
  • I have completed college and now I am working in my career.
  • We moved to a much larger apartment in a luxury building. 
  • We have a lovely little white cat.
  • We bought a new car during an employee pricing event.
  • We have decided to renew our vows after having a crappy wedding.
  • We are the proud aunt and uncle to three girls. 
  • I love my FIL, my SIL and my little redhead niece. 

The Bad:

  • My husband complains that I am too distant. I am trying to protect myself from being hurt again.
  • I was hit by a car and broke my hand. I needed physio.
  • I had a benign tumor in my liver which was burnt away. I still have marks on my body where the probe went it.
  • My MIL and BIL are crazy. Thank God we live far away.
  • My MIL is a racist. 
  • We had to leave a racist area. People didn’t like a mixed couple or a black woman in their neighbourhood. 
  • People from my husband’s tiny town look down on us because we rent. Houses cost nearly ONE MILLION here while they cost under $160,000 there. Clearly there is no comparision.
  • I have had to let go of some toxic friendships. I still miss them sometimes.

 

Post # 6
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3195 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

ren89:  

You are very kind to keep the roommate.

Many people would have kicked her our regardless of her financial situation. 

Post # 7
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6740 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

The good:

We had a beautiful baby girl who turns 3 next month. I quit my job to stay at home with our 2 kids. My parents moved closer to us. DH has been getting lots of recognition and new opportunities at work.

The bad: 

DH’s family has had a lot of drama (that doesn’t have anything to do with us). We can’t agree on having another baby or not.

The ugly:

Nothing super ugly thank god!

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