We’ve only just booked our wedding and we’ve had to compromise on two major things (having kids at the wedding and not doing it at my local church because it is “too far”) to keep other people happy. So my question to you is what have you had to change/add/take away from YOUR wedding to keep SOMEONE ELSE happy….
This should be interesting!
@Fizzybee: I don’t want one so I’ve caved on it all. I’d rather everyone be happy with me as I start my marriage than everyone be sad, annoyed, or not care anymore b/c I’ve been a bia.
this was hard, but I gave up dancing (other than first dance and father daughter) because my FIs family isnt comfortable with it. But i am actually happy now because we have chosen a venue that is fun, relaxed and we can have a fire pit and it will be more like a party. Which suits us just fine
I wanted a small, simple wedding of about 40 people. Just immediate family and close friends. My FI and my family wanted a bigger, fancier wedding. We’re having 200 people. Everyone owes me big time for getting talked into this.
My dream was to have a destination wedding in Jamaica. We are currently having a local wedding and the invite list is at about 215-220 people. Ugh
Probalby the guest list. FI and I work at a very small school so everyone knows about our engagement. And everyone expects to be invited. But some of these people aren’t even our friends. One family tried to have my FI fired! They still think they’re coming to the wedding though….Also, I love my flower girl, no so fond of her family though. For the sake of less drama we’re sucking it up and trusting in his parents to reign them in if necessary.
I don’t know. I’m really wracking my brain. My parents & In-laws are paying for our formal wedding and they’ve been really supportive. I asked them who they wanted to invite, they gave me a list of names & addresses and I was okay with that. They’ve been pretty cool with everything my husband and I want, so I don’t think I’ve caved on anything.
The only exception may be our Justice of the Peace wedding: We had a Christian ceremony — my husband and I are “devout” Agnostic & Atheist respectively. We didn’t do it for any reason, and our families didn’t demand it. In my husband’s words, “I didn’t feel like going all Atheist on him [The Justice of the Peace].”
Having alcohol. I didnt really want it. But EVERYONE else did….
@Seashells7: You gave up dancing?? That is a pretty big part of a wedding isn’t it? If people had a problem with dancing they would be uninvited to my wedding.
I gave up my dream of a very small wedding. I have a big family and even thought I don’t want everyone there I know I have to invite them to keep my Mum & Dad happy. It’s not too many more people but if I want to invite some then I have to invite all Can’t pick and choose when it comes to family.
I love indie and punk. But I come from a family of farmers, cowboys and rednecks.
Keith Urban and Lady Antebellum it is. :-/
@chicitygirl7: LOL’d at your “everyone owes me big.”
Hopefully you have a blast, and can have intimate parties to celebrate your next milestones
Nothing. Other people can suck it aren’t getting married, FI and I are so we’re calling the shots.
Amazingly, nothing (yet). I have had it out with my dad about not inviting all his cousins and with my mom over not wearing a veil, and came out the victor in both!
The rehearsal dinner. My dad insisted it be in a restaurant very close to the church, but the church is near a downtown area with a handful of small, pricey, specialty restaurants (like Mexican or a wine bar, and my fiance’s family doesn’t like Mexican food nor do they drink). My dad persuaded me over to his side, but we’re struggling to find a good place!