Post # 1
So, at the beginning of wedding planning, I imagined my dream wedding as a tiny affair with only the very closest of friends and family… and now… I have agreed to inviting many more people, and changed the location from a quiet woodsy chalet to a large restaurant.
So tell me, bees, what have you given up to compromise with your FI/your family? Or have you said, it’s my way or the highway, and stuck to your guns?
Post # 3
My dream wedding was just the two of us eloping to New Orleans, getting married in front of the gates to Jackson Square, and a celebratory treat of beignets and cafe au lait. We would tell our friends and family, here’s what we’re doing, here’s when we’re doing it, if you show up, great! If not, that’s fine.
I thought this would save us major money and be amazing.
Fiance thought this would be great, but we should have a reception at home after. The idea of planning a destination wedding to avoid all the chaos was pretty pointless if we were just going to come home and plan a huge party. Also, there went the money savings. So I gave up my “dream” of the New Orleans wedding and planned a different one.
After going back and forth a few times on what we were actually doing, we have a cute little wedding planned in my opinion. We are getting married at a historic home, and having *tops* 55 people there (that’s if everyone shows up, and some we know are just not going to). We’re going to New Orleans for our honeymoon, and i’m very excited. Everything worked out for the best after all.
Post # 4
A wedding ceremony in my hometown church. We’re being married in a civil ceremony 500 miles away… And it still makes me sad.
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
I’ve given up living close to my family to marry him. :p
Post # 6
Honestly, nothing that I can’t live without. I gave up my dream of having chiavari chairs but I’m still secretly trying to find money to incorporate them. lol
Post # 7
We got the venue we wanted, but we had to give up guest count. I never wanted more than 50-60 people but because of the size of the venue we can only have 40 max. Other than that we are getting our cocktail styled reception that we wanted, married in a garden, with a family dinner afterwards. Ive never really liked the idea of having a big sitdown dinner with everyone. I like the idea of everyone mingling and eating, enjoying the gardens..there is options to sit at tables but there will only be 2 or 3 tables set up( mostly for elderly or children). But other than that we hacnt had to give up much! Im one of the lucky ones I guess ;p
@xlsm: Its nice to see that im not the only one who chose a harritage house! I loved the old time charm ours had and the gardens in the back is just amazing. Are you just getting married there or are you having the reception there aswell?
Post # 8
honestly, i haven’t had to give anything up. we are having the exact wedding we want 🙂 i do wish his family wasn’t so darn big though!
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
Hmmm… I suppose mostly what I’ll be giving up are some of the decorating ideas I had because of $$$. It’s nothing too big though by any means!
The other thing could be the music… FI wants to sit by the bonfire and I want to dance, so we’re sort of trying to find a way to do both without killing the party. I HATE it when a DJ plays 3 dance songs and then one song no one knows or can’t dance to. It kills it. And then 3 more and then boom. Soooo we’re working on that lol.
Post # 10
@myluverbuny: We’re having the wedding and reception there. Hopefully the weather will be nice enough to have the ceremony outside and then move the reception to the indoor areas, but it will work either way. The house is adorable and we’re doing a vintagey theme – milk glass and teacup centerpieces, garden roses, etc…
Post # 11
My FI and I gave up our dream of a northern lodge wedding weekend. There were just too many people who wouldn’t have been able to make it, and it ended up being a lot more expensive than doing it nearby. However the venue we chose is amazing for the style we are going for, so I am still very happy.
Post # 12
@xlsm: At Cafe du Monde?
I wanted to elope somewhere tropical, just the two of us. He wanted a big wedding with all his friends/family. I lost this one.
Post # 13
I had always wanted adestination wedding, on the beaches of Cuba. Unfortunatly I had to let that one go due to both our families.
Post # 14
I don’t know if I would call it giving up but more like compromising. My husband was very involved with all the wedding planning and I loved his excitement. It was OUR wedding and I wanted him to contribute his ideas and include things he felt were important to make our day special. There were many things I had no preference to and when he made suggestions I said “That sounds great, lets do that”. He chose the food, his own tux (I didn’t see it until our wedding day), 2 of the 3 colors of the wedding and most of the music. When I told my friends how involved he was they were surprised. A lot of their husbands just wanted to know the time and where to show up!!
Post # 15
I had my whole wedding planned out before we met, but I never considered using any of it when we started planning, becuase it was so sompletely not him. But I guess, I did “give up” the small intimate affair by the sea with a casual reception idea. But I’m not disapointed with what we planned together.
Post # 16
A destination wedding on a beach in Maui. But my DH is roman catholic and it was really important to him to get married in his home church.
In the end we got married at home by 3 (yes, 3) of his priest friends so it still felt very personal and we got everything we wanted. Except the beach. And chiavari chairs.