- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
I am recently married and learned a lot about registering along the way. We registered about 6 months before our wedding (at the request of parents) at a few different places and I can now look at registries in a whole different light.
Here are my tips:
- Don’t register too early. We did, and a lot of things became discontinued as the wedding got closer so we had to re-register for some of our big items. Not the end of the world, just annoying and time-consuming. If you get a request to register early, like we did, just do some small, basic things and add the rest when the showers/wedding get closer.
- After the showers, take off some of the miscellaneous filler stuff. We didn’t and we got more plastic serving spoons than anyone would ever need (why do people love giving those?!) We did not receive one set of silverware, which we really did need, one pot or pan, and we only got one place setting of China. This might sound greedy, but if people don’t see something that they want to get on your registry they will probably just end up getting you a gift card or giving money, which really is nice to get when you go back to get the things you needed but did not get, so I’d say it’s a really good idea to just keep the things you really want on there for the wedding.
- Speaking of china, I know a lot of people don’t register for it anymore, and that’s totally cool, but I did want some. Ours wasn’t the cheapest but it wasn’t the most expensive, either. Plus it went on sale a lot. We only got one place setting, which was kind of depressing. We were going to just return it and get something more useful but I really did want it so we purchased some with our post-wedding discount. If you really want china just be aware that you might not get much–or any at all–due to, well I don’t know what. Maybe it’s the economy or maybe people just don’t like china anymore but it was kind of a surprise to me.
- Most places have incentives when you register with them. A majority of them will give you a discount after the wedding so you can finish buying things off of your registry that you didn’t get. Take advantage of this. Macy’s gives 20% after your wedding (and they were nice and gave us 25% when we made our purchases) but you only have I think 90 days after your wedding to take advantage of this. Also, they have a program where every purchase off of your registry earns points for you, and those points turn into extra money for you after the wedding to go toward Macy’s purchases. The only down side is that you have to open a Macy’s card (unless you already have one) to take advantage of this. Bed Bath & Beyond gives a percentage off (I forget if it’s 10 or 20) after your wedding but you are also under a time crunch and the really down side is that they send you a card in the mail with this discount on it. If you don’t have the card with you when you finish your registry (like us) then you have to jump through hoops to get your discount. Just FYI.
- We registered with Amazon.com because it was a great place to find all of the miscellaneous items we wanted to register for without having to register at 10 different places. It was really convenient, but I will say that we only got one purchase off of this registry. The older crowd is more traditional and seemed to want to buy things at a store, and I’d say that is the biggest downfall with doing this. It was nice to be able to just hop online and put a few things from our registry in our cart when we were done to finish out that registry.
- We were a little ticked when we found out that Macy’s ended one incentive program. When we registered oh so long ago they gave us a pamphlet which explained that if you registered for a specific dollar amount of a certain brand, you would get a free gift from that brand, all you had to do was send in a paper with a copy of your registry. We tried to take advantage of this a few months later, once we settled on our registry, and were told this program no longer existed and that we couldn’t do it. We were a little bummed about this and thought they should have made exceptions for people who already made their registry while the program was still going on, but we had bigger fish to fry and just let it go.
- If you buy a gift off of any registry, PLEASE have them scan it off of the registry. We got so many doubles because of this. We noticed so many items that were never checked off of it and were surprised by how many times this happened. It might be the error of the sales clerk scanning it but either way do your best to make sure they mark it off of the list, for everyone’s sake. I have been at a shower where the gift given right before my gift was the exact same thing and it’s embarassing and takes some of the fun away.
- I now know what to buy off of people’s wedding registries. Since we didn’t get any of our much-needed silverware, I’ll be looking to buy that for other couples. In the future, we will buy useful things such as irons, ironing boards, pieces of their cookware (I would never expect anyone to buy the whole set–that gets expensive!), or going in with other people to buy useful appliances. We bought our own keurig-like machine from our registry, since nobody else did, and have gotten more use out of that thing than almost any other gift! I will never buy a couple another serving spoon, picture frame, or vase ever again. In fact I think we will just stick with gift cards from now on 🙂
I know this is just my opinion, but I didn’t know much about registering before all of this. Please don’t think I am greedy, we didn’t expect gifts at all but were surprised with some of the outcome. When we registered we wanted to make sure we had a big variety of types of gifts and price ranges, especially in the mid to lower price range. This was great, but if I had to do it again I would probably not register for as many vases and miscellaneous items, I’d stick to the stuff that I know I would get more use out of.
I hope this helps! Feel free to post with your own tips for future-registering couples!