What I wish someone told me while I was planning

posted 2 years ago in Recaps
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Temple Beth Am/Love is Blind

Oh no! Following for when the problem is resolved!  Congratulations!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

1.  My shoes- they were awesome ballet flats with tie ribbons that were dyed blue.  I loved them, but wish someone would have told me that while the shoes held the dye the ribbons did not.  My something blue ended up being my ankles as they got blue dye all over them.

2.  Chances are the thing you spend the most time obessing over is the thing that will matter least in the end.  Hours spent planning the music = almost half of it was never even played.

3.  Enjoy the moments you remember (because there will be tons that you don’t until you see the photos).  I got to wear my dress walking down through the lobby and back to the elevators.  A little girl told her mom that she’d just see a princess (awesome moment!).

4.  Just roll with it and be willing to change at the last minute.  No one was dancing, they were talking instead so we just skipped most of the dance music.

5.  Really think about the special dance songs…did you know how damned long two minutes is?  My FI and I danced for about half of our first dance before we got sick of everyone just watching us (awkward!), embarassed that we couldn’t dance at all, and we called it.  That got the biggest laugh and everyone just relaxed.  At that point we only did the first half of the father-daughter and the mother-son.  Our guests were relieved and had a good laugh, we were relieved and it helped set the relaxed tone for the evening.

6.  Ceremony video?  A must!  I didn’t want one at all (just enjoy the ceremony don’t make it a movie shoot).  We were doing photos after the ceremony when I noticed that there was a small video camera on a tripod.  Turns out our photographer (a good friend) had put it up the camera knowing we’d want it later, but put it in a place where we’d never see it so it wouldn’t distract us.

7.  With a little help from your friends!  Several of our friends offered to help with various things. They were great and it made the day really special.

8.  Apparently it’s normal to freak out as you’re getting ready.  My BM was great at peeling me off the ceiling.

9.  Wedding night sex?  It was all we could do to fall into bed.  

 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

commenting to follow. some good advice here 🙂

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Contemporary Art Center of Peoria

Love all these, gotta remember them. 🙂 

I’m still in the planning process, but I wish someone had told me that I’m going to change my mind 800 times, and IT’S OKAY. I felt like a psycho changing our colors three times, but when you know, you know. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

MissCoupon:  yes. I am on my bazillionth color scheme/theme/vision change! Grrr

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Oh!  I forgot a huge one:

10.  A ‘dry’ wedding can be a blast!  By the day of I couldn’t honestly remember if we were having alcohol or not at our reception (we bought a package).  Turns out we didn’t and we had a dry wedding, it was awesome.  I was afraid that people wouldn’t like a dry wedding, but everyone loved it.  If anyone tells you that a dry wedding won’t be any fun…they’re lying.  People make a wedding fun not the drinks.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Lol Yes number 9 is so true.  Here are my tips:

1. Spend an appropriate amount of time online googling wedding ideas/pinterest.  After that, stop looking, set your plan,  and then run with it.  There’s practically an infinite amount of ideas out there and if you don’t stop looking at some point, you won’t have time to put your plan into action. 

2. If you plan on doing some DIY – know your limitations – both timewise and artistic talent.

3. Only assign the important tasks to trusted people.  If not, just don’t be surprised if that flaky friend doesn’t come through for you.  This also applies to tasks that require specific details that only matter to you.

4. With regards to your dress, have a bathroom game plan.

5. Expect that inevitably something may go wrong.  If you expect perfection down to the most minute detail, you probably will miss out on enjoying the really great parts.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Oh I also forgot about this one – around the time of our wedding, there was a great debate about whether a seating plan was even necessary.  Turns out, the people who didn’t know many of the other guests really appreciated having this.  No awkward “is this seat taken?” for the shy ones.  I also liked that we were able to sit them next to people who we thought they’d get along with well.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

HisBrownEyedGirl:  I’m glad I wasn’t the only one in pain after I took off my dress! I think because I was dancing so much and trying to stand up straight, my back was killing me by the end of the night. Once my husband had my dress off I crumpled to the floor and crawled to the bathroom. It was terrible!

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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Great post, commenting to follow!

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