what if i found shes not virgin

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@rogy085:  then you either accept it or leave the relationship 

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@rogy085:  I think you should discuss this with her if it’s important to you, before you get married.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@rogy085:  If she says she is a virgin you should believe her.  A lot of people can be in a relationship for 2 years and still be a virgin.  If it is important to both of you then trust her.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@rogy085:  Well… there is not really much you can do. If she is not a virgin, she is not a virgin.

I would worry more about the lying.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I think that’s something you should probably know before asking someone to marry you especially if them not being a virgin is an issue for you. You should have that conversation right away.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Did she admit that she wasn’t, or are you just wondering?  You need to talk to her about this honestly, and let her know how you feel about it.  If you can move past it, you move past it.  If you can’t, you don’t get married. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@rogy085:  Is it important that she be a virgin?

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

it would be very easy for her to lie to you and it’s also very possible that she is a virgin despite being in a 2 year relationship in the past. if she isn’t a virgin and she confides in you (and you really truly love her) you can choose to keep her secret and nothing needs to change.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

What would you do?  You honor your commitment to marry her is what you do.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@rogy085:  Then you definitely need to talk to her if you don’t care about her being a virgin or not then it sounds like you’re more concerned about her lying? Which is pretty valid.

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Then she’s probably not a virgin and is trying to see what your reaction is.  If you are going to have a problem with her not being a virgin then you need to break things off.  If you are okay with it then it doesn’t matter whether she is a virgin or not.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

So if it isn’t an issue for you then why is this an issue?

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I don’t see why it should matter, she’s not property and if she had sex with someone before she began a relationship with you than really it’s none of your business.  If it is important to you then ask her, but know that she doesn’t owe you an answer and if she isn’t a virgin and you end the relationship you’re the one with the problem, not her.  

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