Post # 1
I’m a little all over the place with this, I think being at work on a computer… my mind wanders easily… and I get really annoyed about things and start to stress.
She (FSIL) has been nothing but a witch. She is jealous and controlling. She told my mother that she doesn’t think my fiance is happy (no idea what that’s about).
This is the kind of girl who talks about EVERYONE… I am sure she is going around saying my fiance is not happy.
Can we break down what this means?
If she said this to you and you were my fiance’s friend, would you think that was weird?
If she wants people to believe he’s not happy does that mean she has to sit there with a puss on her face and not allow herself to enjoy herself during the wedding or shower or anything?
Do I truly end up looking like the fool in this picture? My fiance is no help, doesn’t want to get involved, thinks nothing is a big deal.
I just want to be sure I don’t have to play her game in order to not look like a fool. I just want to go on my merry little way… and let her ruin herself by talking trash. Although… she does nothing but talk trash and yet still has friends… (sounds childish, “still has friends,” but just not sure how else to put it)
Post # 3
Are either of you unhappy??? If you aren’t then people will notice that you guys are happy, and she is spreading lies. I wouldn’t worry, because no matter what she says, actions (you and FI) will speak louder
Post # 4
I can 100% relate to you! My Future Sister-In-Law used to work with my Fiance (they both worked for his dad), and we had several mutual friends who worked there too.
I came to find out in the last little bit that she has been telling everyone who will listen that I don’t “deserve” my Fiance. Frankly, I think a lot of it stems from her own unhappiness and just plain jealousy that we’re in a happy relationship while hers is not the greatest.
DON’T PLAY HER GAME! I really wanted to: man, did I ever want to….but Fiance told me to just let it be, and since then several of his family members have brought up her comments to me and told me that they disagree with her wholeheartedly and are so happy I’m joining the family. Let her dig her own grave, TRUST ME, she will!
Post # 5
Unfortunately, you are going to have to be the bigger person here. She is the one who ends up looking foolish. I had a very similar situation with my now-SIL, and we will NEVER have a close relationship after what she put us through during our wedding planning, and even now, after the wedding, while she’s planning her own. Let her be miserable. She’ll look like the @$$, and you and your husband!!! will be better off without that toxicity in your lives.
Post # 6
Also – if someone is going to say something to her, let it be your fiance (he might not want to at first, but if it gets bad enough, he’ll have to). Even though you will be “family” to her soon, it’s his place to put her in hers.
Post # 7
punch her in the face
okay … violence is never the answer , i guess be the bigger person is a better option.
either way super shitty situation
Post # 8
Follow your FI’s lead and don’t make it a big deal. You can’t control what she tells people – all you can control is how you act. Try your best to not listen to her crap and the happier you are, the more she just looks crazy.
Post # 9
People who know you and your Fiance,will know that she is talking rubbish,and if they dont know you if/when they ever meet you they will see that she was just huffing and puffing.
Personally I would talk to the Future Sister-In-Law and ask her where she got the idea that your Fiance wasnt happy and why she thinks it is appropriate to tell everyone that he is so. I would also see if your Fiance would talk to her and tell her that he doesnt appreciate her saying these things,as it is not just involving him,but you as a couple.
Then Id smack her j/k lol
Post # 10
Tell her to keep your name out of her mouth. Then, yes, punch her in the face.
That sucks. I think she’ll just end up looking like a whacko.
Post # 11
Completely ignore it. She is being passive aggressive, just let it be. If she wants to sit around being a sour puss then so be it, she is the one loosing out. You enjoy every minute and ignore her. If someone asks, tell them you have know idea what she is talking about. Do not feed into it or you will get caught in the net. The more you ignore it the worse it looks for her.
Post # 12
@CanadianMermaid: LOL I was thinking the same thing (about punching her in the face), but you’re right, that wouldn’t solve anything!
I would just let her keep on keeping on. Kill her with kindness and show everyone how happy you and your Fiance are.
Post # 13
I feel your pain. My SIL (and brother) have been talking smack about me, my Fiance and my engagement. One of my awesome sisters told me “that I should cordially invite them to shut up.” Haven’t done so because I know people will realize that they are just gossiping and not telling the truth.