- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
So, this is my second wedding but the first for my SO. With my first marriage it was a situation where we had a child and got married to “do the right thing”. Well the right thing turned out not to be us. We didn’t have a wedding, or a shower. It was a justice of the peace at his brothers house with my parents and his siblings.
The point being I never had a real wedding event so it’s not like any of my relatives came or got me gifts or anything like that. It was all decided planned and executed in a weeks time. It has been almost 7 years since we divorced and I was with my SO for 4 before he finally proposed in January of 2012. Now that I am getting remarried, I don’t think it’s fair to my SO to miss out on the whole wedding event just because I have already been married. Not only that but I never had that either. I feel like forming a new and happy family gives me something to celebrate and want to do so. It is important to me, my SO and to my kids that we have a wedding.
That being said, I am scared to death that none of my family will come. We are planning and paying for our wedding all on our own and being just under 4 months out I am a complete wreck thinking that we have done all this work for nothing and that no one will come! I mena obviously we will have our parents there and our wedding party but almost all of my family live OOT and while two of my cousins have shown interest, no one else has said one word about it. I have not kept it a secret or hidden the fact that we are getting married, I talk about it on facebook constantly and even sent out save the dates. Still not one of my uncles or aunts have mentioned it to me or my mother. Granted the invitations are just going out so of course no one has rsvp’d yet. I just feel as though someone surely would at least ask about it right?
I’m not expecting them to buy anything as gifts unless they want to, we aren’t even planning a shower, not that any of them would be able to come since they live so far away. I would just really love to have my family there to celebrate my new life with the man I love and I feel it is unfair to not show him the respect or give him the chance just because I made a past mistake when I was younger.
Am I freaking out and over reacting or is it odd that no one has contacted us even if its just to ask about lodging or to give well wishes? Do I have a right to be upset about this or is it wrong of me to expect them to show some kind of excitement for my happiness even though it is my second marriage? Please give my your thoughts. I need some input before I lose my mind!