Post # 1
A month after our engagement, pictures of my acquaintance’s engagement popped up on my newsfeed on Facebook. (my fiance and I worked with her) I couldn’t believe that her fiance had proposed in the exact same place than mine had!
I thought it was this crazy coincidence. HOWEVER, When I asked my fiance about it recently, he told me that her fiance went to high school with him and currently works with him. They don’t talk much, but they did talk right after my fiance proposed to me. Apparently her fiance asked mine where he proposed / where our pretty pictures were taken. He didn’t say “oh, I was thinking about proposing there too.” He just said that it looked really nice. (It was a semi-secluded spot on a public trail next to a river. NOT a place where a lot of people think to propose, but it was very beautiful.)
Both my fiance and I have a strong feeling that he copied our proposal.
Obviously, its very flattering for someone else to want their proposal to be just like mine. My fiance’s proposal was better than I could have ever hoped for. In fact, I am mostly humored/ flattered by this situation. HOWEVER, it does kind of bother me. Like someone took away our “special place.” Especially so publically with pictures on FB. Most of their comments say “boy, did he do it right!” Haha.
A friend has told me off. She didn’t say “you should be flattered” or “well, a lot of people get engaged there.” Instead she said “people should be able to get engaged wherever they want.” I can see that, but I can’t shake my opinion that its a little tacky..
I’m not really upset about it. But I am CURIOUS. Does anyone have an opinion?
Post # 3
It would bother me a little too. And I see what you’re saying about someone taking away your special place. I know it’s easier said than done, but I would try not to worry about it and focus on the positive. Your FH proposed in a public place, so there could be a million other people down the road who get engaged in the same place, ya know? It doesn’t make your own experience any less special though!
Post # 4
Yeah I sort of agree with your friend here….I don’t think there’s anything “tacky” at all about picking the same place. When I read your subject I thought you meant HOW he did it….like said the exact same sentiments. He saw a beautiful place in nature and created his own unique experience…just like you had. I wouldn’t let it bother you 🙂
Post # 5
eh… it’s a public place and it doesn’t sound like your BFF with these people… I think it would be a lot weirder if they were closer to you.
If anything it looks “cheap” on his end b/c he didn’t put a lot of real thought into it– just borrowed an idea that someone else came up with.
Post # 6
I understand where you’re coming from. It’s definitely disappointing because he obviously blatantly copied and this isn’t a stranger that you don’t know. However, the poor guy, maybe he just had no idea how to do it and saw that your FI did such an amazing job he just decided to take the idea. I know where you’re coming from, but I think it’ll only bother you and make you feel like they took away your special place as much as you let it. Personally, I have some special places and I know that others consider them to be that too but I don’t let it take away what I feel when I go there. I think you should focus on the love that you and your FI shared in that place, and forget about these two. People will sometimes just do grating things like this, but you shouldn’t let it get you down or feel like something has been taken from you.
Post # 7
Sorry, I agree with your friend.
I bet you that the two of you are not the only girls in the world to have been proposed to in that location. And I also believe that chances are, the way you were proposed to? It’s been done before.
The proposal is special because of WHO did the proposing to you. All the rest is ornament.
Post # 8
it sounds like the pretty place caught his eye and he decided to propose there. It just so happens that it caught his eye from other engagement pictures. I don’t see the big deal about this. I’m sure many guys get proposal ideas from other engagements. It’s not like he re-created your exact proposal.
Post # 9
I guess I forgot to include that we’re not that close, but we have a couple hundred mutual friends on Facebook. Most of those friends found out about both of our engagements through the pictures that were taken and subsequently posted to Facebook as an “announcement.”
So, within our “circle,” there were two engagements within one month that occured and were announced the exact same way. Does that make more sense?
Post # 10
I see where your coming from about being annoyed, and I agree with Supermann816 and your friend about the guy having a lack of ideas and borrowing yours. And it was also in a public place and I am sure you are not the only ones to have thought of that before or obviously the last. If other things about their wedding start sounding familiar though, then I would then stop telling them about your wedding. Best of luck!
Post # 11
It’s a pre††y outdoor spot. I don’t see this as being a big deal.
It’s not like your fiance custom coded an iPad app that took ¥øu on a custom scavenger hunt through all your first few date locations or something and he copied it. That would be cause for alarm.
Post # 12
@OneDayMrsW: Yes, it makes more sense, but I kind of doubt that your friends are really noticing the scenery–they’re probably looking at YOU. And think about it this way: in 50 years, you’re going to be telling that story to your grandkids. Doesn’t that make a little FB drama seem well,…little?
I apologize if I’m not all that sympathetic, but if I had a dollar for every proposal pic/announcement (or wedding pics or engagment pics) I got on FB that involved the Brooklyn Bridge…
Post # 13
Can you imagine how youd feel if you found out your proposal had be straight up copied.
Man, I’m glad I’m not your work friend.
Post # 14
I don’t think it’s a big deal and I don’t think I would be upset or annoyed. Like, if you picked a shitty place to get engaged and they copied that, then that would be weird and possibly creepy. It sounds like it was just a nice location.
Post # 15
I’m trying to imagine how I would feel if my FI had straight-up copied some other guy’s proposal. I can see why you’re frustrated, but I’d feel worse if I was her!
Edit: Whoops, I’m slow, I guess this is what @aliavenue just said!
Post # 16
It would bother me maybe a little that they’re copying the idea (if they actually did). I don’t think it’s just only for the proposal. What I mean is, if you know that someone copies your idea or what you do, I think it’s commom to be bother by it just a little. However, it’s a public place and I’m sure there are a lot of proposal there. I’m sure not a single proposal there is exactly the same so of course yours is still unique.