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Just take it out of the ceremony wording. That is what we are doing. No one will be given the opportunity to object because the question won't be asked.
I have actually seen this happen, the officiant stopped the wedding and took everyone in the backroom. I guess the officiant talked to the gentleman who then was promplty escorted out and they resumed the ceremony.
I was worried about this with his ex, but the issue has resolved itself.
Wow, that would be horrible. I guess, that person will get beat down. lol
We are simply not going to include that. No one in the audience should attend if they object.
In some countries/religions, that is a mandatory part of the ceremony. If it is not for you, I'd just leave it out.
We are leaving that part out as well. While we were going through our marriage prep with the Catholic church they told us that they have taken this out because even if some one objects trying to be funny or not they have to stop the ceremony and it will be a huge delay.
I've never actually seen this question asked at a wedding. Can you, perhaps, ask some of your bigger friends to keep an eye out for this ex-friend and make sure they don't get a chance to object?
I agree - don't include it in your wording, and if there is a specific crasher you are worried about, have someone in charge of keeping an eye out and removing them if necessary!
I've never seen it asked at a wedding and believe me, I've been to many. I've only seen it in the movies. If it's part of your officiant's speech, just ask them to leave it out.
I've never seen this happen, but if you're concerned, you can just leave it out of the ceremony. We wrote ours and we didn't include it--not because I thought it was a problem just because I didn't see the need. It seemed kind of negative, so I didn't see the point. Instead, we decided to include something asking our friends/family to affirm their support of our relationship. I can't remember the exact wording, but they said "I do", too. :)
LOL @pendola!
We left it out completely, but not on purpose. I didn't even think to add it to the ceremony wording, hehehe. 
honestly, we're not asking the question! we don't care if anyone objects! we are both friends with exes and have invited some to our wedding (odd, but i'm actually now pretty good friends with his ex-gf and he doesnt mind that i'm friends with all my old bfs). but heaven for bid one gets an inch of sentimentality in their heads during the ceremony and object! so we're not even asking if there are objections. heehee.
That type of thing only happens in the movies for dramatic purposes. Your minister won't even ask the question to begin with. Even if someone did object, they have to have a legal reason as to why the wedding cannot continue and provide proof when they do. Otherwise the wedding continues as usual.
While this type of thing did happen in real life at one point (it originated in the Middle Ages), there were no laws set in place at the time to prevent someone from marrying another whom they should not, or anything else for that matter, nor any documentation of such. The laws nowadays revolving around marriage licenses, etc are strict and rigid enough that this is not a concern at all for the majority of the population.
If someone does make a scene, they are removed from the premises.
Absolutely take it out of the ceremony if you can! And have someone lookout for the ex-friend in case he/she decides to show up. That way, you won't have to worry either way.
I have never been to a wedding where that "objection" language was used in a ceremony. I am shocked that people really use it. I thought it only happened in movies!
As the other bees have mentioned you can leave it out of the ceremony if it is allowed. My officiant left it in but I know that if someone would have objected they might have been attacked by other guests. People were waiting for our union for a long time (even before I met my hubby, lol) and they wouldn't want anyone to disrupt it.
We were lucky that we had bouncers and cops in the family there to keep things civilized should something happen.
I've never been to a modern day wedding where that was even included in the ceremony-- I thought that was only in the movies?
You can probably ask your officiant to remove it. If, for relogious reasons, it must be included, designate a friend or family member to sit near the rear and keep an eye out for unauthorized guests. Your DOC, if you have one, should also be on the alert.
I'm really surprised by how many Bees have never been to a wedding where this was asked. I don't really pay too much attention, but I suspect it has been asked more often than not at the weddings I have attended. I've never ever seen anyone object, however.
I was married in a city hall wedding a few weeks ago. We did not see the vows before the ceremony (but the ceremony was FREE!). The ceremony did include asking if anyone had any objections and included the words "let them speak now or forever hold their peace."
Thanks Bees!
I always thought it was a legal part of the ceremony... it never even occurred to me that we could take out!
And I also really like the idea of having the guests all say, "I do!" Something to run past the FI.
I knew I was worrying about nothing... Thanks again!
Yeah, I didn't even think of that part for my wedding. And luckily, it wasn't even mentioned when I had my catholic wedding. I bet if it had my MIL would have been tempted to do something, even if it was under her breath.
I was at a wedding last summer where someone objected as a joke. Luckily the officiant did not take it seriously and after a small pause, just went on with the ceremony.
We are having the officiant change the wording to something like "Do you agree to stand by them and not between them? Will you support them in their marriage and future endeavors?..." The audience replies "we do". Hopefully we won't hear anyone object then. We're still not 100% sure about this part, though.
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Is anyone else worried that someone might actually object during the ceremony?
And what are you supposed to do if/when that happens? I only ask because there is a small possibility that an ex-friend of ours (who is not invited BTW) might just show up anyway and make a scene. I know the odds are not good, but now the thought has crossed my mind and I'm a little concerned.
Am I worrying about nothing?