Post # 1
Is anyone else worried that someone might actually object during the ceremony?
And what are you supposed to do if/when that happens? I only ask because there is a small possibility that an ex-friend of ours (who is not invited BTW) might just show up anyway and make a scene. I know the odds are not good, but now the thought has crossed my mind and I’m a little concerned.
Am I worrying about nothing?
Post # 3
Just take it out of the ceremony wording. That is what we are doing. No one will be given the opportunity to object because the question won’t be asked.
Post # 4
I have actually seen this happen, the officiant stopped the wedding and took everyone in the backroom. I guess the officiant talked to the gentleman who then was promplty escorted out and they resumed the ceremony.
I was worried about this with his ex, but the issue has resolved itself.
Post # 5
Wow, that would be horrible. I guess, that person will get beat down. lol
We are simply not going to include that. No one in the audience should attend if they object.
Post # 6
In some countries/religions, that is a mandatory part of the ceremony. If it is not for you, I’d just leave it out.
Post # 7
We are leaving that part out as well. While we were going through our marriage prep with the Catholic church they told us that they have taken this out because even if some one objects trying to be funny or not they have to stop the ceremony and it will be a huge delay.
Post # 8
Because I was afraid my MIL would open her mouth, we left it out.
Post # 9
I’ve never actually seen this question asked at a wedding. Can you, perhaps, ask some of your bigger friends to keep an eye out for this ex-friend and make sure they don’t get a chance to object?
Post # 10
I agree – don’t include it in your wording, and if there is a specific crasher you are worried about, have someone in charge of keeping an eye out and removing them if necessary!
Post # 11
I’ve never seen it asked at a wedding and believe me, I’ve been to many. I’ve only seen it in the movies. If it’s part of your officiant’s speech, just ask them to leave it out.
Post # 12
I’ve never seen this happen, but if you’re concerned, you can just leave it out of the ceremony. We wrote ours and we didn’t include it–not because I thought it was a problem just because I didn’t see the need. It seemed kind of negative, so I didn’t see the point. Instead, we decided to include something asking our friends/family to affirm their support of our relationship. I can’t remember the exact wording, but they said “I do”, too. 🙂
Post # 13
We left it out completely, but not on purpose. I didn’t even think to add it to the ceremony wording, hehehe.
Post # 14
honestly, we’re not asking the question! we don’t care if anyone objects! we are both friends with exes and have invited some to our wedding (odd, but i’m actually now pretty good friends with his ex-gf and he doesnt mind that i’m friends with all my old bfs). but heaven for bid one gets an inch of sentimentality in their heads during the ceremony and object! so we’re not even asking if there are objections. heehee.
Post # 15
That type of thing only happens in the movies for dramatic purposes. Your minister won’t even ask the question to begin with. Even if someone did object, they have to have a legal reason as to why the wedding cannot continue and provide proof when they do. Otherwise the wedding continues as usual.
While this type of thing did happen in real life at one point (it originated in the Middle Ages), there were no laws set in place at the time to prevent someone from marrying another whom they should not, or anything else for that matter, nor any documentation of such. The laws nowadays revolving around marriage licenses, etc are strict and rigid enough that this is not a concern at all for the majority of the population.
If someone does make a scene, they are removed from the premises.
Post # 16
Absolutely take it out of the ceremony if you can! And have someone lookout for the ex-friend in case he/she decides to show up. That way, you won’t have to worry either way.