Post # 1
Ok, I have three bridemaids all together and one of them is on the chubby size which is fine, I’m not going to judget her…. but when I ordered the dresses online, I remind her soooo many times that please pick the right size as I truely think she won’t fit in a size 4. she is chubbier than me and shorter than me, how is it possible that I fit size 6 (before I start to lose weight, I’m size 4 now) and she fit size 4?
She claim she measure herself and the worst scenario is she just wear a shaper and she would like to set the bar high to lose weight ……. since she insisted and I don’t want to insult her and order a larger size…
Now she back from holiday and put up weight…. I keep asking if she tried on her bridemaid dress yet and …….. 2 weeks later, she finally tried it on and send me a photo of her………. she can’t even zip up the dress, to make her feel better, I told her when I tried on her dress I can’t zip up too (my hand can’t reach it)
Ai… It kinda freak me out and the dress cost me $150… no way I am going to spend another $150 to buy her her a new dress. What you bees think? Do you think this dress can be alter in case she doesn’t fit in???
Post # 3
I don’t think it could be altered… Unless there is extra material… Which dresses typically don’t have extra… She should be responsible for purchasing a new one that fits…
but also, you might get sone drama for calling someone that is a 4/6/8 what ever size chubby.. Just a heads up
Post # 4
@graygodess20: Yeah, damn OP!
A 4/6 is not chubby! What world do you live in?
Anyway, most dresses can be let out a small bit at the seam. So that is probably an option if it comes down to it.
Post # 5
That’s a tough situation. Talk to someone about alterations but she may need to replace the dress.
Post # 7
Woah when did a size 4/6/8 become chubby?!?! However, depending on how small it is, it might not be a problem. If its close then maybe they can let it out a bit, or perhaps she can lose 5 lbs or so?
How does she feel about her dress not fitting? Does she seem to think it will at some point? (ie with weight loss or alterations)
However, I would think it would be her responsiblity to purchase another dress, if she has to.
Post # 8
@gpiglet: If size 6 is chubby, I must be a WHALE!
That said – I had a friend that didn’t fit into a dress, and they were able to let it out and it fit fine. She would have to take it to a seamstress.
Also – your wedding isnt until October, so maybe by then she can get back down to a weight that would fit into the dress. I wouldn’t worry about it until you see what her body type is 8 months from now!
And – the payment should totally be on her – if you bought the first one and she told you the wrong size…that’s her problem. And if she doesn’t get it fixed…sorry, out of the wedding you go!
Post # 9
“one of them is on the chubby size which is fine, I’m not going to judget her…. ”
but you ARE judging her!
Well compared to your friend I must be a COW but I had a similar problem with my size 10 bridesmaid dress. I usually wear a size 8 street size but ordered up and it still didn’t fit. After the tailor made me feel horribly going ON ad On about how “this dress too small” “you too big here” (pointing at my hips) he was able to fix it by letting it out at the seams. Usually you can gain an inch or two by letting it out. After getting it altered and throwing on a pair of Spanx I was fine.
I would encourage you to ask your Bridesmaid or Best Man if she wants to go and get the dress altered or if she wants to return it for a different size. It was super nice of you to purchase her dress, I did the same for my BMs and then just left alterations etc up to them.
Post # 10
@gpiglet: Could you sell the dress online and buy her one in her actual size? Or contact the seller and ask for an exchange? Always better to buy bigger and take it in rather than figure out how to squeeze into something too small!
Post # 11
Seriously, how is a 4/6 chubby?????? Entirely confused.
@HourThyme: +1, sounds like judgment to me. Could have simply said “I have a bridesmaid who is bigger than me but she ordered a size smaller than me I’m worried it will be too small”
Post # 12
@gpiglet: Probably not what you want to hear but, if she does need a new dress, it looks like that one is on sale for $99 right now? Cheaper than the $150 you spent on the first one.. just saying, just in case!
ETA: Looks like you might be able to exchange..
“Products (excluding Made-To-Order, disposable, lingerie items, and Clearance items) with no quality-related issues may be returned for a refund or exchange by contacting Customer Service within 7 days of receiving your order. You will be responsible for all return shipping fees incurred.
For Made-To-Order clothing, if the items do not fit properly but were made accurately according to your order specifications, you are eligible for a free, one-time-only re-sizing service. You are responsible for all shipping fees incurred.”
Post # 13
If you are calling a size 6 chubby you ARE judging.
Your wedding isn’t til October, there is plenty of time for her to lose the weight, if she chooses to.
Post # 14
@KMoon5314: +1 I’d kill to be a chubby size 6.
At any rate, it should be up to her then at this point to sell the dress and rebuy it if it can’t be altered since you told her several times to make sure she measures correctly.
Post # 15
Lady, calm down. I apologize if I offend anybody here and use the wrong term. I don’t know what other word to use beside chubby..because I really don’t want to call her fat or big
Reason I mention the word chubby because size 6-8 is rare for ladies at 5’2 in our race.(heck, I was size 6 too..) We are Chinese and we have a very small frame , women generally range from size 0 to size 4 depends on the height.
Anyways, the website listed as $99 but with shipping and duty, it will add up to $150. Plus I don’t want to mention returning the dress to her because that’s like telling her I don’t believe she will fit into the dress …. so I’m preparing to have the dress alter.. cuz’ it’s already too late to return the dress cuz’ we have taken down the tag already.
she told me she will work hard on it but …. last year she said the same thing to me when she attend her friend’s wedding, we exercise together for 7 months but at the end, she didn’t really follow our diet plan and constantly making all sort of excuses for not showing up for our running/swimming session…………..
I really don’t mind what size she is, as long as she show up on my wedidng and we have an awesome time together. I even told her not to worry about losing weight and she insisted that she wants to look pretty beside me ……..
ai, that’s part of the reason when she pick this dress, I keep hinting no because I know dress with zipper is hard to be alter………