Post # 1
I was reading this post about a wife who wouldn’t stop having an affair and a husband who just stuck by her and I am wondering in the back of my head what he is thinking.
I think its hard enough to find out that your spouse is cheating on you but if they won’t stop, then I don’t get why people would stick around. I think that would just be too much for me to take.
*shrug* here is the original post if anyone is interested in reading:
Post # 4
I would likely stick around through one instance of infidelity (depending on the circumstances of the cheating), but not if he wouldn’t stop the affair immediately, and go to counseling with me. If he wouldn’t give up the girlfriend, I would leave, definitely.
Post # 5
I think it’s crap that the guy says he understands he DROVE his wife to cheat because he watched porn. Maybe he feels too guilty to leave. He’s being walked all over. No bueno.
If there was ever infidelity, it’d be something we’d cross when we hit that bridge. I hold grudges and it’s safe to say I won’t put up with that bull. Especially nothing long term. I know when I’m being taken advantage of.
I don’t need or love my husband so much I’m willing to share him with another woman. I’d rather be alone and come out stronger on the other end than know I succumed to that.
Post # 6
If I mustered up enough strength to try and work things out after infidelity, a refusal to end the other relationship would simlpy enrage me beyond all reason. He should run and take that baby with him.
Post # 7
I am a forgiving person, but I can’t forgive for the same thing over and over when it violates the terms of the marriage…the toilet seat or laundry is one thing…cheating is personal.
Post # 8
No Way – – no matter how hard it may be at that very time, NO WAY!
The letter this guy wrote, WOW – I don’t even know where to start
Post # 9
Why would the cheating spouse want to stay with her husband if she didn’t want to stop having an affair?
I’m not trying to turn this around, but why would she even want to stay??
In terms of the husband, same thing… why fix it if his wife has no interest in ending the affair.
Post # 10
OMG that is nuts. No way. I know people don’t agree with me, but if it even happened once it would be over. I know I could never be comfortable with my husband (if it did that) and always wonder if he was doing it again. I just couldn’t.
Post # 11
I would not stay! How humiliating as a person to stay with someone who obviously doesnt want to be with you! My FI had a litte fling when we first started dating with his “best friend” (which is why the Bachelor Party Woes post hits so close to home!) I forgave him and it has been over 4 years and it still hurt to think about it so if he ever did anything even remotely close to cheating I would leave on the spot…I would also take all his money hahaha jk
Post # 14
i know every relationship is different, but for me cheating is a dealbreaker. 100% the first time. I don’t believe you can cheat and still love the person you cheated on. that being said i have never experianced it and i believe it is up to each person.
Post # 15
ahhhhhhhhh yes I agree, I don’t know how anyone could stay in this situation. i feel sorry for the husband in a way but he must be really really desperate since he is making excuses for his wife