(Closed) What if: Wife/Husband won’t stop having affair

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would you try to work it out with your spouse if they won't stop cheating
    Yes : (2 votes)
    1 %
    No : (200 votes)
    96 %
    Depends (explain below) : (7 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    4765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

    Absolutely not. 

    Post # 4
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    2090 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I would likely stick around through one instance of infidelity (depending on the circumstances of the cheating), but not if he wouldn’t stop the affair immediately, and go to counseling with me. If he wouldn’t give up the girlfriend, I would leave, definitely.

    Post # 5
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    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I think it’s crap that the guy says he understands he DROVE his wife to cheat because he watched porn. Maybe he feels too guilty to leave. He’s being walked all over. No bueno.

    If there was ever infidelity, it’d be something we’d cross when we hit that bridge. I hold grudges and it’s safe to say I won’t put up with that bull. Especially nothing long term. I know when I’m being taken advantage of.

    I don’t need or love my husband so much I’m willing to share him with another woman. I’d rather be alone and come out stronger on the other end than know I succumed to that.

    Post # 6
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    226 posts
    Helper bee

    If I mustered up enough strength to try and work things out after infidelity, a refusal to end the other relationship would simlpy enrage me beyond all reason. He should run and take that baby with him.

    Post # 7
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    453 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I am a forgiving person, but I can’t forgive for the same thing over and over when it violates the terms of the marriage…the toilet seat or laundry is one thing…cheating is personal.

    Post # 8
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    2058 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    No Way – – no matter how hard it may be at that very time, NO WAY!

    The letter this guy wrote, WOW – I don’t even know where to start Undecided

    Post # 9
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    1510 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Why would the cheating spouse want to stay with her husband if she didn’t want to stop having an affair?

    I’m not trying to turn this around, but why would she even want to stay??

    In terms of the husband, same thing… why fix it if his wife has no interest in ending the affair.

    Post # 10
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    944 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    OMG that is nuts.  No way.  I know people don’t agree with me, but if it even happened once it would be over.  I know I could never be comfortable with my husband (if it did that) and always wonder if he was doing it again.  I just couldn’t.

    Post # 11
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    988 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I would not stay! How humiliating as a person to stay with someone who obviously doesnt want to be with you! My FI had a litte fling when we first started dating with his “best friend” (which is why the Bachelor Party Woes post hits so close to home!) I forgave him and it has been over 4 years and it still hurt to think about it so if he ever did anything even remotely close to cheating I would leave on the spot…I would also take all his money hahaha jk

    Post # 12
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    2054 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    HELL TO THE NO.

    Post # 13
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    137 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Wow…

    Post # 14
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    2250 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2018

    i know every relationship is different, but for me cheating is a dealbreaker. 100% the first time. I don’t believe you can cheat and still love the person you cheated on. that being said i have never experianced it and i believe it is up to each person.

    Post # 16
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    4024 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I second Ms Teddy 🙂

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