Post # 1
One of my co-workers came up to me, knowing I’m friends with “C” to tell me that her hair looks awful. She has very thin hair and she straightens it, but poofs it out so that it almost looks like the top of her head is flat and then the sides are straight down her face…Kind of like a table on top of her head.
He said “someone needs to tell her how bad it looks!!! Tell her to get extentions or something” I’ve noticed it too, but she’s been styling her hair like this for 5 years and I don’t want to hurt her feelings by saying anything.
So do you just leave her to look bad? Or do you say something? And if so, what the heck do you say?!
Post # 3
If it has been like that for 5 years I would assume that is how she likes it and I wouldn’t say anything.
Post # 4
Yeah, it’s really none of y’alls business how she wants to style her hair.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t say anything unless she were to ask for hair styling advice.
Post # 6
Of course no one should say anything, that would be horribly rude. It’s not like she’s walking around with underwear stuck to her pants or something, she presumably owns a mirror and does her hair like this intentionally for whatever reason.
Post # 7
As someone with chronically bad hair I would be severely annoyed if someone tried to tell me how to deal with it. Unless she ask, mind your own business.
Post # 8
You could always say something like “I got this new curling iron and I love it, your hair would look so cute curled.” but I would never tell her the way she styled her hair was bad.
Post # 9
Okay good to know everyone. Sometimes it’s hard to know what girls would like to be told about ie: if you have food in your teeth or your fly is undone. Some people like to be told, and some don’t! I’m not overly sensitive about my looks so I appreciate it when something is “wrong” with my appearence and someone speaks up, but I see that it could be hurtful to some people to hear things about themselves.
Post # 10
@McFierce: That’s a good suggestion. I’ve never seen her with curled hair before so it would be something to suggest.
Post # 11
Unless she’s walking around flashing her backside, boobs, wearing innappropriate clothes to work, or has hygiene issues I don’t think it is for anyone to tell anyone how to do thier hair.
Post # 12
@McFierce: I think this is a much better idea! Telling her that a style would look good on her is much better than telling her that her current style is awful!
Post # 13
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Maybe if you were in the lunch room, thumbing through People magazine, you could say-“How do think my hair would look if I styled it like this photo?”
“Oh, I really like this hair style on Michelle Williams- I think this would look really cute on you!” Very casual.
Post # 14
I think that’s the sort of thing where, as a friend, you don’t tell her unless she asks. Only sisters/moms/SOs have the right to randomly tell her it’s bad.
Post # 15
@rebwana: Good suggestion, thank you!
Post # 16
I think I’d cry if someone said my hair looked bad and I wore it the same way for 5 years. I’d feel like everyone has always been talking about me and judging me. I wouldn’t be comfortable at all. I’d rather live in a blissfully unaware world where I know my hair isn’t perfect but it’s not like people walk up to me and say ‘what is wrong with your hair’ ya know what I mean?