Post # 1
Hey all… I’m getting closer to being an engaged bee, but I have been having bad dreams lately! I’ve been dreaming that he picked out a ring that I just HATED and I couldn’t tell him. Has this happened to anyone in real life?
I know the ring isn’t why people get engaged, but we went ring shopping, and I picked a couple out. Of course you start to think about that on your hand… I think the fear of not having control over what he chooses is scaring me. My guy loves surprises so I think what’s making me nervous is that he’ll go completely out on a limb and get something as a “surprise”.
Bless his heart, he tried on Christmas to get me a ring and it was not something I’d ever wear, so we took it back and got something different… BUT an engagement ring is a whole different story! Haha anyone else have this fear??
Post # 3
I definitely have this fear! I found a ring I loved and showed my SO, but he was a bit sad because evidently he was more attached to picking it himself than I’d ever realized! We’re not very traditional so this was very surprising, I didn’t think he cared! He’s usually pretty derisive of jewelry or “frivolous” things, lol. I will of course appreciate whatever he picks on a sentimental level, but in all honesty, I fully expect to be aesthetically underwhelmed. How we solved this is that I’m getting my choice as an anniversary ring (it’s very inexpensive) and he will continue to look for an e-ring on his own. Then, I can wear the two I end up with however I want: on different days, on different hands, whatever.
Post # 4
That’s a good compromise! I think every girl would be okay with whatever they ended up getting. But I think it’d also be normal to be a little bummed if you didn’t like it, or it wasn’t something you’d pick out. Such a hard line because it’s not that the ring is WHY you’re getting married, but it’s definitely something you wear daily and have to live with 🙂