What if you recognized someone here?

posted 2 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
Member
7262 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

I probably wouldn’t say anything unless it was someone I know well.

This can be avoided by not posting photos of yourself/SOs/pets/etc and personal stories.

Post # 3
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4483 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I believe someone here is my friend on My Fitness Pal (who I didn’t add through here), but that’s as far as I go with “knowing” someone. If someone knew me, the worst they’d know is that I get frustrated with my inlaws sometimes, and most people who have met my inlaws could guess that, lol. They are great people but not the most easy going.

Post # 4
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5222 posts
Bee Keeper

I guess it just depends on if it matters to you or not. I wouldn’t really care if someone “found” me on here, but I also try not to bash my family and friends online! Most people just move along unless you’re the type of poster who has constant meltdowns and divulges a lot of personal and identifying information.

Post # 5
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4147 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I do know someone on here IRL, but she already knows most of the personal things I talk about on here, especially about TTC.  I’d probably keep it to myself if I figured it out, because I also may not want them reading about my stories either.

Post # 6
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8720 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I don’t talk negatively about my friends or people around me on here so I have no worries. I don’t care if someone I knew saw me on here or said something to me. I guess I don’t see what the big deal is but some bees overshare so I can see why they may have an issue or if they don’t want people seeing their wedding details (who cares).

Post # 7
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2197 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I wouldn’t care if someone knew me. I’m open and honest about everything and don’t ever post any offensive vents or anything like that. 

Post # 8
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1158 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

feelingfriendless1:  agree with the two posters above me…what does it matter? I just make sure to not behave here differently than I would in real life so I wouldn’t care one way or the other. Unless you are oversharing, ranting/being nasty, or lying/misrepresenting yourself, I don’t see why it would ever be a problem to be recognized. 

Post # 9
Member
5228 posts
Bee Keeper

feelingfriendless1:  You really do need to be careful about what you put on here. I try to never post things that I would care about anyone IRL knowing, and I try to NEVER post identifying info(I suppose that someone could recognize me through my dogs now that I think about it). I do think this is a great place to get advice, but anonymous throw away accounts are better for advice about personal stuff I think. The sad thing is, for the 99.9% of awesome people on here, there is that .1% that isn’t great. There have been people who have had their Facebooks located and people in their lives contacted by people from this sight. It happens. 

If I thought I recognized somebody, I’d probably send them an PM. I’d have to be pretty sure about it though.

Post # 10
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3201 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

feelingfriendless1:  I’m much more aware of what I’m posting on here. If I saw someone I knew, I probably wouldn’t say anything. Everyone has a right to a little anonymity. 

Post # 11
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2826 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

feelingfriendless1:  I would send them a creepy PM, of course. Isn’t that what everyone does? lol

Post # 12
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4639 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

feelingfriendless1:  I don’t have a concern about someone knowing me in real life. I don’t use this as a place to air my dirty laundry and I don’t say anything that could come back to bite me in the ass. I’m the same person I am here as I am in my regular life so it wouldn’t be a problem for me.

Post # 13
Member
1473 posts
Bumble bee

I didn’t register during my wedding planning for this reason. I didn’t want my wedding details to give away my identity. TTC is different since no one in real life really knows or plans. 

MrsMeowton:  but not telling the person is ruining their anonymity as well, isn’t it? I would probably tell the person so they know they aren’t being as anonymous as they may think.

I’d feel bad if they ending up posting something really personal and I read it knowing who they were. Los of people post personal things about miscarriages, or health issues,  family issues, etc. It seems wrong and creepy to not tell a friend you know them and be able to read about their personal feelings in secret.

I think a good friend would tell you right away. 

Post # 14
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3201 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

MrsCallalily:  In that case, you’re definitely correct. I wasn’t looking at it from that angle. You should totally tell the person so they can change their name, etc. 

Post # 15
Member
1473 posts
Bumble bee

It’s totally different if the person is posting pics of themselves though. (Not trying to be anonymous) But I would probably still say something. 

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