Post # 1
Okay so my best friend (who is one of my bridesmaids) is expecting her second baby any day now. They are going to be surprised by the sex and when I asked her a few weeks ago if they had picked out names I was SHOCKED to hear that if it was a girl they would be naming her Scarlett…which has been the name I’ve wanted to use since I was old enough to speak…and she knows this. At first I shrugged it off and said it’s cool, I mean hey…I don’t own the name and it’s not like we’re five years old. I jokingly said something along the lines of “well I hope you’re cool with two Scarlett’s in your life one day!” No need to fight over a name especially since I’m not even married yet, much less expecting a daughter, right? Plus, I don’t even know that she’ll give birth to a girl! She didn’t even seem that attached to the name, but said that her husband has always liked it. However, the more and more I think about it, the more I know it will CRUSH me if she has a girl and names her Scarlett 🙁
How would you ladies take it if your bff “stole” (man I feel like a five year old saying that) your name?
Post # 3
Been there and done that.
I always wanted the name Jacey for a girl. I said it passing to my cousin. My cousin then used it for her Boys name. I was a little peeved by it all, but Im like, Im not even ready to have kids yet so why am I worrying!
You could always use it as a middle name? :S It sucks but it isnt the end of the world 🙂
Post # 4
Jacey is TOTALLY a cute girl name! Please tell me she at least spelled it differently for a little boy?
Post # 5
nope.. totally used the spelling and all. boo huh! Poor kid, I think he will revert to spelling his name JC bit more manly 😛
Post # 7
My BFF doesn’t want to have kids. But yeah, I admit I was a bit crushed when I heard that FH’s cousin and wife named their second girl Sonia Marie and I’ve been wanting to name my child Marie for years. But oh well. At least it’s a second name.
Post # 8
I am a part of two camps, 1. it is a free country, so they can name their baby what they want and 2. I would definitely be peeved but only if I was expecting. My hubby and I have chosen a name for our DD and for quite some time we were so worried about someone taking it that we refused to “release” the name especially since I have 3 cousins due in May & June and all expecting girls, right before me. But we have come to the point where we just don’t care too much about it. If someone would take the name (it’s pretty unique so if someone chose it, they really would have “stolen” it), we would still give our DD that name because that is the name we chose. I am not going to change the name of our daughter because someone else had a lack of creativity and noone “owns” a name anyway. Plus we came up with a plan, lol… The name will be released at the shower and there will be a lot of people there (my family is huge) so if someone took the name, many people would know where it originated from, that’s for sure.
Post # 9
I would be upset. But you can’t stop her…so maybe talk to her, let her know your concerns, and if she doesn’t seem like she will back down easily, let it go. Not much you can do, cause, like you said in your poll, it’s a free coutry.
Post # 10
I wish you had another option in the poll 🙂 Yes I would def be upset/disappointed but also think there’s no ‘claiming’ of names. There’s a strong chance you guys won’t always live in the same area too and then it REALLY won’t matter.
Post # 11
yeah – i may be in the minority – but i’d be crushed. i’m not going to lie…course in my situation – the name I have picked out is my great aunt/godmother’s name – and it’s a family name. my bff would never use it – but if she did I would be upset.
btw – the name is Polish and it’s “Casimira” – the female version of “Casimir” (my great-aunt’s grandfather/my great-great grandfather…) but my aunt always went by “Kay” and I never even knew her “real” name until after she’d died and I found all of her old paperwork when I was doing my geneaology…
but yeah – we are going with “Casimera Suzanne” – my husband’s real mom’s name was suzanne. 🙂
Post # 12
I would be upset and I learned to keep my mouth shut. But who knows you may change your mind or find a name you like even more. I learned this the hard way with my wedding talking out of excitement and my FSIL who wasn’t even engaged when I started planning my wedding had a shot gun wedding and took every detail I had mentioned.
My FI and I have already decided on girls names (we can’t decide on a boys name) and have vowed to not tell anyone the name evern when I am pregnant. People will learn our baby’s name when they arrive at the hospital. Also my FMIL has this thing of telling me a horror story of every child who has had any name I mention (she used to me an ER nurse)
Post # 13
I’d be pretty crushed too actually. I know, I know, its just a name, you can’t claim it. But if you’ve told someone about your plan to use a name, I feel its off limits! It’s a respect thing I guess. My closest friends and I have all discussed what our childrens names will be, and we’ve said YOU CAN’T HAVE IT, jokingly… but not really lol.
Guess I’m a 5 year old 🙂
Post # 14
I’d be bothered too!! My MOH and I have discussed names and I guess there is always that implicit understanding that you won’t “steal” the name from someone else. Although I do think there is a difference depending on how common the name is. I mean if you want to name your daughter Jennifer… well thats pretty common. But Casimira is not. Scarlett… I dunno. Falls in the middle. I’d still be peeved though 🙂
Post # 15
I would be upset, but there’s really nothing you can do. I am sure that your bff KNEW that you had “dibs” on the name when she and her husband chose it. I also have a senaking suspician that her husband only liked the name after she put it on the table as one of the choices. You can talk to her about how much you really wanted the name and see if that sways her but other than that….it’s out of your control.
Post # 16
I would be mad. My sister’s friend did this to her. they haven’t talked since.