What if your dream shoes made you his height? or taller?

posted 4 years ago in Shoes
  • poll: How much would you let your groom's height affect your shoe choice?
    It wouldn't affect my shoe choice at all : (22 votes)
    36 %
    I don't feel comfortable being taller than him in heels : (28 votes)
    46 %
    I'm already taller than him, and I don't want shoes that emphasize that even more : (4 votes)
    7 %
    I don't feel comfortable being the same height as him in heels : (6 votes)
    10 %
    Other : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    503 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I’m wearing flats for the ceremony and everything but I bought a pair of really awesome purple heels that I will wear for any pictures that show my shoes, haha. So as far as pictures are concerned I will have worn really awesome purple heels but in reality I’m wearing flats so I’ll be shorter than FH.

    Post # 4
    5758 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @lovelyduckie:  I probably wouldn’t wear like 8 inch heels so I was towering over him, but I think a couple of inches is fine. I often wear 4-5 inch heels when we go out which put me at about his height/slightly taller and I don’t think it looks weird at all. 

    Post # 5
    647 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    There wasn’t a suitable option in the poll for me. I’m half an inch shorter than FI, so unless I wear flats I’ll be as tall/taller than him. I plan on wearing a very low heel. 


    Post # 6
    1566 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’m SHORT, so my shoes were HIGH.. I was still shorter than DH.. I wish I had shoes that would make me his height! I’d wear them ALL.THE.TIME!

    Post # 7
    1418 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I had shoes custom made to make sure they were what I wanted but not taller than him. I loved them, but honestly if I needed to cut costs anywhere on my wedding, that’s the first thing I’d cut, you didn’t see them at all all night with a floor length gown, it was a huge waste of money and I like the aesthetic of our height difference better when I’m wearing flats. It’s not at all tragic (we looked fine and I could afford the shoes), but it’s literally the only thing I would bother changing if I could go back in time, nobody sees your shoes, not a single person noticed or commented on them until they saw the pictures that specifically showed them off (so beyond not worth it), they didn’t even notice them when I was up in the air on a chair for the hora. People aren’t looking at your feet at a wedding. Save your money, be comfortable, and have a nicer height difference if you can. That’s just my personal opinion though.

    Post # 8
    10369 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Not at all.

    I am 6’1″, he is 6’1″ already. Nobody is going to be looking at you and thinking “Wow, she’s an inch taller than him, their relationship is a sham”. Just wear the shoes.

    It always makes me laugh when women who haven’t dealt with being super tall their whole lives have this hang up.

    Post # 9
    9696 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @lovelyduckie:  I wouldn’t want to be taller or the same height as my FI and it would absolutely impact my shoe choice. He’s a giant though, so I don’t think I have to worry. If I was taller than him, I’d call myself an amazon.

    Post # 10
    8476 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I’d have to wear 7″+ heels for us to even be the same height lol.  I like wearing heels, but I’m definitely not graceful enough for that.  However, considering I would only date guys that were 6’+ (yep, I’m that superficial), I don’t think I would want to wear something that would make me tower over my guy.  This is a personal preferrence though, and it doesn’t make me think other couples that do this are any less adorable together.

    Post # 11
    907 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Those shoes are beautiful! Wow! Please don’t be second-guessing those. They’re too perfect not to wear.

    In terms of height… I’m unqualified to chime in on this one. I’m 10 inches shorter than FI. *sigh* Hypothetically, I would say groom’s height wouldn’t affect my shoe choice. They’re my shoes, dang-it!

    Post # 12
    1328 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    FI and I are the same height.  I plan on wearing flats or low wedges just because I like them.  Even without the heel I’ll have my hair up, veil with some poof, so I’m sure I’ll look a bit taller than him.  I probably wouldn’t wear tall heels and tower over him mostly because I never do that so it would be stange.

    Post # 13
    1853 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Most shoes I wear make me the same height as FI in shoes. If he was barefoot, I’d be slightly taller. It doesn’t bother me, it’s actually nice to be face-to-face with him. However, I wouldn’t wear shoes that make me taller than him in his shoes. I can’t say for sure if it’s really because of my feelings about our heights, or because shoes that tall would be uncomfortable and I know he would prefer to not be shorter. 

    Post # 14
    899 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @crayfish:  I still get a bit hung up on it occasionally, but I will be towering over my 5’10” OH with my 5’11.5″ height and my almost 3″ heels 🙂

    Post # 15
    5600 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I’m very tall, and only an inch shorter than DH.  On the regular day to day I have no problem rocking heels around him.  But on my wedding day I didn’t want that, so I chose my shoes with that in mind.

    Post # 16
    2566 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I’m already almost 4″ taller than FI.  I love heels and wear them whenever I dress up.  Neither of us has any insecurities about me being taller.  It is a non-issue.  Personally, I don’t even understand the “man has to be taller, so the woman can’t wear heels” mentality.

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