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I voted "no", but truthfully I might be pursuaded. Maybe. :) I'm not going to have that problem, though, because I'm on the pill. Coincidentally the timing is right so I won't be getting it anywhere near the wedding or honeymoon, but if I were I would just skip the inactive pills so I didn't get it. I'd do it one or two cycles before the wedding just to make sure I wouldn't have spotting during the wedding/honeymoon, though. I've done it before and have even been on Seasonale, which gives you your period every 3 months, and Depo, during which I didn't get my period at all. There's no harm in it. In fact, we have many more periods in our lifetime than our ancestors did due to health advances and lifestyle changes!

However, if you can't do that you can try the menstrual cup... Help! I can't remember the name of it, now, but there's one type that allows you to have sex while you're using it.

ETA: It's the Instead cup that says you can have sex while using it.

I'm totally going to have mine. I just hope I'm not on day 3 or 4 when I wed, those tend to be the worst days for me. We won't be doing anything that night, but maybe a couple days later when it slows down.

I am not a fan of birth control at all. It is just too unnatural and there are so many women who have problems conceiving after having been on the pill for an extended period of time.

What you're experiencing is common--but not normal! You should actually look into making changes in your diet. Diet actually plays a huge role in menstruation and cramps (just like women who are malnourished or anorexic stop getting their periods). For me, I removed all animal products from my diet for a period of time... without the added hormones my periods suddenly became light, pain-free and regular. I added some fish and dairy (hormone free) back into my diet and have been fine for years. My periods usually only last 2-3 days and I no longer suffer those horrible pains and symptoms I had for so many years.

I'm not saying became veg. if you don't want to. But you should limit the animal products you do consume and only buy those that are not commercial. It may make a huge difference in your symptoms. I don't think people are aware how much hormones and other junk are in animal products these days. The encouragement to drink MILK for calcium is the reason why so many girls these days are developing early (and subsequently getting all kinds of cancers associated with early menstruation, etc)

I hope you'll give it a try (before going on pills) they have far too many negative side effects. I used to suffer for years with severe menstrual symtpoms..it is misery!

I voted for "it depends on him" but in all honesty it better be YES!!!! before him I'd never really been with anyone that period-ness grossed out, if I was feeling okay then we had sex.  FI is weird about some things, and has some weird body issues? I guess you could say, he's a very private person when it comes to body functions and for some reason period blood freaks him out.

We've had period sex in the shower a few times with decent results for both of us, and that makes the most sense to me! Sexy shower sex is awesome! But, now that we're more comfortable with each other I usually say "I think it's done" and then we have sex, afterwards he realizes it wasn't really "done" and it's no big deal, a little soap and water and we're good and nobody died a horrible bloody death like he apparently assumed would happen if we had sex when I was on my period. HOWEVER I do have pretty light periods after the first day. And the first day I don't want anything near  me anyway so it's not a huge deal for us.

On the vicodin and the lady doctor issue. I have to agree, not so much to freak you out, but you should go to your midwife or doctor and explain everything. IF you have already done this, try a different provider. A midwife might be able to help you with herbal things that can make your hormones and your period more bearable.

Yes, I talked to my GYN about safely altering my cycle using my BC pills, since we're doing destination and will be gone a total of 2 weeks. I highly recommend - why even worry about it if you don't have to!

I was on the last day of my period on our Wedding Day.  My bridesmaids were mortified when they saw me heading to the bathroom with a tampon before I put on my dress.  I planned my wedding for the middle of the month and I NEVER get it then so I thought I would be safe but stuff happens . ..

Personally, the "nasty time" sex is so out for us.  My DH would barf.

We both ended up falling asleep in our clothes the night of our wedding . . . Woke up the next morning and took care of things! 

But if the night is that important go to your OBGYN and get the pill.  IF nothing else take it for a couple of months before the big day and you can go off of it after the fact.

I vote birth control! I tried all kinds and didn't like taking it long term, but I do plan on taking it for a little while and timing it so that I don't get my period on my wedding night or on my honeymoon.

Well we do it while on period anyway..So of course we would. Little bit dissapointing but I wouldn't worry about it.

I'm super surprised people don't, you just don't do it for a whole week every month?

It's never been a big deal for us,never looks like a murder scene or anything afterwards.

Mine started 1 1/2 weeks early, on my wedding day.  I was taking the pill, but had accidentally skipped a couple of days (lots of non-wedding-related stress made me completely forget about it).  Loads of fun!  In the grand scheme of things, no big deal, but it was a bit odd running next door to buy tampons (in my dress) at a gift store during the reception.  Oh well.  Anyway, when you think of all the things that can go wrong at a wedding, it's not fun, but it could be a lot worse.  But I agree with everyone else--try talking to your doctor and see if there's an alternative to the pills you've tried before. Yours sound really severe, and there may be a way to regulate them (or at least alleviate the cramps and other side effects).  Periods shouldn't have to be that miserable, and a new medication/doctor/birth control might help.  Good luck!  

And back to your original question: I'd also ask the doctor about the urinary tract infection issue.  As for the "gross" factor, if you're worried about your husband's reaction, I'd just give him a wee bit of warning that night  and (as long as you're both comfortable with it), see what happens!  But hopefully this is all a moot point and you won't have to worry about the timing at all.  

We definitely would/will!  While sex on my period isn't my favorite thing in the world, there's no way that I'd let my body's natural function stop us from having sex for an entire week each month!  I usually try to plan it so that we'll have great sex the day before my heaviest period day (and therefore most likely won't want it on said heaviest day), but if our wedding night ends up on my heaviest day... oh well!  We love shower/bath sex, or we're just careful in the bed to not make a mess.  Not a reason to skip sex, in my book!

Also, I've never ever heard of (or experienced) the UTI threat, especially not for the man.  Has anyone heard of that?  I wouldn't worry about that if I were you.

I was scheduled to start my period on my wedding day, but I'm on the pill so I just skipped it altogether. I recommend going that route!

If I skip my placebo pills will I still get period? I knew I was going to have my period on exactly my wedding day so I skipped the placebo and wondering if I still get a period at all? So confusing...