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I would not be happy. He was hired to take images of what I WANT, not only what he wants.
If he doesn't like the picture he doesn't have to use in his portfolio, but should still take the shot because I want it in my wedding pictures.
I don't know how I feel about this. I would NEVER ask a photographer to take a crude picture, so I can't imagine the actual refusal. It could hurt his business. If something was THAT questionable, I would say discuss it beforehand to see if the photographer would be willing to take the picture.
@wanderer: I agree completely.
As a paying customer I would be more than upset by a photographer judging my wants and needs as a bride. The photographer dosen't need to use those photographs in a portfolio etc. so it shouldn't be a big deal.
Hmmm...I think there was something in my contract about "Artistic vision"...but I'm not sure! I can't see myself as being too offended though. I mean, yes the photographer can choose to not put the photo in her portfolio, but what if you post it on facebook, weddingbee, all over the internet as her work when she was just doing it to be nice and it's not a good representation of her work? It could offend other clients. Especially if it were a distasteful pic like the others shown.
I think if a photographer was put in this position, asking the B/G to have a friend take the photo might be a good compromise?
I can't picture myself coming up with a photo idea this controversial but I agree that it'd be better to just have a friend take the photo.
@jo.lee: In all honestly when it comes to BJ photos I think you have the best idea. I'd be mad if my photographer didn't take the photos I wanted, but at the same time I don't think I'd even have the guts to do a BJ photo in the first place! lol.
I don't know about the photographer, but I sure would not have agreed to be IN the picture if I were one of the bridesmaids in that second one. But I guess I don't really have friends who would think that was a good idea.
Seriously? You really want to have photos of giving a BJ? Or other questionable things? Seriously? I would pass on this and say if you really want that shot, ask your friend.
@TedNghiem: Dude chill out. The OP is already married and not looking to get pics like that taken. She's just looking to see where other people's opinions are. Geez!
I wasn't trying to offend or start any debates. I've seen a few pics similar to this recently & I'm wondering if its a "new trend" or what?! I've never been asked to take any photos like this & I honestly would want to refuse to take it, I like the idea of having a friend take the photo with their camera instead.
I wouldn't take it if asked. Like someone else said, a friend can take it if they really want the shot.
@serabell: lol! I wasn't meaning to make it sound, you know, serious. I am just saying, if I was asked that. I would have that same reaction. Seriously?
I never meant any harm in that.
@Ted - Thanks for clarifying :). Yea that's what my reaction was when I saw the photo. "really, you want that!?". Just can't hear tone of voice in text.
I can't imagine wanting such photos, but if I did, I would expect the photographer to take them.
They don't have to use them in their portfolio, and if they are ashamed they can give them to the couple without their name/logo on them.
If I were a photog I'd take it. A- they are paying customers, B- just because I didn't share religious views, culture or sense of humor with my clients doesn't mean I'd refuse any photos unless it involved minors or something. It's odd, YES but live and let live!
@serabell: Oh yeah. I don't think this is a trend in the wedding industry. Those images were part of wedinator.com. A big spoof photo site on wedding images. So don't worry. It's not a trend. At least I hope not. haha!
Ohhhhh wow, I'm very glad this is NOT a trend! I've seen about 3 or 4 pics like this in the past few weeks, so I was getting worried. Thanks @Ted for letting me know :).
I think there's a limit. I mean, there are these types of photos, but what if a bride and groom asks for something even more risque? I think a photographer has the right to refuse to take a photo if they don't feel comfortable with it...or if it's x-rated. They were hired to shoot your wedding photos, not be your servant.
A good example might be putting the photogapher in danger. If you wanted a certain angle which would require the photog to climb a tree or something...I'd flat out refuse if it were something like that.
That's why we selected our photographer. There is no chance of that, he is pretty laid back and cool.
I've never heard of a photog refusing to take certain types of pics, usually if the couple have any unusual requests they would probably discuss this before signing any contracts, I also doubt that many couples take pics like the one in that other thread. Atleast this is the first time I've seen anything like that. I feel sorry for the bms and gms that they had to do a shot like that, If i were a bm in that wedding I would refuse. ugh
I'm really laid back as well, I'm ok with whatever (almost). I'll climb trees, I'll actually risk doing something dangerous for a great shot (nothing life-threatening). & its not about what "I agree with". If the wedding is a different religion than mine, it does not change how I shoot it, I can take pics of things that I "don't believe in". I'm not going to say "oh I don't agree with that, so see ya". Just when it comes to "inappropriate" shots is what I'm referring to here.
However, according to my poll, most brides would be mad at the photographer for not taking such a picture.
hopefully if you requested something like that and the photog said no, it would mean one of two things:
1. you should have asked them ahead of time rather than springing it on them that day and see the horror on their face
2. you should realize that the photog has far more class than you and you will find yourself embarassed that you asked in the first place.
i know it sounds harsh, but i find them so classless and tasteless that its appauling to even consider taking a picture like that. if you want to take photos like that, do a boudoir session
Even though those pictures are god awful and I would never even think about suggesting that, I expect my photog to do what I please as I am paying them a ridiculous amount of money to do so.
I would never request a photographer to take a picture of that. I don't find those things funny at all and my family/in-laws don't either. I also wouldn't find fault in my photographer telling me they can't shoot something with good reason.
@serabell:ABSOULUTLEY NOT! No matter if it doesn't go in your portfolio someone somewhere will post it, even with copyright...you can sue them for infringment but it is still out there...the damage is done. I guarentee you would be remembered for this one disgusting photo and not the thousands of beautiful ones you took. If a client loves your work, but the deal hinges on this type of photo...how serious are they? have a friend take it, however they might be uncomfortable too!
DH and I just shot a wedding this past weekend. I can imagine the scenario - you're in a group, most likely in front of lots of people (family, friends, strangers, church members, DJ, other vendors etc) asking for an innapropriate photo! YIkEs! I would still have to say no and stand my ground, even if other people were watching to see your reaction.
Usually there is a clause in the contract about the photographer having final rights and decisions when it comes to photos. That includes "artistic arrangement". I have seen some funny shots and often you may not realize they're not right until later. In which case I'd never give them out to the client - that's the photographers right.
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I saw the "I'm all for 'fun' wedding pics" that was just posted. If I were the photographer, I wouldn't want to take that pic. I see it as gross & inappropriate & would be rather embarressed to have my name on a photo such as that. I'm all for fun & new & edgy pics, but nothing like that.
So what if you had a wierd pose in mind & your photographer refused to take it?
On one hand, you are paying your photographer to capture your wedding & it is at your wedding.
On the other hand, it is the photographer's business/livelihood & that image could actually harm their business (if someone saw that & was offended, they may think it was the photographer & not even bother meeting with them).