(Closed) What if you're obsessed with a dress… Before you're even engaged?

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
246 posts
Helper bee

@Jennyemm:  I really don’t have any idea on how to get it out of your head. I just wanted to say that I am in the exact same position! I love Cobalto by San Patrick, but I am not engaged yet (and my SO isn’t going to propose any time soon). What helped me a little was to compare  some newer dresses to my favorite…there are always similar styles out, so that made me feel a bit more secure that I will find a dress even if “the one” isn’t being sold any more. 

Then again, you might be getting engaged soon, since your SO has the ring already! I keep my fingers crossed!


Post # 4
2565 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I had a dress I loved long before we were engaged, Maggie Sottero Astor.  I looked at the pics on the website frequently, then one day the dress was gone!  It was discontinued a year before we even got engaged.  It’s fun to have a dress in mind, but I found something I love even if it isn’t the first dress I was obsessed with.


Post # 5
2133 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I can totally relate. I have about 20 dresses I can’t wait to try on and I’m trying my best to not call the bridal salons to set up appointments.


Post # 6
1459 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

For anything that I love but can’t get right now i’ll tell myself that there will always be something I love just as much, if not more, later on. Things are always changing and developing  – normally for the better! ๐Ÿ˜€


in the case of a dress it’d be possible for you to go to a seamstress when your time comes and they can then help you design, either the exact dress you like or add little extras you make it truly you :3


so don’t worry! There are definitely ways around this! ^^ and good luck with your (imminent?) engagement <3

Post # 7
263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I actually bought my dress and am not yet engaged. It was a good price and perfect for me, so i bought it. I know the ring is coming, and we have a deadline for the end of the year, so i just did it. Am i crazy? some probably think so, but i think its smart, as I can not pay it off  little at a time, and can look forward to wearing it for a longer time!  I’m still super excited for when the Boyfriend or Best Friend pops the question and I know having my dress won’t make it any less special! I can’t eait to wear it for him!

Post # 8
4524 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Jennyemm:  My Boyfriend or Best Friend and I go shopping/window shopping every weekend, just as an activity to get out and stretch our legs.  In the past couple of months, it has included stops into dress shops.  His rule was “you can look but you can’t try on.”  Boyfriend or Best Friend is much more fashionable than I am, and I definitely wanted him to have a say in my dress…he also knows I’d pick something ridiculous if he weren’t there to reel me in :-p

Well, last weekend we stopped into a dress shop and I spotted a Mori Lee dress I’d seen online the day before at work.  Boyfriend or Best Friend really liked it and he and the salesgirl convinced me to try it on.  Long story short, after going home and talking about it, I went back and we bought it ๐Ÿ˜ก He didnt want me to miss out on the dress that I loved so much.

I know it’s totally backward, but I wanted to strike while the iron was hot, so-to-speak, and I’m glad I did.  He had bought the ring the week before we found the dress. Apparently, dress shopping can be a real nightmare, and this way I have *plenty* of time to worry about alterations and picking accessories ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
629 posts
Busy bee

This is a sad spot for me. I fell in love with a DB dress about a year ago (here’s a link, only I wanted the plus size http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Satin-Ball-Gown-with-Pleated-Bodice-and-Pick-Ups-7WG3076_Outlet-Outlet-Bridal-Gowns) and they just discontinued it.

Thankfully, I found other dresses that I also like quite a bit, so that’s helped soothe the pain a bit. I guess the only think I can say is remember what the details are you like about it (such as the one shoulder), as opposed to the dress itself, so that if it’s gone when you’re looking, you’re not stuck on one style, you’re thinking of various details you like.

Post # 10
114 posts
Blushing bee

I’ve been obsessed with the same dress since like, 2010. Luckily it’s still availble right now but I keep thinking… gosh I really hope he proposes soon so I know I can try it on! There are a few others I think are pretty but something in the pink/blush family is non-negotiable so I know my options will be limited. So anyways, I don’t think it’s crazy ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 11
191 posts
Blushing bee

I have a list for 8 dress I want to try on at a bridal shop in my town. then 3 more I want to try on at DB’s. out of those 11, I know I will find the 1. I can’t wait to get to try them on.

Post # 12
917 posts
Busy bee

@Jennyemm:  I’m there with you! I’ve fallen for a Martina Liana dress, which would be completely out of my budget (I assume anyway). Damn internet making things to accessible these days… lol

Post # 13
855 posts
Busy bee

Dresses don’t look the same on you as they do in the photo/on the mannequin.

I found soooooooooo many gorgeous dresses online that I loved, and I when I came back from one store I thought “oh, I never tried on xyz dress!” and then I realised… I had. And I’d said “no” instantly.

Sometimes I think falling for a dress before trying it on is dangerous. You want to choose the dress you look the best in – not the dress that looks the best on someone else.

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