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My latest one is when DH puts his dirty dishes on the counter ABOVE the dishwasher. Um, you couldn't take 5 seconds to open the door, bend over and put them in?
And the other day, he put the can opener on the counter above the drawer - holy hell, it's not that hard to pull open the drawer and throw it in when you're done!
Some days, I just want to shout "I AM NOT YOUR MOTHER!"
Hahaha!!! We were so excited to move to a place that has a dishwasher as dirty dishes were a topic of contention with us. Now FH does the same thing you mentioned! He either leaves the dishes on the counter above the dishwasher or puts them in the sink.
What irritates me the MOST at home is not my FI, but rather our cats. One or both of them, I can't be sure, is bound and determined to ruin an area of our carpeting. Right where the carpeting meets the stairs that lead from the lower level "man cave" to the kitchen they scratch in that corner and it drives me freakin crazy! We have tried cutting their nails every week, we put things over the corner (they move them). they have scratching posts. There is NO REASON to try to destroy the carpet in my beautiful new home except that they're evil! (to be clear i actually really love the cats but this one thing makes me want to scream)
DH comes in and drops everything in the front hall blocking the entrance to the dining room and the top of the stairs (down to the basement). I can't tell you how many times I've nearly broken my neck trying to get to the stairs/nearly falling down the stairs. It makes me NUTS!!!!
He's also a collector of papers and a piler. I'm not going to say I'm the neatest person around, but oh my god. He literally has BOXES of random paper in our basment because when we tidy up he just throws it all in a box and then never goes through it again. And then he wonders where ____ is. Duh.
My FH likes to make up obnoxious sayings and songs and sings them so loudly....right at the most important part of a movie/show/song. It REALLY pisses me off. Maybe if he was saying something of importance it wouldn't bother me...But singing about how he's the man, and whatever else strikes his fancy really makes me go off like a bomb.
Agreed! Men can be big babies sometimes. After moving in with my fiance I can now see why women with children always say their husbands are just like the kids. Men loved to be cared for and that's all well and good, but I'm not your mom. I love taking care of him, but sometimes he just assumes I'm going to take care of everything. I have to stop myself and just tell him You need to __________. Fill in the blank with whatever you want (fold clothes, finish the dishes, clean up after dinner, etc...) Honestly if I didn't stop myself from doing it and remind him he would just assume I will do it all. He's a great guy and he does help out, but I think there is some sort of connection missing is most guys brains. They just don't get it. If I was you I would try to stay calm and gently remind him what he needs to do. It's been working for me, so far and no fights. He usually genuinely feels bad once he realizes.
Last night he took his ice cream bowl into the kitchen, and since it was right after I told him that leaving things on the counter drives me bananas, I was prepared to thank him for putting the bowl in the dishwasher. 15 minutes later, I go into the kitchen. And the bowl is on. the. freaking. counter.
I swear he's trying to drive me to the loony bin some days!
Haha...great thread! I thought of the answer to this in an instant.
My pet peeve is when DH puts away the dishes and leaves the glass snapware without the lids snapped on. He just lays it there in the cabinet separately, then the lid gets misplaced and there is not enough room for the other snapware. Then I have to go through and sort, rearrange just to get them all to fit. Or worse, I try to stuff one more in and the lids all fall out on my head or the floor. If he just put the lid on, everything will fit and stay organized.
DH said he just wants to make sure the interior dries out so he likes to leave it open to ensure that. I told him to just leave it in the dish drainer or the side if it's wet at all. Apparently he prefers his own agenda (clean dishrack in the morning) or he is just really forgetful (at least once a week for the last 13 months!).
My one cat pees in the same spot every other day - no matter what we do, spray, powder, natures miracle, etc nothing stops him from doing it again!!! It sucks :-(
My FI loves to strip the minute he walks in the door. Shoes, socks, shirt, undershirt all end up on the floor in the living room. Then he wonders why he has no socks... Well, if they weren't all crammed behind the couch or under the coffee table, and were upstairs in the hamper where they're supposed to be, I might have washed them! It drives me nuts to have to walk around picking up clothes everyday. I'm thisclose to picking them up and hiding them somewhere until he's out of clothes completely... Though, knowing him, he'd just buy more and the cycle would continue, lol!
I'm a total clean freak and my husband... well he's just not! My 3 year old is the same way, so it drives both of us nuts when he comes home and throws everything on the floor. Where it lands it stays!! Our daughter will walk around and say "daddy pick up your mess!" It cracks me up =) She's my little mini me!
I also hate towels on the bathroom floor, worn underwear IN the bed and when he decides to wash clothes (once in a blue moon) and then leaves them in the dryer so they're all wrinkled and I end up having to wash them again anyways! One of my biggest peet peeves is dirty and unrinsed dishes in the sink... and when he puts my stainless steel knives in the dishwasher when he knows they rust! Ugggghhh men! lol
Oh, there is so much. lol
DH puts his dirty boxers in front of the hamper, not in the hamper. How hard is it to lift the lid? Seriously? There is nothing like coming home from a long day at work and having to pick up dirty underwear. He also leaves crap lying around everywhere. He leaves his hat on top the couch, or on top the dogs cookie jar. Mail has a specific place in the office to go, but it's always laying in the kitchen along with 800 little notes that he's written to himself to remember things. It drives me nuts because I hate clutter. Either put it in a drawer or a nice basket or something, but stop leaving it all over my counters!
And I love my dogs so very much, but they shed like the dickens. Most of our house is tile floors and I am constantly picking up dog hair tumbleweeds and throwing them away. It's insane how much hair these dogs can shed.
One more, our washer and dryer are in the garage and DH insists on parking his big ole SUV on the side next to the washer and dryer so I have to squeeze to get to them and am constantly smacking into his rear view mirror. If my small car were next to the laundry, I wouldn't have the problem, but if he gets a dent or paint chip on his car from laundry baskets, it's not my fault!
That actually felt kind of nice to let all that out. Thanks for the post!
dirty socks everywhere. i've found them on the dining table, on my pillow, everywhere. sometimes not even pairs. just one sock. also announcing when he has done any normal chore. "i did the dishes honey! can you believe it!" yes. i do the dishes all the time.
How my tv magically ends up on ESPN everyday! FH doesn't even live with me yet and this happens. I want to call Directv and see if I can remove ESPN. lol
@CorgiTales: Oh man, I laughed out loud at your post. My fiance and I have two cats, too, and I'm always yelling at them "THIS IS WHY WE CAN'T HAVE NICE THINGS!" ;)
Dirty clothes! My fiance doesn't like it when I do his laundry because it makes him feel guilty...so instead, we always have a massive pile in our bedroom! Luckily, his mess never seems to spread to any other areas of our house :)
Animal hair! I swiffer every day, vacuum a couple times a week the couple of rugs we have and the couches but with my dog and 2 cats it seems like the next day there's a ton to clean up all over again!
The stairs are a catch all for my FHs crap... the coffee table and dining room table is also a catch all... drives me crazy...cant just blame him... I refuse to put away the tupperware because I cant reach the shelf and I feel like Im either pulling it back down to use or taking it out of the dishwasher... logic says should find another shelf i just dont have one
DH leaves the wet laundry in the washer for days - um gross. And he also leaves the lid up - I worry our cat will fall in! yikes
@CorgiTales: OMG, this is my huge pet peeve! For our first year living together, we didn't have a dishwasher and I was constantly having to nag him to wash his dishes instead of just letting them pile up in the sink, Now that we've moved into a place with a dishwasher, he still leaves them on the counter or in the sink! He seriously has an aversion to having to open a door or drawer (it's the same in the bathroom - everything ends up on the counter). I know, it's SO HARD to take that extra 2 seconds, UGH!
OK, rant over 
Umm.. that our kitchen doesn't have any counterspace and only fits one person at at time? And we actually have to step out of the kitchen to open the dishwasher? And we have no control over our heat and no AC so it's BLASTING in the winter and sweltering in the summer? And we're on the ground floor in a building with all 22 year old recent college grads who put up walls and pile 10 people in a 1 bedroom apartment and don't work 9-5 jobs and SLAM in and out of the building all day and night?
Yeah we need to move..
In our house, my DH usually cooks and I do the dishes. He helps me by bringing them to the sink while I rinse. But for some reason, he puts each dirty dish on the tiny counter/sink ledge between me and the faucet. Not on the HUGE counter directly next to me that I can easily reach over and grab when I'm finished rinsing what I'm holding. He literally reaches around me to put them there, like I won't see them unless they're right in front of me. I've already broken a few wineglasses and mugs by knocking them right off the ledge.
He also leaves his shoes directly inside the side door, so when I come in from outside, it stops suddenly halfway open (when the shoes jam between the door and the wall) and I almost walk right into the door.
He doesn't ever make the bed. We have two comforters and 4 decorative pillows, so I've started making 1/2 the bed every morning. He doesn't seem to notice or care.
I could go on and on and on :)
Oh, and he leaves his coffee pot stuff in the sink everyday. His excuse is "it doesn't air-dry until the night and I just end up using it agin the next morning." Um, ever heard of a towel?
Also, if I leave something at the bottom of the stairs to go up, he will literally step over it 20 times without bringing it up. That laundry basket is neither a decorative item nor an obstacle course...
haha!! sounds like we are all dating the same man!!
My guy leaves clothes/shoes in a pile in front of/side of bed - I sometimes nearly trip getting up to pee at night. This even happens if his hamper is 2 feet away!! We have a table right by the front door - and guess what!?! All of his crap - climbing gear, suitcase (yes! suitcase from a trip he came home from LAST week, shoes!! socks, jackets, whatever) get piled on that table. He also can't put things in the dishwasher. Lately he's been leaving cups etc. on the coffee table. He takes the trash out, but doesn't put a new bag in. He brushes his teeth, shaves, or whatever and leaves all of the items out!
A year or so I came up with a brilliant idea that really helps. I wrote little stickies: "take trash out", "take recycling out", "put dishes away", "clear table" - I keep them on the inside of the bathroom mirror. When it's time for him to do something I put it on the mirror at his eye height. It works SO MUCH BETTER than me telling him to do those things. It's so weird how that works!
The most irritating thing in our house is clutter. We clean it up and within two weeks there is just as much clutter!!! We are so bad about throwing out stuff right away if not needed. I hate clutter!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@ms. rice crispy treat: Wow, my SO does ALL of this. Maybe I should try the sticky notes? Reminding him to vacuum for the last two weeks hasn't helped (I did almost all of the other house cleaning, and vacuuming was going to be his contribution), so maybe that would finally work
@CanAmBride: "That laundry basket is neither a decorative item nor an obstacle course" - LOVE!
@SadieBee: Oh, I forgot that the cabinet door in the bathroom STAYS open - that way he doesn't have to bother opening or closing it. But, most of his toiletries do end up back in the cabinet, so I guess it works. Kind of. Maybe I should take the door off the dishwasher too . . .
@PitBulLover: OK, I think I lied. It's more like a few days for us, too. LOL
I always put things on the stairs so that I can grab them when I go upstairs. I can't say that I grab them all the time, but it's really because it's become a mental war of how long SO's shoes will sit on the steps and how many times he walks past them on the way up. You leave yours? I leave mine....
Because SO will never listen to my complaints i will no unload here...
-The complete lack of appropriate closet space
-How tiny our bedroom is.
-The fact that we do not have a dishwasher.
-We live in an OLD home and our washer and dryer are in the basement so all of my laundry must be sorted and organized in my living room.
-There is not enough space for the two of us in this house.
-I do not have anywhere for an office and don't have a desk.
- We only have 1 sink in the bathroom and the vanity is barely big enough for the two of us.
-The lack of cupboard space and the lack of counter space.
- The fact that SO won't fold his own socks.
Ugh I hate our house and desperately want to move!
FI is on a very different work and sleep schedule than me. He thinks my 'wind down time' and bedtime are good times to start new projects that require my help. We actually fought over this last night. I later woke up at 1 a.m. to the sound of the drill as FI was fixing something in the dining room.
The hubs is also a piler and stacker as well...urgh. But what really drives me nuts are the paper towels. I have to give him credit because he used them less frequently now but he would use them as tissues and/or napkins etc. and then I would find them all over the house either in a ball or twisted in a tornado-like shape. It got to the point where I was so sick and tired of collecting his paper towels and tossing them that I would gather them together and shove them in his 'junk' drawer in the kitchen. At one point he opened his drawer and to his surprise and confusement found a bunch of balled up paper towels. He looks at me and questions me as to why they are there and I just looked at him like a deer in headlights and said not a word.
I'm living with my parents at the moment. Pretty much everything annoys me, ha. The clutter, the mess of dirty dishes and Pokemon cards, my sister stealing clothes I haven't even worn out of my closet, the same plain meals repeated over and over and over again, mom insisting on doing the laundry and then only doing it once a week, the old freezing house...ugh. I will gladly deal with my fiance's one or two foibles to get out of here!!
Oh, there are so many things...
- Dirty socks on the living room floor,
- Dirty EVERYTHING on the bedroom floor (socks, underwear, jeans, t-shirts, it's all in a pile next to his side of the bed!),
- He drinks more milk than anyone I've ever known and always leaves his empty milk glasses on the counter without rinsing them out,
And so on and so forth.
- Our neighbor above us has such a heavy foot when then walk. All day long you hear *step step step step*
- Also our neighbor above is obsessed with their washing machine. They run it at least 2 times every single day. How could 1 person need to use the wash 2 times every single day.
Hubby always says that he's still trying to get the bachelor out of him! LOL! He leaves his mail pile up and likes to keep random boxes ("I might need it one day"). And leaves piles of clothes on the floor by his side of the bed.
Right now, it's the amount of crap that his mom wants him to get out of her house, but he doesn't want to throw away. Stuffed animals, trophies, posters - all from the 1980s. Your mom doesn't want this stuff in her house and WHY do we want it in our house??
My current favorite annoyance comes after I had a break down about how I feel I am doing all the housework lately. So the boy has chipped in and has been "making the bed" in the morning. AKA-throwing the comforter on so it looks made, but then I get into bed at night I find a ball of sheets underneath. I also like dirty clothes on the dresser, on the floor, in a ball on the closet floor, etc. even though I strategically put the hamper next to the bed...on HIS side. Can you not lift the lid and put the clothes in?
Ok but house related annoyances aren't very many. My dryer isn't working correctly and we have to put a load through 2-3 times for 80 minutes at a time. Meaning it can take 3+ hours to dry a normal load of laundry. Hopefully a new dryer is in the near future for us
We currently live in a small, one bedroom apartment, so everything seems magnified!
For some reason, when FI gets home from work, he immediately changes into comfy clothes. No big deal, but he puts his dirty clothes on the kitchen table. Why? I have no idea. There is a laundry basket in the laundry room, literally 2 feet from the kitchen table. There is also a laundry basket in the bathroom.
Seriously, I am sick on the couch and angrily staring at a pile of clothes on the table.
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