Post # 1
I know it’s a dumb question, but I’ve heard about it mentioned many time.
What the rehersal dinner to me is: After rehersing for the wedding, the bride, groom, wedding party and family go out for dinner. Is that correct? If so, why is it so important?
My FMIL asked me what I wanted to do for a rehersal dinner and how to coordinate the guests. We have his parent guests, my parent guests and our friends. It’s hard to to have to coordinate all the people and coordinate who pays what. So we decided to have a brunch (the day after) with his parents side (his parents pay), dinner with my family side (my dad pays), a 3rd meal sometimes between lunch and dinner w/ our friends (dutch or we pay).
So after said and done, I have 2-3 planned meals after the wedding, yet still no rehersal dinner.
Post # 3
It’s pretty much a “thank you” for everyone who’s helping out with the wedding. And a nice way to end the rehearsal night =) We are giving out the parents and attendant gifts that night, I’m giving FI his grooms cake, etc.
Post # 4
LOL… the rehearsal dinner is really b/c you won’t get to really spend any real time with any of these people the day of.
The Day goes by SO fast… so having the time to joke (FH thank everyone and his parents who host) and get to breathe is kinda nice.
That’s all.. it’s not “neccessary” though… just still be sure to have the actual rehearsal 😉
Post # 5
@runsyellowlites: is right … plus if you have OOT guests it gives them some time to get to know the town, o if they are relatives … time to hang out and spend time with people.
Post # 6
Based on the answers so far, I guess no rehersal dinner for me.
90% of the guests are out of town and have to fly in. His parents said if we were going to have “rehersal dinner” then their guests (flying in from other countries) are coming. If their guests are coming, that mean we can’t exclude the guests from my family side plus our friends (since they travel as well). That mean it would be like an informal reception than an intimate rehersal dinner. Not to mention the costs and who pays what.
Splitting into separate group is easier. His parents and my dad can decide how much they want to spend, then decide on the location and who they want to invite. We just show up :).
Post # 7
For us I think it was a time to hang out with OOT guests b/c you’re so busy at the wedding, and a chance to thank your wedding party and give them gifts.
I think traditionally the guy’s family pays b/c the bride’s pays for the wedding, but really who does tradition anymore.