Post # 1
How is that different from the reception itself? Is it wilder and crazier than the last hour or so of the main reception? Do reception venues generally not allow anyone to stay past the “standard” 4 hrs even if they pay extra or find one that allows them quite a few extra hours? In that case, wouldn’t it just be the reception going on longer than usual? Or is it supposed to be at a different venue, for example where no children (even older teens up to 18) are allowed even though they were invited to the main reception? I’m just curious because I’ve read references to them but no one seems to know what they are exactly. And they are even mentioned to take place after a 7+ hr reception ends at midnight/2am which in itself is unheard of with most venues with the 4 hr limit they refuse to budge on.
Post # 3
The afterparty is, well, everything that you listed and uniquely different for each couple. What I do know is that it’s a relatively more recent addition to the wedding festivities.
Some are just a change in venues when they want the party to continue after the reception hall rental time is up.
Some are a less formal, let your hair down and have some fun party for after the more formal affair.
Some are impromptu take-overs of the couple’s suite with drinks and silliness all around.
Some are chances to reconnect with friends after your other 300 guests have gone to bed.
Our afterparty stems from a combination. We’re having a dry reception due to the fella’s age and his family’s religious views. Our Saturdays (before I started going insane with wedding plans) were spent playing board games and hanging out with friends. And we want to have a grand exit from the reception. So, we’ll exit, have a nice tour of Portland by pedicab, complete with photo op stops among the Portland Nightlife, and then will head to our afterparty which will be a more informal continuation of the reception with the addition of alcohol.
Post # 4
i dont get it. between the rehersal dinner, the day after wedding brunch and now after parties i wonder at what point does the bride and groom cut the cord and start their wedding night/honeymoon
but then again – im very anti social when it comes to my hubby & i being able to spend alone time together
Post # 5
I’m seriously considering having an after party so this post will be a great help. Thank you Ember78 for starting it!
Post # 6
The after-party, in the context of our wedding, was basically an informal event, optional, and after we were done at our venue.
For us, after the ceremony and reception dinner at a french restaurant, we headed out to a piano bar.
As we didn’t have a dance floor at our tiny venue, it was a good chance to just hang out, boogie a little, and have a chance to mingle with all our guests.
We stayed abt 2 hours till 1am, but some of our guests stayed longer.
I would say an afterparty is a separate, informal, optional event after the reception.
Perhaps we should start a wiki for this (if none exists!)
Post # 7
I’m still a bit confused on it. It sounds like it’s still the reception, just a different venue. Is that right?
Post # 8
We are having an early Friday evening wedding followed by as simple reception of light refreshments and cake afterwards. Our after party is the following day and is a pig roast! We shall dress in casual attire, dance, listen to music, throw horseshoes and play volleyball and feast like royality. Why? Because we want to!
Post # 9
We are thinking about an after party at the insistance of Groomy and, more specifically, his father. Our venue closes at midnight, no exceptions so since we need to be out and cleaned by 12, the reception will end around 11 (begins at 4 with cocktail hour). I think we will end up just heading to a bar within walking distance if anyone is interested in order to avoid planning anything formal and not having enough people who want to go for 8 hours but I am sure there will be some friends and our immediate families who will come out. Last year a friend did something similar following her wedding and it was really fun to go to a bar dresses in our wedding clothes (her in her dress). We won’t be in such a touristy neighborhood but there is one bar close by that has a nice deck so we are hoping for a mild evening. One of my brothers won’t be 21 but he will be 18 so hopefully he can also come since it is a restaurant. As it gets closer to the date, I may call ahead of time and give them an idea of how many people will come at midnight and make sure they will be open for at least an hour (it’s a vacation town with strict opening hour limitations).
I feel like an after party is less formal and can really be whatever you want. Calling it an after party gives guests an excuse to leave without feeling guilty if they are not up for a long evening and of course, going to a bar means no one under 21 can come.
Post # 10
an after party is just an ongoing celebration of your wedding. it can be whatever you want it to be: dancing at a nightclub/bar, hanging out at a diner, hanging out at your hotel suite, etc. i guess it’s called “after party” because it’s after the main reception/party.
we are not having an after party since we can stay at our venue until 5am.
Post # 11
I feel that an afterparty is just an extension of the reception after your allotted time (4 or 5 hours or whatever) is over. In my family/group of friends, people would typically go out to a bar or club after the reception, so an “afterparty” is just an organized version of that. We’re having our afterparty in the bar of the hotel everyone is staying in.
Post # 12
We are biting off of another Bee (I can’t recall whom) but we are having a reception from 5-8pm, and then planned a Happily Ever After Party back at the hotel (in their gorgeous bar/restaurant area) to spend time with a smaller, more intimate group. family, bridal party and close friends. We just wanted to keep the party going. 🙂
Post # 13
our reception is in a park in the middle of downtown pensacola. the park closes at 11pm, so after we leave the park, we are going to do a small bar crawl with our friends. and from there, we all can walk to our hotel. there are about eight different bars within a five block radius and our hotel is just two more blocks from there. also, one of the bars close by is the one he used to work for and where we met. so, we felt it was only fitting.
Post # 14
We are going to go to a nearby bar after our reception venue kicks us out. I LOVE the idea of showing up at a regular bar in a wedding dress – how often do you get to do that??!
Post # 15
An afterparty is something that I will be too tired to stay up for after the wedding reception is over. lol By the end of the reception, I’d think that I’d be looking forward to hubby’s and my alone time, and not going out to another place to party some more. 😛
I’ve mostly seen people going clubbing or to a bar after the wedding reception, but I guess it could be anything you want. It’s just a continuation of partying but in a more relaxed and casual setting. Brides get out of her wedding gown and change into her party outfit or what not. This is what I have seen only – I am no expert.
Post # 16
For us it’s a continuation of the reception–we have our venue only until 10 p.m.–that’s the time most of my friends start their parties, not end them. The after party is mainly for our friends and “younger” generation–though both of our mom’s will definitely attend the after party and a few other folks who still want to party. We’ll be able to get out of our wedding clothes and really boogie down.