Post # 1
I am losing it, my husband in the last month has had a huge sex drive. We barely do it, i have no sex drive and my husband has a huge sex drive. We are going to councelling we have seen a doctor. Its getting worse, now if i dont have sex or play along he puts me down and threatens to leave and cheat on me. He seems to pull this shit at work or in text messages and i am sick of it. We had sex during the night then he wants its again in the morning then if he didnt release then he will finish in shower. He has told me hes looking at porn a lot, it doesnt bother me. But he wants the things he sees, he wants me to be skinny and do sex positions and oral sex all the time. I am upset and kinda grossed out. He has said devorse many times, and now that i bring up that he says devorse too many times he now changed it to i am going to cheat on you. He has called me from work crying histarically twice where he had to leave work and drive somewhere to calm down. I am so confused right now, we are going to coucelling and i am afraid hes lying or playing it up about his jokes and way of talking to the ladies. He puts me down about my weight but then told counceller that he dated a plus size women and she was very sexual.
Post # 3
@suez: this is abuse and a personal deal breaker for me….
I am the one with a HUGE sex drive and I haven’t always been super nice to my husband during his off weeks. I get grumpy when he has his off months but I NEVER threaten to leave him or put him down! He is telling you that he is okay with cheating on you if you don’t give him what he wants and that is a HUGE problem.
Post # 4
I have not replyed this this thread assuming there were going to be more beez trying to give some feed back. I am also afraid of what might some beez might say like you should just go through the devorse. I cant turn my back on marriage i made vow and i am trying to work through this, as i think is the best thing to do. The plot thickins over the week that passes. We couldnt make our appointment cause our lives are so busy i contacted his sister if she could help watch our kid, she was more then help but also mentioned that she knows whats going on. I dont have a good relationship with his family because of my way of trying to communicate about how i raise my kid. Fights tend to happen. I am upset knowing my husband communicated on all are personal issues to his sister, she told their mother and of course it comes back to me as i stand in the dark.
Everyone puts me in the awwwww i feel sorry for you pat me on back. I cant take it!!! I am trying to be the best wife, i know i have weight issues, i know i have intercorse issues, but to make more of this then it has to be, is making me have a mental break down. I wasnt as stressed when my hb brought to the subject to the doctor, i was on a level 2 stress level. now i am at a 7 moving towards an 8. I lost it this morning and told my husband you take it all i dont want any of it and if you want a devorse so bad and are repulsive of me then where are the papers. I cant make someone attracted to me. I am hurt.