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Same here! I know he bought the ring back in April and there have been no signs of it coming! I'm going crazy!!! He says that he has a special day already picked out so we'll see. I'll keep my fingers and toes crossed for you on your mini-vaca!
I don't get this phenomenon, I really don't. So many Bees talk about how their BF have had their rings for months (some YEARS) and still haven't proposed. Why do men do this? I assume once a man has actually shelled out the money and picked out a ring, he's ready to propose. He's made the investment. So why can't they actually ASK? It boggles the mind, it does.
How do you know he bought the ring? Did he tell you? Because that would be even worse. All of the suspense is already gone, just ask already.
My proposal came within a week of him purchasing the ring. He went and bought them the day before we left for a big trip.
@lezlers: i totally agree with you! i always feel so bad for the girls who are waiting and know he's had the ring for more than like, 2 weeks. i didn't realize this happens so often!
to the original poster: GOOD LUCK!! hope it happens this weekend!!
p.s. i get addicted to checking to see which waiting bees are engaged..i have a few friends "waiting" (likely no ring purchased yet), so i think i like hearing the stories even more!
I feel your pain. When my boyfriend brought up ring shopping we talked about how sometimes guys will get the ring and then sit on it for months and months. He looked at me like I was crazy, agreed it didn't make sense, and swore he wouldn't do that. Now that we have picked a ring, I'm waiting...and waiting...
Sending you bee love with extra honey!
Well, picking the ring is different from actually having purchased it and sitting on it. One Bee was talking about how the ring was being kept in a box on a bookshelf and she'd try it on when he was at work. WTF? Seriously? Why do that? Why buy a ring, and then put it on a bookshelf right out in the open, while refusing to actually propose? Makes absolutely no sense to me. I'd be beyond furious.
I know my BF will not tell me when he's bought the ring. We're not even going ring shopping together or anything (we both kind of think that takes a lot of the suprise and romanticism out of it.) I pointed out a style I liked while we were at a casino in Tahoe and that was the end of it. I couldn't imagine him telling me he bought the ring or worse KEEPING IT IN THE HOUSE RIGHT UNDER MY NOSE and not asking within a week or two. If you're waiting for a certain thing or time, fine. I can respect that. Don't wave the dang ring under your GFs nose for months, though. It's not only nonsensical, it's juvenile.
I don't think they get it how torturous it is for women to know the ring is bought and they're taking their time planning the perfect proposal. Or just taking their time. Sheesh!!!
I really hope he does it on your mini-vacation.
LOVE LOVE LOVE!
Haha, my friend's husband did the same thing, but he was waiting for a trip to proposed. I'm sure he'll propose on your vacation! I'm convinced that men only propose on vacations, and even asked other Bees to see if I was right! I wasn't, apparently, but as I said in the post, all but ONE of my friends were proposed to on some kind of vacation. Please fill us in after your vacation! I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you!
Here's my original post asking when the lovely bees' husbands/FI have proposed.
http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/where-did-he-propose-tripvacation-weekend-getaway-neither
I'm one of those poor bees.... ring was purchased almost 6 months ago. We bought in when we were on a cruise. He was so excited he had me wear it - unofficially - to dinner 2 nights. I knew he wanted to wait and propose more traditionally but I had *no* idea it would be so long. I am pulling my hair out.
I keep asking the same question - what is he waiting for?
We've had a bunch of weekend trips and events since then and nothing. And we've got nothing special coming up. Sigh. I wish I could get inside his brain.
lolaj - he needs to get with the program!!! ps - i am soooooooooo excited to hear that he has at least purchased a ring for you!! yay!
it will come in due time. why he is waiting, no clue. do you think he wants to ask your parents and is waiting for the "right time"? i bet he's trying to come up with something great!
you'll get your sparkly very soon i'm sure. i predict by the end of the summer! keep us posted lady!!
I know they don't do it to torture you but it sure feels like that sometimes when I read these posts, LOL!
My husband bought my engagement ring in December 2008 and didn't propose until October 2009. I think a lot of the reasons he waited is because he wanted it to be special and meaningful, and he also waited until things felt "right" between us. I had been applying so much pressure to him about how I wanted to get married and everytime we talked about it, I'm sure it pushed back the proposal even further. Once I finally just stopped badgering him and we got back to being "us," that's when he proposed.
If you know he has the ring, don't worry. It'll happen when it happens. Just let your man be the one to decide when that is.
I admire you! I don't think I could handle knowing that my SO had the ring and hadn't proposed yet. I am so type A I would probably explode!
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Hi Bees,
He purchased the ring TWO months ago and he STILL hasnt proposed! WHat is he waiting for? I dont get it!!
We are leaving to Cape Cod on Friday for a mini-vacation. I'm hopinh it will happen then but I know better than to get excited just to be let down in the end.
I need some bee love.......