What is he waiting for?

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
660 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@ms_citygirl:  Welcome to the Bee.

I am 37 and my husband is 51, so somewhat similar to your ages.  I had the same problem when we were getting engaged. After a year when we went on vacation and I expected a proposal, I got the “I just haven’t thought about it.” I hung on for another year, then I really started getting restless. So I dumped him. This really woke him up and he proposed shortly after that.

If I were you, I would just leave him and see if he comes around. You’ve waited long enough. If he comes around, great. If not, be glad you found out he is not the one for you and you cut your losses and move on.

Post # 4
Member
54 posts
Worker bee

Have you met his children and family?  If not, I would certainly consider that as a nice milestone.  There may be issues/concerns that he hasn’t expressed to you yet, such as worrying what his kids would think about him remarrying.  He also may feel that since the two of you are not planning on having kids of your own, that there is no reason to hurry.  In his mind, he may not see anything that he would consider to be a “deadline” other than the end of the year timeline you had mentioned.  I also would want to take a closer look at his recent divorce.  Was the breakup his idea, or his ex-wife’s idea?  If she was the one who had decided to leave him for whatever reason, there may still be some open wounds that only time will heal. 

Just my $.02.  Please keep us updated 🙂

Post # 5
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1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Ease off of the topic until year end comes around. Give him a little break. I beliieve he would come around

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