Post # 1
I want to have kids. I look forward to having a family and being a mom. It is more about when it will happen, than if. Husband still has about 3 years of graduate school, and while he will be working at the same time, I’m not sure if we should wait until he is done with school. Also, I’m not sure if we have enough money saved to have a family.
I feel like having kids is kind of a “there is never a right time” or you are “never ready for what is to come” but how do YOU know when you will be ready? What are you waiting to finish/accomplish/gain before having kids? Or are you just doing it when emotionallly ready?
Post # 3
waiting for the wedding…. aaaagh.
Post # 4
Primarily, it’s money and age. We make good money now (about 70k a year combined, in an area with lower cost of living), but we want to purchase a home first and have a good amount in savings (about $10,000).
We also want to enjoy our 20’s and devote it to growing as individuals and as a couple. We have been together for 10 years so far and we are 24 and 26 right now. We are planning to start TTC around 29 and 31. We are young and raising children is hardwork. While there is no “ideal” time, we have a good feeling of when the right time for us will be.
Post # 5
MONEY! If we made more money we would be married with at least a kid by now. Sucks living in SO Cal and not even able to afford to rent a nice place because we only make 50K a year combine.
Post # 6
Well, first we have to get married… haha.
Seriously though, when we DO marry, we will both be working and in grad school. He’ll be finished with his degree a few months after, but I’ll still be working on mine for another year. AND we might be moving, possibly abroad. But we’ll be 32 by our wedding, and will probably just go for it!
Post # 7
The fact that I have no interest in children. Does that count?
Post # 8
Money! And well mentally I’m not ready for a child…I’d like to do more things in life like travel before children.
Post # 9
waiting until after we are married and also for FI to get out of the military. He is deployed every 3 months. We also want to travel and just be able to “live” a little once he is out. He finishes in 2 more years.
Post # 10
age, We still want to do things before having kids. They are welcome now though if i got pregnant but we are not planning them or have plans for them any time soon.
Post # 11
We both like staying up late and playing video games. We don’t want to change our lifestyle for a child.
Post # 12
Well, honestly, the fact that I didn’t marry my DH until I was 47. I always planned on marrying much younger and having multiple children. However, although I had several opportunities to marry many years ago — and I was engaged once before and ended that relationship, I just did not meet the person I believe God intended for me to marry until I was in my mid 40s. I am still very open to having a baby, if it is God’s plan for me. Despite my age, I am still technically able to have one, and DH and I are doing nothing to prevent conception. However, with my medical history, it will be a divinely inspired event (and I definitely do believe in them!) if and when I do become pregnant.
Post # 13
Not being married and not having a house. I’d be fine just eloping and using the money we save for an apt and then save for a kids fund. But he’s against that idea.
Post # 14
What’s holding us back? Any desire for more children.
Post # 15
Money… and things that stem from money, like not having our own place.
Post # 16
@Brielle: Trust me, you can definitely have one. My grandmother had my mother in her 50’s! And this was in the old country(Kosova in Europe, very poor country), so there was no help or anything there. Hopefully, God willing, your medical history does not get in the way of creating a healthy, beautiful baby 🙂
What stopped us from having a baby was that I am still in school and he gets paid very, very little, if at all. He works for his father at his restaurant so whenever his dad feels like paying him, he will. My husband doesn’t stick up for himself 🙁