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So, I've already told you about the cousins & the aunt who threw a fit about FI & I not having kids at the wedding...

Tonight I come home to an RSVP from THE BEST MAN & his wife. It was obviously filled out by his incredibly annoying wife and despite them KNOWING we are not inviting any kids not in the wedding... despite the wording "We have reserved 2 seats for you..." AND despite FI SPECIFICALLY asking about them getting a babysitter... They wrote in this on the reply card:  "GORGEOUS invitations and beautiful caligraphy! We know you are busy with every little detail, but you forgot Annie on the invitation as she WILL OF COURSE be joining us—it wouldn't be a wedding without her!" (capitalization is theirs)

Whaaaaaat? I am waiting for FI to get home now because if I call these people it will not be pretty. Hopefully, he can be diplomatic about it because as much as I love Best Man, I cannot stand his wife and I just might go off on her.

Sheesh!

Well I am glad to know that I am not the only one who finds this incredibly rude!

@Ree723 They live about 15 minutes from the church and 30 minutes from the reception. Granted, Best Man's mom & sister will also be in attendance at our wedding as FI is very close to their family, but the annoying wife has a mother who lives down the street from them & is not invited to our wedding so why can't she or another person babysit?

I think that they might feel she should be there because the daughter is FI's goddaughter, or maybe because Best Man's mother is actually our officiant. Maybe they want their daughter to see her perform a wedding?

Any way I slice it, I find it terribly obnoxious and cannot wait for FI to tell me his thoughts.

Right now I am pissed off for you! How could she have mustered up the nerve to write that?! If your guy is a softie, take over and call them yourself, but give it a day or two to calm down.

SO Rude! Who does that!

@lisa105: I think thats really good advice. Just be civilized since you've had some time to calm down and try to politely tell them about the no kids.

Seriously??  That is SOO rude!  Man, I would definitely be furious especially since you were so clear. 

From this point out, I say definitely stay strong and be firm, but also kill her with kindness, be sweet as pie - it will give her less ammo to work with if she's really the kind of person she sounds like in her response to you. 

Throw it all in there, the reasons you don't want kids there (sorry I haven't read your other posts), but whatever they are - the timing of the ceremony/reception being to late/long, it's not a child friendly venue, that in a perfect world it would be wonderful to have Annie there, but..... it won't be fair since everyone else will be making arrangements, offer babysitter referals, etc. 

As nice as it would be to have your FI convey the information, it might work better if you could put on a good face and speak with her directly.  The absoluteness of it all might get lost in translation between her guy and yours - if that's not a possibility, that's fine, but just an idea.

Wow, just WOW!  I agree with everyone on the obvious rudeness going on here.  FI and I are also not having kids, and his own mother threatened not to come if we didn't let his horrible behaved nephew come (she helps raise him).  My fiance's response, "Well I guess she's staying at home then."

like everyone already said, that is incredibly rude but also deliciously passive aggressive.  please scan it and post it to passiveaggressivenotes.com.  all of us bored office jockeys will thank you and laugh at her for you!!  also-update please!