Post # 1
I have always been curious how women view their ring and what is most important to them about it. Most people are on some type of budget when it comes to their ring and when it comes down to it would you rather spend the bulk of the money on the stone or on the setting? Some women I know have crazy expensive settings and chose a lab created or less expensive center stone. Others have a simple band (not because that’s what they ultimately desired) but because they wanted to spend the majority of their budget on getting the exact specs of the stone they wanted. I am sure there are also many women (just none that I have encountered personally) that compromised a little on both. So, what are your thoughts and if you have a few minutes please explain why.
Thanks for your input!
Post # 3
Well since i wanted a classic solitaire the stone was the only important thing.
Post # 4
I didn’t care before I got my e-ring, but now I only want a platinum setting and diamonds for my wedding band, love the look of both. I would absolutely tell the FI to pick quality over the size of the stone though.
Post # 5
I voted that it doesn’t matter, it’s the meaning that really counts. I know that’s not really the answer that you wanted but that’s how I feel. I didn’t have a budget on my ring, and I didn’t know how much my fiance was going to spend. He just saved as much as he could before he wanted to propose and that was it. My ring was designed by him and I love everything about it because he picked it out and because of what it represents.
Post # 6
SO and I got into a conversation yesterday. I told him that he doesn’t have to be traditional with the stone, hoping he doesn’t save up for a diamond. That’s what he’s doing. I’m not a traditional person. I will take anything. It’s the thought and meaning that counts and what means the most to me. I just want him. He said that he wants to get the best for me. If he gets me something crappy, he will regret it later. he said i deserve something nice.
Post # 7
When I picked out my first ring I definitely thought that the setting didn’t really matter, especially since I wanted a solitaire. I mean, a solitaire is a solitaire, right? Well after a while I started really hating my setting. It tapered upwards on the band, which I didn’t like and also the prongs were SO high. The prongs were white gold (the band was yellow) and the plating was wearing off and I didn’t want to fuss with redipping. Plus it just looked to thin on my fingers.
I definitely think both are important now. Especially since I am considering a third update on my e-ring lol!
Post # 8
Both! My setting is actually what I love most about my ring. If it had a center stone that I didn’t really like, something would have to change.
Post # 9
Both! I’m getting a custom setting and a stone that I love, but will upgrade to better specs (but not bigger size!) later and reset the current stone in a pendant.
Post # 10
I bought my current e-ring for the diamond but I hate the setting. I am currently saving for that perfect setting
Post # 11
I am insanely picky about settings to an excessive degree, including how they look from all angles. I’m so picky it took me a year to find a wedding band, and then I paid $400 to get my e-ring slightly altered to look better next to it (and did not regret it one bit)!
as for the stone– as long as it looks pretty, I don’t care about the quality.
Post # 12
FI and I were still in college when we got engaged. We purchased a cheap, plain solitaire setting for my diamond, which is not what I ultimately wanted but what we could afford. I would definitely like to upgrade someday to some type of antique-y, engraved soltaire setting.
Post # 13
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
It depends on how you feel about upgrading the ring later. If you don’t mind buying a less expensive center stone now, then you can upgrade it to something bigger and better when you have more money. That way you get to keep the same band and still have the same ring that he proposed to you with (if you’re sentimental about things like that).
But in general, I would say that the diamond itself is more important if you’re never going to want to replace it. A better diamond is a noticeable thing. I told my fiance that I wanted a 1 carat diamond. He got me a 0.9 carat diamond. But it’s a REALLY nice diamond!! I was shocked at how much he spent.
I looked up what a similar quality diamond would cost if it were 1 full carat, and the price went up by about $30,000!!!! No joke! Now I know why he bought this one. He probably was shown 1 carat diamonds that were not as nice and knew that I would prefer quality over size. He made the right choice, and I’m in love with my ring. I’ll never replace it because I’m super sentimental. I’d feel guilty even asking, even if he had bought the larger, lower quality diamond.
Post # 14
I’s say the setting is more important to me. A million people can have the exact same stone, cut, and quality of stone, and honestly, any decent diamond looks pretty much the same to the naked eye, but the setting is what really makes your ring unique and truly special.
Post # 15
I would have accepted any ring that my guy gave me. But I am still thankful that he asked for my input on it.
Post # 16
I wanted a really pretty intricate band for my engagement ring, and I also didn’t want us to spend a ton of money on it because at the end of the day, it’s just a piece of metal and stone that sits on my finger. I found out about moissanite through this site and thought it sounded awesome. A clear stone to go with everything, way sparklier and to boot it is much cheaper than a diamond. So about 90% of the cost of my ring was for the setting, a Verragio.