Post # 1
I cannot and will never understand why grown people have such a hard time cleaning up after themselves. I always have the courtesy to clean up after myself, especially if someone has spent a lot of time cleaning. I don’t like existing in an unsanitary environment, so cleaning is important to me.
I cleaned the kitchen today. Scrubbed with bleach and all. Future Mother-In-Law, Fiance, and I went out to dinner for FCIL’s daughter’s birthday. When we got home, there was freaking popcorn EVERYWHERE in the kitchen. I mean, there was a pile of damn popcorn just sitting in the kitchen floor and the dogs were having a field day (one of the dogs is allergic, btw!). Apparently, Future Father-In-Law had come home from work and instead of waiting 10 minutes to get his dinner we were bringing him, he just had to make a bag of popcorn. Of course, he couldn’t eat it from a bag, he had to dirty up a huge mixing bowl. Then, of course, pouring popcorn into a large bowl is such a tough task, so half of it landed in the floor. He was just laying there on the couch under a blanket like nothing had happened. I was PISSED! I cleaned the popcorn up, but I’m sure the dog who is allergic got her fair share before we got home and discovered the mess.
Stuff like this frustrates me, beyond belief. I could see if you made a mess and something abrupt came up, so you had to run off and forgot about it or got tied up. But, when you sit right there and see the mess you made, then just walk off, that’s inexcusable for an adult.
Ughh. Sorry, just needed to vent that out. I’m feeling particularly irritable tonight… because I’m down to my second to last “active” bcp, I’m guessing this is PMS.
Post # 3
Hopefully you can move out soon.
Post # 4
I cleaned the popcorn up, but I’m sure the dog who is allergic got her fair share before we got home and discovered the mess.
I have to ask… why?? why did you feel the need to pick up after this grown man?
Post # 5
Eww… that is inexcusable! I would have been irritated too. Did anyone ask if he could help clean up his own mess? If he thinks others will clean up after him, there’s no incentive for him to clean up.
As annoying as it is, it may be better to just say, “FFIL, I know you may not have noticed, but some popcorn fell on the floor when you made some. Maybe next time you make popcorn, please be careful and if you drop any, pick it up immediately because the dogs are allergic.”
Post # 6
popcorn isnt that hard to clean up….just get a broom and a trash can.
Hopefully you can move out soon.
this…..im not sure how much more OP can stand…or US for that matter! These post are driving me nuts!
I know it much be hard to be in your situation…but maybe you should stop focusing on what your IL’s are doing (or NOT doing) and focus on how you and you Fiance can get out of thier house and move out on your own.
Post # 7
@piglet_625: Don’t worry, Future Mother-In-Law did the chewing out, lol! She loves her precious dogs, so she flipped when she noticed they were eating it from the floor. But, she seemed to be more concerned about the dog than the mess. I mean, I was too, but I am irritated because this mess stuff happens frequently and I felt disrespected. When you clean up, it sucks to have someone just trample all over that with no respect.
@MrsStrawberry24: I come here to vent because I feel supported by this community and sometimes, you just need to vent about things. I’m sure you can understand that. Plenty of people come here to vent about things, especially their in-laws. I live with mine. Of course, there are going to be stories to tell. No, I’m not “focusing on what my in-laws are doing”. I live with them. It doesn’t take much “focusing” when you come home and there is popcorn in the floor. Fiance and I will be moving out of here in a few months (thank God!)
@pinkshoes: I honestly did it because the dog was eating it and I wanted to stop her from getting more. She would’ve kept on eating and I didn’t know how much she’d consumed so far. Otherwise, I would’ve left it.
Post # 8
Be thankful they are letting you stay there
Post # 9
I can definitely see why you would be fed up. Also, I had no idea dogs could be allergic to popcorn!
Post # 10
Should have Future Mother-In-Law pick up the mess and put it on his side of the bed HAHAHA. My friends mother actually did this to her father. Not for creating a mess, but for trimming her precious plants which she repeated told him not to touch. He thought he was being sneaky throwing out the branches but she found them, hid them on his side, acted like nothing happened. When he came to bed and lifted the covers oh he knew he was discovered… he didnt touch them again.
Post # 11
My sister has “garbage blindness”. She’ll take the wrapper off of a snack and set it on the counter instead of walking two steps to put it in the garbage, and then just forgets about it and will leave it there forever… Stuff really starts to add up when you do that all the time.
Post # 12
This is going to sound snarky, but I don’t mean it to, I am honestly curious – why are you putting money towards a wedding instead of finding somewhere to live with your Fiance on your own?
Your situation sounds just awful. Are you planning to move out after the wedding, or even before??
Post # 13
I know how you feel! I live at home with my mother and brother. My bro is sooo lazy!! I can go down there, clean the pots and pans, empty the dishwasher and then refill it….I will come downstairs a little later and what do you know…the counters are covered with dirty pots and pans from him cooking and tomato sauce or ANY liquids used are spilled alllll over the counter. It’ll be there for another 2-3 days because I don’t feel like cleaning up after a 26 year old boy (yes boy, I’m 23 and he’s more irresponsible than I) because I don’t see a reason to (I’m very stubborn). My brother also does not know how to dry off after a shower, so if you go in there after he showered there will be a soking wet bathmat and the floor will be drenched (in our old house the ceiling below actually started leaking like crazy because he wouldn’t dry off afterwards). He actually is soking wet, walks around the get his towel and then dries off…seriously?! there is a hook RIGHT next to the shower. I have 2 years til I move out of here…I’m counting the days!
I unfortunately cannot move out of here until my mom has enough money saved to pay the money she owes the landlords, and put down a security deposit, first and last months rent. (my father’s income goes towards his nursing home bills and my mother is disabled, so she only gets $500 a month to live off of). My wedding is a Destination Wedding, so she’s saving to go to that, 6 months later my aunt is taking her on a vacation to Hawaii, so AFTER that hopefully we will get out of here. Living with family as an adult and engaged has a tendency to really wear at relationships. My mom treats me like I am still 14 years old. Everything I does she questions…mom it’s okay I’m 23 I can sleep in if I want to!
Post # 14
@Pinksapphire: Hey, we have the same FFIL! 😀 Seriously, my Future Father-In-Law does basically nothing around the house at all. FH and I are living with his parents at the moment, and have to pick up after him. Future Father-In-Law is incredibly oblivious and Future Mother-In-Law is kinda stuck in the fifties.
The other day Future Mother-In-Law asked me to clean the bathroom while she was doing another room, and she flipped when she saw FH was helping me. We said it’s quicker when we do it together and then we have more time for each other, and she was like “That’s not the point!”, haha.
@pinkshoes: That is amazing!
@mwitter80: & @MrsStrawberry24: I’m sure OP is not sitting around all day and waiting for her Future In-Laws to do something so she can complain about it. When you live with other people, you always have to adjust to some point, people do things differently. I don’t think OP is ungrateful, I think it’s common sense to pick up what you dropped on the floor, even if there’s no (allergic) animals around. Living with your (future) in-laws is always a special situation in my opinion, and I don’t have any friends that could relate at the moment. I enjoy coming to the WB and finding posts like these, because there are people here that can relate.