- 3 years ago
- Wedding: December 2017
Right off the bat, I will tell you that my husband and I are making a lot of unconventional decisions when it comes to the birth of our daughter. DH will NOT be in the delivery room, and he will not be staying overnight at the hospital. We are planning on having him in the waiting room while I am deliverying and he will be returning home at night after I have delivered to take care of our dogs.
By the time I deliver, he should have 4-5 days of PTO saved. When did you find it most necessary to have your SO stay home?
I am assuming he will be out one day for delivery (I REALLY hope it is only one day!) and the day we are released. To be honest, I wouldn’t be bothered if he worked while I was delivering but I am sure he wouldn’t be able to concentrate for crap, and he does work in the afternoon so he could theoretically go in to work after picking us up from the hospital. I am guessing our first day out of the hospital might be a day I want him home with us. After that, will it really matter to me if he is home that first week or not? All of my family is local and my mom is retired. She has made it perfectly clear that she is more than willing to come over every day to help with anything I need help with (or stay away if that is what I would prefer).
I am thinking I may prefer that he uses the remaining 2-3 days of vacation time one week at a time, so he is off 3 days a week during varying weeks throughout my 6 week maternity leave to keep me from getting bored/stir crazy or to give me a break.
Has anyone done something similar? How did it work for you? Or am I completely bat-shit crazy and it is necessary for him to stay home for the first week with me?
(All of this is assuming I will have a realtively easy/normal vaginal birth. If I have severe tearing or a c-section, I may feel differently, although once again, I will have my mom’s help.)