Post # 1
I respect those of you who don’t believe in them, Im just wondering what your reasoning is behind the hatred for such an event? What is the big deal about them that makes you dislike them so much? My FI is taking off on a weekend guy getaway next month for deep sea fishing, getting sloppy drunk and a shoe show, AKA strip clubbing! My girls are taking me away to the beach for 5 days of crazy girl fun, drinking and clubbing. Am I missing something here? It just sounds like too much fun to pass up!
Post # 3
I think 50% of the women who are opposed to them don’t trust their fiances. The other 50% are just sticks in the mud who don’t want their men to have any fun without them.
That’s probably an exaggeration, but not much.
Post # 4
@ohheavenlyday: LOL. Thems is fightin’ words! …. not with me, but I’m sure with someone around here! I do however have to agree …. trust issues especially, whether it be with the fiance or fiance’s friends (although, I think that still falls under trust issues with Fiance), etc.
I think there’s a big stigma attached to Bachelor parties. It’s the time where your fiance’s allowed (not allowed but does) cheat on you. His last “hurrah” with the guys?
I sure hope it’s not my Fiance’s last “hurrah” because if he’s home every single night of ever single day for the rest of our lives and never goes out with his friends, I might go crazy!
Post # 5
I think some people just have different values and morals.
Post # 6
I don’t think its a trust issue for most of the girls, I think its more the idea that its disrespectful of their relationship.
I’m in the “dont care” camp. The last time FI went to a bachelor party he came home and was like “OMG I made it rain on a stripper” and I was like “Sounds like fun”.
Post # 7
Some people do not like strip clubs in general, for various ideological reasons. I think you could type “strip club” into the search function on this website and get enough material to keep you busy all night. This debate gets posted at least once a week.
Post # 8
I am the “against” primarily b/c I don’t find that kind of fun “fun” anymore or healthy for a unified relationship…
and yes the trust with the friends does play slight part (for me). We don’t drink and FI BM is an alcoholic in denial, & another one of the guys is the kind to go along with whatever the BM suggests.
Just not a scenerio I like.
I think that what society has made of the time (guy time & girl time & the things done) really isn’t good to be taking into a marriage.
I also have a few past issues from my ex-husband (he was incredible defiled when it came to sex & even though i didn’t every thing he wanted he still really made a big deal & ran me down). My FI is incredibly understanding of my heart and holds that to a higher regard than some “party”
We ultimately have found a common ground so there isn’t an issue =)
Post # 9
@LGenz: I don’t get the disrespect fthing. If it were any other night, and him and his buddies went out drinking and stopped by a strip club, is that disrespectful too? Or is is just that night? Purely out of curiosity, not trying to make any attacks.
Post # 10
@ohheavenlyday: How does not wanting a naked woman all over my soon-to-be-husband make me a stick in the mud? I’m all for a guy’s weekend that doesn’t include strip clubs. And I think it’s obvious and justified why somepeople would have issues with strippers being present.
Post # 11
@ohheavenlyday: lol you just opened a can of whoop ass!
I think it has to do with trust issues, insecurities,, jealousy, and respect. I think the first three are bigger issues though. Usually the thoughts are, “What if he cheats on me.” (trust issues) or “what is she’s hotter than me? (insecurity) “Oh, so you like skinny naked girls dancing around?” (jealously)
And that’s okay to feel that way. Also, not all men want to go to strip clubs. To each their own.
Post # 12
I don’t get it either. A lot of times when I see people complaining about them it is because they are either controlling or insecure in their relationship. Some people just don’t care about them. That’s fine! Not every person has to love every tradition!
Post # 13
@Miss Tattoo: Ding, ding, ding. I dont think those are the only reasons though. For some people, it’s a religious or moral thing too.
I have zero problem with drinking, partying, strippers, etc. I dunno. It has just never been a big issue to me. So, DH watched a naked girl dance on a pole… alright, I have too. DH watches porn… BFD, I do too. We’ve also done these things together. As I’ve said in other threads, I trust DH not to cross the line into bad territory. He knows where the boundaries in our relationship lie.
Post # 14
I don’t have an issue with bachelor parties and I personally think it’s kind of silly when women do. If trust is an issue in your relationship, then you shouldn’t be getting married.
Bachelor parties don’t have to consist of strippers and drinking until you black out. Actually, now-a-days they are quite the opposite. Sure you’ll still have the group of guys who find that fun but a lot of men just want to go out and have fun with their friends whether it be going to a baseball game, comedy show, hunting, camping, you get the idea.
I can respect a woman not wanting her FI to go to a strip club (even though I personally don’t have a problem with it) but not allowing them to have any kind of a bachelor party is a little loco if you ask me.
Post # 15
@ohheavenlyday: so either i’m a stick in the mud or don’t trust my FI? i completely disagree and so does my future husband. we each have something called respect for one another and that’s what it boils down to.
ETA: i’m not against bachelor parties all together – just the ones that involve strippers!
Post # 16
I agree 1000%!!!
We must be sisters from another mother!! I’m right there with you. I don’t trust half of my FI friends but that doesn’t mean he’s going to jump on the bandwagon and gangbang a stripper. Truth be told he hates strips clubs. There have been times that I have had to fully convince him to come along with me. I’m not bi or anything like that BUT I have a ton of guy friends that go all the time and I think it’s a blast!