(Closed) What is the difference between a Bridal Shower and a Bachelorette Party?

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Helper bee

@Brickette:  +1 I had to google it when I joined WB!!!!

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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think our American friends have mostly gone to bed, so I’ll try to answer: the bachelorette is just like a hens’ night. The bridal shower is a gift giving party. Unlike the bachelorette/hens party, older women are invited to the bridal shower. Traditionally, the gifts are household-type items for the bride.

I’ve never been to one, but I wouldn’t be surprised if they begin to catch on, like baby showers are.

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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Bridal shower is usually held at a banquet hall, or at someones house, even someones backyard if its warm out. Most women who know the bride(and who are invited to the wedding) will attend, for example: mothers, grandmothers, cousins, friends, coworkers, ect. There are games and often food and dessert. You usually bring a gift from the bride’s registry. 

Bachelorette party is a night out, where you take the bride out one last time as a single lady, have drinks, dance, in some cases people do extreme things like hire a male stripper, order a cake with shapes of male gentitals on it, ect. Usually the bride will go with her bridesmaids and close friends but sometimes the mother and other friends are invited too. I don’t think I would invite my mother to something that could be very inappropriate but some people do! Not everyone does wild things though, some people may just have a relaxing spa day and some drinks.

I think the bridal shower is sometimes a few months before the wedding and the bacherlorette party is usually a week or a few days before.

I am an American but not having either one because of my circumstances (living in the UK, no close friends or family here, bridal showers not common here).

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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Yes, we do bridal showers here in the US, similar to baby showers, where everyone brings the bride gifts from her registry or otherwise. A Bachelorette Party is typically a drunken night of debauchery, never to be spoken of again, whereas a bridal shower is usually a nice afternoon event with fancy hors d’oeuvres. 

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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@missweatherlove:  This is basically the best explanation ever.

I’ve never been to a wedding where people bring actual gifts. Here, people will send gifts in advance or take them to the bridal shower, and then bring a card to the wedding itself.

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Buzzing bee

The bridal shower is what i know as a Kitchen Tea. It may be a european thing, but every single wedding i’ve been to  (in Aus) the bride has had a kitchen tea. There is a gift registry , generally for kitchen items. It’s also a way to incorporate the older generation as they may not always want to take part in the hen’s night.

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

American here!  The bridal shower is the same as a baby shower…it’s a party to “shower” the bride with gifts.  Where I’m from, it’s not uncommon to have MULTIPLE bridal showers…work, family, friends, etc. although the same people are not invited to each unless BP….I actually was “thrown” 3 for my first wedding.

There is generally a “theme” so it could be kitchen, adult, anything.  I was invited to one where the theme was the couple’s HM to Hawaii…so anything they could use for traveling was encouraged.

The bachelorette is the same as the hen’s night.  Although living in England and Germany for some time, I can honestly say that these girls know how to let loose…I swear it seems like the gals enjoy their hen’s night more than the guys enjoy their stag night….that’s polar opposite to all the BP I’ve been to in the U.S.

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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@missweatherlove:  πŸ˜€

@texasbee:  I’m having at least two. I’ve seen ladies on here say that it’s rude to have more than one (???) because everyone is supposed to be together, but sorry, we have HUGE families and nowhere for everyone to be, not to mention that FMIL and FI’s stepmom can’t be anywhere near one another. Stepmom is throwing me one and I’m assuming that my grandma/aunts/FMIL will throw another.

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Buzzing bee

@texasbee:  out of curiosity, how did the ‘theme’ for you HM Shower work? How did you word the invites, what did you do etc? I’ve heard of these themed showers but interested to hear how it actually works! 

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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Nic01:  

@Brickette:  Generally, you don’t throw them yourself, people throw them for you, so if anyone says is poor etiquette to have more than one, they’re crazy. Usually, your family throws you one, then maybe your friends, then maybe your work friends…it just depends on who wants to do it, and if they can get people to show up! 

 

Themes can vary. Most are just typical, all the ladies, bringing kitchen stuff, and what not, but there are others that are a little more creative.

Like a lingerie shower where each person gets some little teddy to give the bride, and it can be as raunchy or classy as the giver wants it to be. 

Or, you can mix it up and be thrown a co-ed shower for you and the groom, and it’s more of a party atmosphere. The gifts are generally stuff he’d like, tools, garden equipment, etc, mixed in with other kitchen stuff. 

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Bridal shower, everyone gets invitied, family, friends. And people wear formal clothes.

bachelorette party, usually only friends, and minimum clothes πŸ˜‰

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