Post # 1
I am not asking this to start a debate about who is a “true christian” or not I am confused. You all/ most have seen my posts about my Catholic/religon issues ( to be or not to be catholic, and Why religion makes me sad…. I don’t know how to link them…)
and today my aunt called me and asked me if i am haveing a “true christain” wedding that my grandmother ( who is now deciesed) would have wanted, because my mom, dad, brother, Mother-In-Law and Father-In-Law are all not True Christians…. I just told her that at this time we have not discussed what denomination we will be getting married under, and when we decide we would let her know. This invited an entire round of soapboxing and i quickly got off the phone.
So since, I have seen the term ” true christian” on the bee , I was wondering…
What exactly is a “true christian”? What denomination is that exactly? What would a wedding / reception entail with that?
I would really like to know. if olny to see where i fall in this entire adventure….
Also i cant find the relgion board so its going in traditions… mods feel free to move.
Post # 3
@imalittlebirdie: Well, I would answer your question this way. Many people may refer to themselves as “Christians,” because they currently do, or previously have, identified themselves with a particular type of Christian church or Christian denomination. These individuals may or may not have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior. They may or may not make decisions in their everyday lives based upon God’s Word.
I believe a true Christian would be one who is not one in name only but one who has a true, deep, heartfelt belief, faith and trust in Jesus Christ and has decided to follow and obey Him.
Where we as individuals sometimes get into trouble is when we try to determine who is and who is not a true Christian just based upon the information that we may have about someone. Although the Bible provides a lot of helpful information regarding how a Christian should live his or her life, and God tells Christians that they will be able to “know” other Christians by their love and by their obedience to His commands, only God truly knows a person’s heart and motives.
Post # 4
@Brielle: I like that answer.
I’ve never heard that term before, ‘true Christian.’ I feel like many times ‘true Christian’ would be used to mean ‘Christian like me,’ which is just judging others, IMO. Christians believe in Christ/follow his teachings, so who’s to say that one denomination (or even particular people within the same denomination) are ‘true’ or better Christians?
Post # 5
Oh this sounds like such a sticky situation. I’m not sure what your aunt may be considering “True Christian”. I think that most Christians believe that a true Christian is someone who truly believes in Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior… They believe that Jesus was the Son of God and also the virgin born son of a woman named Mary. Denominations get to be a little sticky… some might say that one or another group is not truly Christian… But most of the Christians that I know are believe that others can share their Christian faith even if they don’t share the same denomination. For most of us, a denomination helps us know how to follow Christ and tells us who he is… but being a true Christian is a matter of the heart. My friends and family members are Catholic, Lutheran, Brethren, Baptist, Presbyterian, Wesleyan, Methodist, Southern Baptist, and Episcopal and I don’t think that anyone of them would say that only their church contains “true Christians”…rather most of them would tell you that Jesus is the WAY, the TRUTH, and the LIGHT… WE GO TO CHURCH TO LEARN ABOUT HIM…but as people we are human and do make mistakes. I know that within the Catholic church, the Church teaches that they have held the traditions of the Christian faith since the days when Saint Peter, whom they consider the first pope, walked the earth and shared his personal experiences with others about life with Jesus. But within history, there are reasons that different denominations began, and in many cases, the founders of various denominations believed that they needed to follow Jesus more closely than perhaps they felt that they were following as individuals or how they were being taught to follow him within their local region. As I write this note, a quote from a family friend who happens to be Amish about why he chooses to live his life in 18th century style rather than modern ware is that “It’s where he chooses to draw the line…” I don’t think he judges others to be wrong because they live a modern lifestyle, but I believe he believes that God has called him to live in this unique way, and for him to choose to do otherwise would be wrong. In my own life, I teach within one denomination and have grown up and still worship within another. I find myself praying in the traditions of both denominations, but the the unifying fact is that I know that I am praying to God… I guess what I’m trying to tell you is that God will know your heart.
Post # 6
@indibee: I agree. Sounds like she’s just using the wedding as an excuse to gripe about other people’s beliefs and the way they follow them not perfectly aligning with her own.
Post # 7
Brielle, NDBee, and Missbliss: Thank you, I like those answers and they were actually what i was hoping to hear. My Fiance and I have been looking at different denominations to see what “Speaks” to us so to say, because we both want to be unified in a belief system that we BOTH belive in, rather than just as he puts it ” say the hail marys just because your supposed to.”
I think the reason I asked, was because i was wondering if this was going to be YET another fight i was going to have with my family over how me and my future husband will worship. It makes me glad that i did not miss the memo on which one was “true”. lol I think you are right about the “christian like me” sentiment, I am getting that a lot, from allsides….:/
Courtney188: do you mean me? Or my aunt? I hope not me! I’m just trying to learn as much as I can about everything, so Fiance and I can make an informed desison… sorry if i sounded jugemental….
Post # 8
@imalittlebirdie: No, no, I don’t mean you!! I’m sorry if I gave that impression at all, that is the opposite of what I meant to say! I meant your aunt. It seems to me that people I know who throw around the phrase ‘true christian’ like your aunt did are just using it to bash others who don’t interpret and follow religious beliefs exactly as they do.
Post # 9
@Wonderstruck:Exactly. Sort of the ‘holier than thou’ mentality. Just because your butt’s in church each Sunday, you’re no better a Christian than the police officer or doctor that works overnights and can’t attend a church but reads their Bible each day, or the poor person with no means to make it to church or own a Bible but still believes. I think the aunt is just trying to get her jabs in.
@imalittlebirdie:Best of luck for you and your Fiance on your journey to find the right spiritual fit. Don’t take heat from the family to heart. Worship is a very personal thing, and where, how, how often, and what denomination (or non) you guys decide on is none of their business. Judge not, eh? 😉