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As tradition has become more and more skewed these days with regard to the bride's family paying for the whole wedding, I was wondering what all the grooms' families were paying for.
You don't have an option for nothing. Such as the bride and groom are paying for everything. :) That would be my answer, since it's a vow renewal.
My husband's family paid for the rehearsal dinner and our open bar. My parents paid for the reception venue, catering and my wedding dress. My husband and I paid for everything else. We did not take a honeymoon, just a mini-moon.
In addition to the RD, they are paying for a pre-wedding/engagement party at their and FI's home town this weekend. A lot of FI's friends who are financially unable to travel will be there. It was supposed to be a post-wedding/reception...but timing just didn't work out.
They are kind of going all out for the RD, though, incl. doing favors. I'm touched by how excited they are for this.
My in-laws paid for the RD, tuxes, honeymoon, and flowers for the church. They tried to pay for more but my mom got offended and told them she could pay for it all perfectly well, thank you. (FWIW I think they meant well, but they can come across as pushy and stepping on toes.)
His dad pretty much has just given us chunks of money here and there to use as we need to. Our total budget (not incl my engagement ring) is about $19,000 andddd I'd say he has contributed about $4,000 or $4,500. Sooo about 20-25%.
My parents have put about $8,000-$9,000 toward it, sooo about 45% andddd the rest was us.
I guess I should take part in my own poll haha. My FIs parents are paying for the RD, which they have graciously agreed to host at their house, the tuxes, and the flowers, which are about $350.
50/50 for all wedding essentials between my parents and the FI's parent's
$25,000 + $25,000
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His parents have given us 10k, which is going towards the venue, food, and drinks. My parents have bought my dress and are helping with other little expenses. We are paying for everything else...which is a lot, but we are so grateful for everything both sets of parents have given us.
Neither sets of our parents are paying for anything (would have voted A, but went for G instead), and we don't expect them to. We think that the bride's family paying for everything is outdated, and since his parents don't want to shell out anything, we're paying for it all outselves, and quite honestly, we're proud of that. We want the start of our lives together as husband and wife to be completely bankrolled by US. Sure, our budget is tiny ($5000), but we don't need an extravagent affair, so we're not concerned.
We will be involving both families in non-monetary ways -- for example, his aunt will be doing the photography (we hope!), my dad will be doing videography, his mom is going to help with paper products like the guestbook/invites/etc., and I'm sure my mom will be happy to help with the food -- but all of the bills will be paid for by us two.
Rehearsal dinner and possibly day after brunch (or possibly splitting brunch with my parents). Also I think FMIL is getting us a photo booth for our cocktail hour.
They are paying for the food, which will probably be about 50%. My dad is paying for the hall and the alcohol and helped pay for my dress.
As y'all know, my wedding's pretty untraditional. We started out this process saying we'd pay for everything and keep the costs close to $1000 total. That is most definitely not going to happen: We're still keeping OUR costs close to that amount, but family has jumped in in all sorts of ways.
As for Mr. MJ's family specifically? They're paying for the entire reception/picnic. We weren't planning to have one at all, but FMIL graciously offered. I have no idea what the cost of this event will be. It will be at their home, and they have hired a BBQ caterer. With the guest list getting ever larger, I'm sure it will make up a large percentage of total wedding-related expenses. Sorry I can't be more specific than that, but this is a gift to us so I'm not going to be waltzing up to my FILs and asking them how much they've spent. 
They're paying for the rehearsal dinner and as much as they can for open beer/wine for the reception, we don't know how much that is yet. They also contributed some extra money to invite some relatives that we had cut from the guest list.
They are paying for about a third of the wedding costs (not including rings and my dress, or the honeymoon). His parents are well off (as are mine), but they had no idea how much a wedding costs. After talking with my mom, they offered a lump sum of money. We feel very lucky to have both sets of parents funding our big day!
My parents live far away and just cut us a check for their share (about 1/3 of our budget). FILs live close by, so every couple weeks they'll say "Do you need any money for the wedding?" Its pretty nice, but I'm trying not to max them out! So far they've paid for/will pay for the DJ, the reception venue, and the rehearsal dinner.
In all, we will probably pay 1/3 and each set of parents will pay about 1/3.
They paid for the rehearsal dinner and a brunch the day after the wedding at the hotel where most of the guests were staying. They prolly would have contributed more, but we never asked them!
They are paying for the rehearsal dinner and they also contributed money towards the wedding in general.. It was around 40% of the total cost... a very generous contribution!
FMIL is paying for the RD and then a significant chunk of her guests. Really, she's just giving my parents $ and it's going into the budget. She's very generous and we're very grateful.
We paid for everything ourselves as well. Both of our parents offered but we didn't take their money (since we've been working for several years and parents are all in retirement).
My Groom's parents are giving us $10,000 as a (pre) wedding gift to spend how we wish - they said if we want to use some/all of it for the wedding that's fine or if we want to save some/all of it for a down payment on a house etc. then that's fine too. This is their contribution to us and the wedding which we are SO greatful for - they are so generous. We will be using about $3,000 of it towards the wedding and the rest we will save!
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My FI and I are mostly paying for this wedding ourselves. The Groom's father is giving nada to the wedding. He can't afford it and besides he resides with us. His mother and her hubby, however, have kindly given us the same amount of money that they gave their other son for their wedding. We were given a 2K budget for the wedding, $350 for rehearsal dinner, $1K in cash as wedding gift and $1K in gifts. We have unfortunately used the 2K for chair covers and the wedding cake and we used the $350 for the deposit on the photographer.
Although, we have used up our budget my FMIL is insisting to pay for more. She just gave us $200 for our candy station. She wanted that money for just M&Ms BUT I knew I could use that for the entire station. She even said she wants to pay for the centerpieces but we will see.
My FMIL and her hubby have been so kind and so generous. We are always so thankful for them and of course my parents.
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FILs are paying for the RD, the full open bar, and the honeymoon. Sweet deal
I'm not quite sure yet! I know FI's mom has made it clear that his family does very informal rehearsal dinners, with just the wedding party and immediate family. This was honestly a little disappointing, because in my family, rehearsal dinners are pretty formal and pretty much everyone is invited! But its their thing.
They will be paying for our honeymoon, but what FI and I decided on is more of a "mini-moon", though that didn't happen on purpose.
They'll also be giving us an engagement party, which I think a lot of FI's family that won't travel to the wedding will come to. Selfishly, I almost wish FMIL wasn't doing this, because it gives the vast majority of his family members a reason to say, "Well, I already celebrated with them once, no reason to travel to the wedding." We just both want his family to be there on the actual wedding day. Engagement parties in FI's family are also pretty casual, with BBQ and silly themes - one sister had a Valentine's themed party, and the other had a Home & Garden theme since they met working at Lowe's. Not really my style, but I'm sure it will be fun!
My mom and I are working on a rough budget, and she always says, "The groom's family pays for the male attendants attire & bouttenierres, and the bride's bouquet." I honestly don't think his family has a clue about that! My mom is very Southern "Peggy Post"-like, but traditions very so much from family to family and especially depending on the region of the country. I wouldn't feel comfortable asking them to pay for those things if they didn't offer, but my mom just might! 
We'll just have to see!
My husband's parents payed for the rehearsal dinner and gifted us 1k, which we put toward the catering bill. According to my parents and my husband and me, they didn't need to pay for anything, but could contribute to the rehearsal dinner, honeymoon, or catering bill if they wanted. Acording to my ILs, they were supposed to pay for my accessories/jewelry, the officiant fee, and my husband's bout. WTF? We negotiated that if they wanted to contribute money, we'd rather have them pay for the food. :)
Just the RD... I was a little surprised that they didn't offer to help with anything else, as they're quite well-off. His mom also said to him early on, after hearing the total budget, "I hope you're not letting her spend your hard-earned money on things you don't care about." That's even more offensive since we're paying for more than half of it with *my* money - my great-grandparents left my sisters and me some money to help with college, but I got scholarships and didn't use it.
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The whole "tradition" of the bride's family paying for the bulk of the wedding is so antiquated. Back then, the bride's father was essentially paying the groom's family to take her off his hands. Since we don't look at marriage that way anymore, I think it's fair to assume that tradition should probably go away.
With that being said, my fiance is the one who wants the wedding so his parents are paying 50% and fiance and I are paying 50%. My mother is going to pay for my dress.
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My FFIL is paying for the rehearsal, flowers and a jazz trio to play at the cocktail hour. The jazz trio is lead by a family friend though, I'm keeping flowers simple and the rehearsal will be a bbq at my fiance's house .... so we're not asking him to go too crazy. soo appreciative of the help though :) My FMIL gave my fiance 10k for a down payment on a house this year .... so needless to say we're not asking her for ANYTHING for the weeding. :)
Please note we are only have about 22 guests at our wedding.
In-laws are paying for: rehearsal dinner, brunch and BBQ (catered) the day after and gave us $1,000 towards the cost of our wedding bands
My parents are covering: supplies for DIY invites, cake, photographer, officiant, ceremony location, flowers, wedding gown (shoes, veil etc.), reception and their airfare to my in-laws city where the wedding is being held
FI and I are covering: Remainder of wedding bands, limobus transportation for guests from hotel to ceremony location to reception location, tux (purchased not rented), other small details (guestbook, vases, ring bowl etc.), all hotel rooms for out of town guests, and our honeymoon
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My fiance's parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner, and also contributing about $5K to the wedding. It was so nice of them, and of course, we're extrememly appreciative of the offer.
My mom is contributing about $5K as well, and we're paying for the rest ($15K).
We originally wanted a smaller wedding with a $15K total budget, but my mom wanted to invite a lot more people, which is why she offered the $5K. Most of our money was spent on an amazing photographer and a great venue.
Since the groom has practically no family living in this country and able to attend the wedding, the expense breakdown is like this:
Food for bride's family and half of the friend's list: Bride's family pays
Food for groom's family and half of the friend's list: Groom's family pays
Everything else: 50/50
That's the best way we could work it out, such that the groom's family didn't feel forced to contribute so much money when they are inviting the minority of the guests. Although, they originally wanted to split EVERYTHING 50/50; so we are VERY lucky!
The groom is paying for everything including the honeymoon & me paying for my little DIY supplies and what not, since i am still in school. My parents are paying for the photographer & cigar roller and his mother & her husband is contributing to our welcome cocktail party the night before, which we are having instead of the rehersal since we only have two flower girls and a best man in the bridal party & would prefer it go to that.
But I made sure he doesnt go over the budget - although he has managed to hike it from $10K up to $12K, but that's because of guests he added & some additional stuff we have both opted & love!
We are also house shopping soon to expand beyond his present condo in the sky - so we didnt want an over the top expensive wedding.
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We are splitting the wedding day budget evenly into thirds (my parents, his parents, us). However, I think that E and I will spend much more than our ideal 10K with the honeymoon and rehearsal added in there. Oh well...
They actually just gave us a check for $5k and my FMIL is paying for the flower girl dresses (both are her granddaughters). Our total wedding is costing about $14k, but we are using the $5k gift torwards our honeymoon and down payment for our first home!
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They are giving us $10K as a gift to use however we want. It will probably go to the rehearsal dinner, photography, and flowers.
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