Post # 1
I just made an appointment for dress shopping in a few weeks and my mom is flying in from out of town to help me pick a dress. FMIL lives in the city we’ll be shopping in, so I also invited her. I knew it means a lot to her and I would hate for her to feel excluded. I also have 2 bridesmaids in town who are really excited to go shopping with us.
I’m excited to make a day of it with everyone, but my mom mentioned she thinks it may be too many people and I’ll never be able to make a decision. She also wants to have fun and include everyone, but she said her friends have said they found dresses more easily when they just went back to the shop alone with their daughter.
What do you think? When it comes to dress shopping, is it the more the merrier, or do too many shopping companions add up to too many opinions?
Post # 3
I took my mom and my MOH. I wanted a young person there with better style. My mom still wears “Bill Cosby” sweaters LOL!
Post # 4
I think it really depends.
I think the important thing is to have people there that will give you constructive criticism while still respecting what YOU will want. And not what they envision you in.
Does that make sense?
Post # 5
I did the BM thing and the mom thing for the experience, I am glad I did it. In the long run, I picked out my dress alone. I know that there wasn’t the presure to buy something I was unsure of. I found my actual dress at DB in the middle of a weekday. They were really slow so the consultants were awesome about helping me and I think I tried on every dress in the store. I am totally sure that my dress is “my” dress.
Post # 6
I had 5 people, and it was fun! In the end, you have to make your decision…..they’re just there to support you!
Post # 7
I think smaller is better. You really dont want too many opinions or people overpowering your appt. I am taking my mom, FI’s mom and my sister.
Post # 8
I’d stick with going alone.
My mom has some problems, so any sort of clothes shopping with her will probably end up with me in a burlap sack. I’d be surprised if she even wanted to come along, to be honest.
I don’t really have any friends, or none that I’d want to(or could, they’re far away) take with me shopping.
Obvs can’t take FI.
FI’s mom and sister, they would be most likely who I’d end up going with, but my style is so much different from theirs, it wouldn’t work out.
Post # 9
For most of my shopping I just took my mom and that was fine, but for part of it I also took a bridesmaid and it was kind of fun for it to be a 3 person thing 🙂
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2011 - A church in downtown Nashville
It was alot of fun going with my girls, but in the end, I went with my mom and bought my dress alone with her. (Although she didn’t really have any opinions, so it was the same as going by myself.) It’s hard when there’s too many people and sometimes you end up looking at their faces to see what they think rather than allowing your own opinions to form. Maybe you need a big fun trip like this to have the experience together and then you can make the decision on your own later if it becomes overwhelming?
Post # 11
I went with my Mum and BMs and to be honest I found it too much. Second time I just took my Mum and it was much better, much calmer, so I could more of it in.
Post # 12
I took my MOH and 1 BM. Overall, they were pretty supportive because I went to about 8 different bridal stores before deciding on a dress so I know they were tired of going to different stores.
However, ultimately, I was by myself when I actually decided on a dress.
Post # 13
If I had had to make multiple trips, I would’ve spread the love more. But my mom was in town for the weekend, and we found the dress the first day, so that was that. I went back with a friend to try it on again and place my order, then brought FMIL when MY dress came in to see it. My first alterations appointment I did alone, and then my mom will be back in town when I go to see how the alterations look. It worked for me to only bring one person at a time. I think it depends on your dynamic though. I was shoe shopping with my mom, best friend and sister once, and my mom showed me cute but odd shoes, my friend thought I had chosen them and teased me about how awful they were, and then got my sister to support her assessment. So I wouldn’t have wanted all three of them when I was choosing a wedding dress, even though they obviously would’ve been more supportive.
Post # 14
it depends on your personality and who understands your style the most. I went with just 1 person I could have gone with more but while they were my friends I dont think they get my style enough and would not give the feedback I needed.
Post # 15
I had my mom, my sister and another bridesmaid go with the first time. Then I went by myself a couple of times. The last time I went I had my mom, sister, and bridesmaid with me again. I think it’s a good idea especially if you plan to go several times to go with people and go yourself too. It was two different experiences for me, but I’m glad I did both.
Post # 16
It really does depend on your personality. My “round one” experience was with my MOH (and her newborn baby – but she was a dream!) and my mom. The second was with the above mentioned ladies and my FMIL. While it was nice to have her there, her and I don’t have the same sense of style, which my MOH and mom just knew.
– do not shop with someone who is planning a wedding (literally) or thinking about her future wedding day, that person, bless her, just won’t have your best intentions at heart as she will be planning her own day in her head.
– the more people = the more opinions. If you can’t handle 10 different opinions, then don’t bring 10 girls. It’s fairly simple math 🙂 I personally can’t handle everyone making their opinions known, I like the quiet, so I would say, the less, the better!