Post # 1
I was wondering if anyone has suggestions on what not to gift your bridesmaids. Not trying to bash anyone’s choice, I was just curious if any Bees have recieved bridesmaids gifts that ended up never being used.
Post # 3
Jewlery that was meant to be worn with the BM dress. Wore it for the wedding because I was pretty much being told to, and never again because it wasn’t my taste.
Post # 4
I second what she said. I like to think of BM gifts as a thank you present. Since I wouldn’t give something I’m asking someone to wear something, as they are doing me the favor, I have never thought jewelry to be a gift. I’m different from most though.
Post # 5
I got a really nice fluffy robe once, that I never wore again….I am just not a robe wearing kind of girl.
Post # 6
Hmm, that is interesting! I always thought jewelry was a standard gift. I could see how it isn’t really a gift though if it is just going along with how the bride want her bms to look for her wedding.
Post # 7
I second the jewelry, and lotion. I get lotion at least once or twice a year, and I never use the ones that smell. I got my bridesmaids baskets with various beers and wines from World Market. I think they liked it.
Post # 8
I’ve been given jewelry multiple times as a bridesmaid. Some I wore on the wedding day, others I never did! Jewelry is hard because it’s a very personal gift.
I MIGHT give my girls jewelry but I wouldn’t give them all the same thing. I’d pick different things to match their tastes.
Post # 9
Jewerly! I’ve never worn any of it again! That’s why I’m not giving my bm’s jewerly.
Instead they are getting a tote, makeup bag, yummy wine, and a Willow Tree figurine (okay not useful but I picked out special ones for each so they are sentimental).
Post # 10
I got a t-shirt in the color with “Bridesmaid” be-dazzled on the front. It was really cute for the day-before pampering when we all matched, but now it just sits in my drawer because I have no reason to wear it (or desire to) and yet I would feel bad just pitching it.
Post # 11
A basket of scented lotions and bath fizz– I can’t use that stuff because of allergies/asthma.
One friend got bridesmaid jewelry that she was supposed to wear for the wedding, but was given pierced earrings and she doesn’t have pierced ears.
Post # 12
Least useful (from a gift perspective): jewelry to be worn at the wedding… ditto for matching clutch to be used at the wedding. ETA: it’s also what’s most typically given, IMO
Most useful: a mini leatherman with my initial engraved in it (best wedding party gift ever!)
Post # 13
I got jewelry, really cheap jewelry that turned my skin green.
I’ll be giving my BMs jewelry, but that won’t be the gift. I plan on getting them monogrammed tote bags and I’ll fill them with things they each like (not sure of what yet).
Post # 14
I’ve only been in one wedding and I got a necklace. It was very simple and nice so I’ve actually worn it since then (I did wear it at the wedding but I don’t think it was meant to be our wedding day jewelry necessarily). So I guess I liked the jewelry I got.
Funny enough, I ended up getting my BM some jewelry! It’s not really meant to be worn at the wedding (I don’t really care what jewelry they choose to wear-or not). I think they are classic/simple enough (necklaces) that they will like them. I was trying to think of something they could actually keep, and that is one of the only things I could come up with. I could see how it could easily go wrong if it’s not their style though. I have 2 that are one kind and 3 of a different kind.
I was thinking I might also get them some wine or maybe a gift card (restaurant).
Ugh it’s really hard for me to shop for these kind of things!
Post # 15
Those tiny little manicure sets that are super cheap are the worst. I’m not snobby about my nail clippers, but those things don’t even work! Just save the few bucks and buy a card or something!
Post # 16
If the bride picks out different jewelry for each bridesmaids based on her likes/dislike, then hell yeah, jewelry is a great gift! I got a beautiful necklace that I loved and wear constantly because the bride in question didn’t care if we matched and wanted us to love the gift.
Least useful? Probably the embroidered handkerchief (for tears of joy, she said) one bride gave to us. Sure it was beautiful but…really? I’m 27. I don’t carry around handkerchiefs and have less than zero need for one. Also, anything with my name on it ALONG with “bridesmaid” or “maid of honor” or any kind of title. Only relevant for 1 day.