(Closed) What is the most useful advice you ever received while planning your wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
Hostess
3371 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think the most helpful thing for me so far has been FI’s aunt’s suggestion of a dessert reception. I found it was going to be WAY cheaper and heck, how fun?! Who doesn’t like dessert? 🙂

Post # 4
Member
1460 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

The most useful bit of advice I was ever given was to elope.  I took that advice.  🙂

Post # 5
Member
3145 posts
Sugar bee

I worked with a photographer at her day job. She told me that one of the best pieces of advice she can give is to have a go to person other than yourself on your wedding day to handle anything that may arise. You’ll be much too busy that day to deal with the small details.

Post # 6
Member
12816 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Invest in some good wine.

But really, my advice is to over-budget on everything.  Don’t pick your attendants until 6-8 months out.  Don’t count on anyone else’s help, but be grateful when you receive it.  Remember that in the end, the point is marrying your best friend, and no one is going to remember the tiny details – they’ll remember your happiness.

Post # 7
Member
3830 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I live by “A wedding is a party, not a performance. If at the end of the day you are married to the one you love, then everything was perfect”

Post # 8
Member
817 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo

I shared this elsewhere, but I got an email from my dad the other day saying this: “I know this is impossible advice for any bride but try to relax about the whole thing and don’t worry about anything you can’t control–which would include other humans. The best wedding you’ll ever attend is the one after your own–because you have no responsibilities and can just enjoy yourself but you know just how much of a hassle others are enduring. Relax. It will all work out fine and those aspects which don’t work out will become things you’ll laugh about in the future. I know this because I am, after all, the guy who arose on his wedding day and promptly puked down the staircase of the best man and his girlfriend. (And they are still our best friends.)”

I’m ~6 weeks out and have been ever so slightly stressed (like, I’m a 12 on a 1-10 scale). This was awesome to get in my inbox.

Post # 9
Member
1936 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

“No one cares about your wedding as much as you do.”

It might be harsh, but it helps me remember that people won’t notice every little detail  us brides obsess over… such as a shade of silver, or if we have raised calligraphy on our place settings. 

 

Post # 10
Member
499 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Trust the professionals to deliver on what you want, that’s their job and they do these things CONSTANTLY. Don’t focus on too many of the small details- like the “perfect” color pink rose YOU MUST have for your bouquet- nobody remembers that stuff.

Post # 11
Member
8697 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@BlondeBee:  I would agree with that. 

Also, other good advice I got was to take a break. That’s proving hard to do.

Post # 12
Member
2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Keep your budget up to date. It is a living, breathing document, not something you do at the beginning of the process, start spending, and then come back 2 weeks before the wedding and see how much you have left.

Some things were more expensive than I expected, some were much less expensive, but either way – I always have a very clear picture of where we’re at on finances. The money aspect can be seriously stressful, and always knowing where it is at will keep you sane on that. You can make decisions more easily when you know how the budget is doing.

Post # 13
Member
3417 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

Just have fun. Things go wrong, thats a part of life so its bound to happen at your wedding.  If at the end of the day I am married to the love of my life than it was a successful wedding day.

Post # 14
Member
408 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Set a budget that’s realistic, and stick to it.

Remember, no one is going to leave because your flowers aren’t the exact same shade of pink as the invitations. (Actually, my mantra for the week before my wedding was “Is anyone going to leave because _______?  No?  Then I don’t care.)

Post # 15
Member
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

It’s something small, but I’m so glad I did it. Create a separate email account for wedding stuff only. I get so many (mostly junk) wedding emails, I’m glad it’s not clogging up my regular email address. Also I like that all my vendors only contact me through that email.

Post # 16
Member
2448 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

The only theme you should have for a wedding is “wedding”. If you want a theme,throw a costume party.

– said by my gracious wedding stylist as I agonized over wedding colors

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