Post # 1
So obviously various aspects of planning are hard/stressful. But at this point in your planning what is the one thing you’ve obsessed about/are obsessing about?
For me it’s the photographer. Yeah we’re a little over a year out from the wedding but I’m super glad I’ve started looking now. I didn’t realize I had champagne tastes with a beer budget. I found a photographer I love but his base price is already several thousand dollars out of my budget. Several on my friends have recommended various “affordable” studios but most of them have starting prices are $3000 which is NOT in our budget as a base price. At $3000 they better be planning my wedding, taking the photos, and feeding me strawberries. Other friends keep saying they honestly can’t tell the different from one photographer to the next.
I’m a sucker for Fine Art, Avant Garde, and Modern photography but those comes with a hefty price. We’ve entered a contest to win a free photographer and we’re in second place but the first place holder has pulled some ninja moves and is like 650 votes ahead of us.
lol So yeah this is my current wedding obsession.
Post # 3
Choosing the music… We are doing an iPod reception and I want (no actually NEED) the perfect music…
Also still stuck for toss music and cake music… *sigh*
Post # 4
It’s the worst isn’t it?
I frequently have these moments where I think “I’m being silly” but then this crazy lady breaks through and starts screaming, ” I MUST EMAIL ALL PHOTOGRAPHERS IN THE U.S. WITHIN THE NEXT 30 MINUTES!”
Post # 5
Right now it’s budget/guestlist/caterer and trying to get Fiance to understand why I’m freaking out and wishing we had just agreed to have a dozen people at the courthouse…
Post # 6
Right now it’s our engagement photos, which are in a couple weeks. I think my Fiance is surprised just how much thought I have put into them already (picking out my outfits, buying some new makeup). I keep telling myself to calm down because my expectations for the photos are getting SO high!
Post # 7
SHOES! More than anything else at all, the shoe thing has been my plague.
Mmm, and music too, that one has been hard. Really, really hard. I have my aisle song, and the father/daughter dance song, and so far I’m stuck on the rest.
Post # 8
@Take The Reins:
This is what I thought of when you posted shoes!
It’s really crazy the things we’ll do to have a nice wedding AND not spend that much(at least in my case)
For this photography contest we’ve entered I’m pretty sure I’ve posted the link in every single place that we could legally post it. I even considered spending $25 to buy a facebook ad with the link and our names for a day.
lol That is when I stopped and just shut the computer off. I thought, “Oh wow I just went mega crazy scary there for a minute.”
Post # 9
I would have to say my budget has been what I have been obsessed with.
Post # 10
shoes has been the biggest pain in the ass for me. i finally got it out of the way last week and i’m so relieved!
the one thing i haven’t stopped worrying about (and i won’t stop worrying until my wedding day) is the guest list and staying within budget.
Post # 11
The venue! My fiance and I are going to have only one chance to view our list of potentival venues in person before we’re going to have to commit. There’s one we really love and were planning to book on our trip to view venues if it lived up to our expectations, but then my mom started having a fit and insisted we wouldn’t book until after our trip and showing her pictures and talking it over with her.
She’s convinced that it’s too far to drive my gown and the wedding paraphenalia. Mr. C keeps coming up with logical solutions including suggesting driving my gown in the back of an SUV where it can have plenty of room and renting a storage unit near our venue for the wedding paraphenalia, but my mom insists it’s going to be a disaster and is making this really stressful.
The hardest thing is that our top venue choice is the closest thing we can afford to my dream venue. So I sort of feel like I’ve already had to compromise and my mother is taking my dream even further away.
I’m a total wreck at the moment because if we love the venue, my mother will go ballistic and be very difficult. I’m afraid that she’ll make it impossible to enjoy. And if we don’t pick it, I’ll always wonder how much she influenced the decision and she’ll probably do an “I told you so.”
So, um yeah, big insane venue obsessing at the moment!
Post # 12
Shoes and I dont know why, I’m not really a shoe person in normal life. I’ve already returned 3 pairs on Amazon! I feel more confident in the thousands of dollars I’m spending on vendors than $75 shoes, its weird.
Post # 13
My first obsession was an arch. Our ceremony is in the middle of a field and the venue didn’t come with a nice-looking arch. I became soooo obsessed with NEEDING an amazing arch. I actually ended up rearranging the budget to get one because I realized how important it is to me (but honestly, the reasonable part of my brain is still kicking myself about this– is it *really* that important?)
Now, my obsession is figuring out jewelry. I’m not a big jewelry person in regular life, so maybe that’s why I’m having such a hard time with it. I’ve bought multiple pieces of jewelry and returned them and am CONSTANTLY changing my mind about the whole look.
Other than that, I didn’t dwell too much on any other decisions, even ones I thought might be tougher.
Post # 14
I don’t know if its obsession…more like scared! Worried that my dress will come in and not fit :=/
Post # 15
Centerpieces and dieting and I’m failing miserably with both!
Post # 16
Wedding invitations. They need to be DONE in the next two weeks and I can’t even get my Mother-In-Law to give me a head count much less the actual list.